To think there's no such thing as a low sex drive?

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There's just bad sex?

Obviously not including issues of having young kids/work making you tireder, surely if you are having good sex, you are going to want it all the time?

With my ex I barely wanted sex, and told myself it was just that I had a low sex drive. Now with my new partner I realise it was just that the sex with my ex wasn't very good.

Aibu to think that naturally low sex drives don't exist, it's just bad sex or bad relationships?

There is low sex drive! I changed birth control and totally lost my sex drive. Wasn't interested in DH and rarely thought about sex. Just no interest. Now I've changed pills and DH and I are having sex regularly and I'm thinking about sex a lot more.

Of course there is.

But that's not a natural low sex drive, that was caused by hormones being added to your system. The fact that your sex drive bounced back proves my point that your sec drive was never naturally low

As someone else said birth control can affect your sex drive, it affects mine greatly

Of course there is. What a silly post.

YABU. Yes there is. Medically , hormonally, or psychologically low and high sex drives all exist.

what about medical reasons for reduced sex drive, like lower testosterone levels in men? Do you not believe in those?

Of course there is, but there is likely to be an underlying r

Have you conducted extensive peer reviewed research to come to that conclusion op.....or did you just mske it up?

YABU. Of course it exists.

If you've got a new partner you're probably going through the whole 'it's all new and exciting' thing (lasts about a year), so of course you want to do it all the time.

Underlying reason like low testosterone levels in men or women. Women eho are given testosterone find they have a higher sex drive.

Antidepressants and all sorts of other things can cause low sex drive. That's different from not being interested in sex because you don't enjoy it.

How new is "new partner"?

I ask because in my long term relationships sex was far more frequent during the first couple of years before it would settle down to a more sustainable level.

Also, what do you call high/low in terms of frequency?

Ill thought out post, based on no evidence.

So your two man experience talks for every other person on the planet?

Daft, goady post.

YABU. You haven't the first clue what you're talking about.

How ridiculous of you to think that!

Of course there is.
Breastfeeding gives many people a low sex drive.

Thanks for imparting that amazing piece of knowledge based on the robust sample size of two

A naturally occurring imbalance of hormone levels, causing a low sex drive, is a natural occurrence.

ie: naturally low sex drive.

I think you are confusing 'natural' with 'normal' or 'average', OP.

With my ex I barely wanted sex, and told myself it was just that I had a low sex drive. Now with my new partner I realise it was just that the sex with my ex wasn't very good.

There is research that shows that women's sex drive tends to decrease the longer they've been with one partner and automatically increases if they get a new one. (The same is not true for men.) You need to factor that in.

Here's a link to a Daily Mail article which in turn mentions the research.

A happy, healthy relationship and sex life are all very well, but when it comes to measuring a woman's sexual desire, all scientists really need to know is how long a couple has been together.

Women's sex drives gradually ebb over time, say the authors of a new study, while a man's stays at around the same level.

In fact, on a desirability scale, women's yearnings decreased steadily with every passing month of a relationship, making it possible to gauge a woman's sex drive just by looking at a union's duration.

Read more: www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2095155/How-womans-sex-drive-declines-time--mans-stays-strong-ever.html#ixzz38H093B6y

Btw, we all love sex more with a new partner. I am glad you are enjoying yourself :)

When I first met dh we were at it like rabbits nine years later not so much ! Sex isn't any worse its just the newness and excitement of a new relationship has long worn off .

A non-Daily-Mail link to a similar article, for those who prefer that.

www.livescience.com/18233-women-lose-sexual-desire.html

Do you think all people have the same appetites and abilities too?