AIBU not to be offended by being called a 'cool wife'

[PiperRose]

discounting the fact that I am not and in no way a wife AIBU to think that this label, which is so often bandied around here as an insult, isn't that much of an insult.

True. But it is more than that.
I am not sure if people are taking the mick here.

Settings...the average marriage lasts 7 years. So probably more like two things sticky taped together.

I am not taking the mick. I promise, I don't understand what you meant. I'm asking you to explain. My 'heart of hearts' clearly has a lower IQ than yours.

I think setting may be describing marriage from a religious viewpoint.

Setting, is that the case?

Well some people need to put a legal rubber stamp on their relationship, some don't. I don't think the rubber stamp says anything about the intrinsic quality of that relationship. I really can't imagine that if I married DP tomorrow suddenly our relationship would be different or more meaningful.

Setting, do you mean Christian marriage?

Yes.

Being married is about being one flesh?
Wut?

Is one flesh not just shagging though?

Ah.

Well, we will never really understand each other then.

DP's flesh is actually much nicer than mine; considerably firmer and more tanned.

Our marriage wasn't a Christian marriage.

We had vows that said "I promise to respect you and cherish you as an individual" as part of the vows you could choose from the list provided.

Nothing about being 'one flesh'.

Ah, Ok settingsitting. I really have no truck with what you believe, well certainly not one I'm going to air on this occasion! If marriage falls into whatever mindset/religion/fairy story you chose to be part of that's fine.

It doesn't give you the right to look down on other peoples relationships as less validated than yours because they don't believe the same thing.

And actually I'm just on the way to the hospital, I'll ask them to scan for more than one heart, who knows, I may be Gallifreyan! . (sorry that was taking the mick a bit)

I seem to have opened my own can of worms!

I don't want to be my DPs flesh, thanks. Especially his manky feet.

I do and maybe that is the difference.

*Is one flesh not just shagging though?

No!

Marriage is trying for a lifetime. It is a leap of faith. Living together is not. It is hedging bets.

pictish, you went into it for life. That is the difference.

PiperRose. Hope that you are ok.

Ours was a registry office do btw - so fairly standard fare.

And what makes you think Piper hasn't?

settingsitting The manky feet thing? You can get cream for that.

Religion, I fear is not so easily cured.

Oh I'm fine thanks, just a broken bone. Off to have my (in no way fetching at all) cast off. Thanks for asking.

"Marriage is trying for a lifetime. It is a leap of faith. Living together is not. It is hedging bets."

Have you any idea how insulting that statement is?

God, Christians can be arrogant gits.

I actually think a mortgage together is more of a commitment than a marriage these days, with divorce rates being what they are.
Ever tried to get out of paying the mortgage?