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Original poster

To think that at a buffet you can take as much as you want

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 18:17

Went out today with dsis. We were starving by lunchtime and there was a huge buffet where we went (hotel), it was included in the price so we took loads as were hungry.
Noticed a couple of women really staring as we loaded our plates up and also when we took lots of the mini desserts and as we walked past one loudly said " I can't believe they are actually going to eat all that"
They kept staring at us and giving us funny looks.

Made me wonder if we really did take too much, surely as we had paid and were hungry it was ok ? I felt a bit judged as they clearly thought we were greedy

OP posts:
Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 22:04

Some posters here are sensible- you know who you are Smile

Others are just rude and judgemental.
C'mon , I would be repulsed

On what someone else is eating? You need to fill your time with something interesting me thinks.

WorraLiberty · 20/07/2014 22:04

I'm waiting for tomorrow's "Why am I shitting through the eye of a needle?" thread Grin

Original poster
Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 22:07

Standwell and worra Grin hopefully neither of those will happen !!!

OP posts:
TheBogQueen · 20/07/2014 22:10

I would be judgemental
I would think you were greedy and rude

That's the honest truth

beijaflor · 20/07/2014 22:10

It makes no odds how much food you took in the buffet - as you say you were depriving no one. Or how much food you might order at a table-service restaurant. Or how many pastries you put away in a café.

It far, far ruder still to comment on what other diners are eating, or to stare at them, or to pass sotto voce judgy comments.

The other diners were shockingly rude, and you would be well within your rights to rest your chin on one hand and staaaaaare at them, all the while describing to your Dsis the size of the stick that must be shoved up their arses.

Pumpkinpositive · 20/07/2014 22:14

Rubbish. I'm on, I'd say, probably about 1000 calories a day. I don't eat meals. But on occassion, I can eat a full roast dinner and pudding, plus coffee and maybe cheese to boot.

So could I. But that isn't even in the same league as what was described.

Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 22:14

Yes yes beija

Read this OP.

Read it over and over again. Smile

Banderwassnatched · 20/07/2014 22:17

*It far, far ruder still to comment on what other diners are eating, or to stare at them, or to pass sotto voce judgy comments.

The other diners were shockingly rude, and you would be well within your rights to rest your chin on one hand and staaaaaare at them, all the while describing to your Dsis the size of the stick that must be shoved up their arses.*

Exactly!!

nippysweetie82 · 20/07/2014 22:23

Have you got worms?!

Seriously though, what you eat is your business. I always eat loads at buffets too but being veggie it's usually healthy food and I just go up a few times to fill my plate. Other people were probably sitting there wishing they had the guts to load their plates the way you did!

TheBogQueen · 20/07/2014 22:32

It's greed.

You could always go back and get more good if you were still hungry but piling plates is rude no matter how hungry you were.

No wonder the other diners were staring!

Serenitysutton · 20/07/2014 22:33

Oh FfS everyone has a little binge every so often. Today I have eaten a roast dinner, 4 cups of tea, a bowl of Ben &jerrys, a jumbo bag of nik naks, a bag of round trees pick & mix, a bag of chocolate caramels and a bag of jelly beans (share size)
Am still peckish so might get some cheese. I will confirm tomorrow I haven't had a heart attack or experience BODY SHOCK

BrianButterfield · 20/07/2014 22:36

Disgusting, serenity. You've eaten in 24 hours what it would take an abstemious person like me 36 hours to get through. You might put on a pound in 20 years time and then you'll be sorry.

Serenitysutton · 20/07/2014 22:38

I will look at my fat thighs and think that's what happened to thoSe chocolate caramels I consumed on Sunday 20th July 2014. Those disordered eating mad people on MN were right after all!

Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 22:42

bogqueen

The OP is not the rude one here.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 20/07/2014 22:44

Bog seriously what the flying rats gonad does it have to do with you?

Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 22:46

Said better than me by sharon

Grin
sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 20/07/2014 22:52

God strewth anyone who gets 'judgy' about fucking food other people put on their plate has either had a charmed life or is a fuckwitted sticky beak. Just saying.

almondcakes · 20/07/2014 22:52

OP, YANBU.

  1. I would only go to a buffet if I was hungry enough to eat loads.
  2. I love bread. And cake.
  3. I am not fat.
  4. I see no point in going up multiple times if you are there herding small children. far easier to go up once and get loads.
  5. It is rude to point out things you don't like about strangers in a public place.
  6. I have seen some truly terrible scenes at the Pizza Hut buffet. I will never return there. You were just getting food quietly. No big deal.
Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 23:00

My best friend is a large lady. A very large lady as in size 32 clothes.
She gets stares and head turns wherever we go.Sad

She has learnt to still live her life and lives it to the fullest. She doesn't embrace gluttony when we eat out, but I would sincerely hope never to bump into some of you in the restaurant.
God forbid she should go up for seconds,I'm sure her plate would be scrutinised and she would be vilified for her weight. After all she must be sooo greedy right?
Actually, it's a medical reason.

Let's hope that when we next eat out,other diners are actually busy with their own meal/kids/companions/lives and not judging what others eat.
Or even feeling the need to pass comment. Angry

slithytove · 20/07/2014 23:01

Very good point almond, what on earth is the point of paying for a buffet to eat a lettuce leaf??

Buffet = fill your boots

AgentProvocateur · 20/07/2014 23:04

Bad manners to take so much - equally bad manners to comment.

Ericaequites · 20/07/2014 23:28

I'm an American. It's not bad manners to eat lots at a buffet, but it is tacky to put things in one's purse for later. Buffets here are full of large people ingesting unwise amounts if food. That's rather the point, isn't it?

MyFairyKing · 20/07/2014 23:48

I don't give a crap about how much you ate but how on earth did you carry it all? How many plates did you use?

beijaflor · 20/07/2014 23:51

It is not equally bad manner to comment. Commenting or staring disapprovingly makes another human being feel awful about themselves, which was surely the intent. That's pretty much the cardinal sin of poor manners.

LiegeAndLief · 20/07/2014 23:57

I don't think I have ever failed to read a food thread on here without my mouth hanging open. The hype! The horror! The predictions of an early death! OP, I hope you will never eat veg sticks and humus as a snack again, because clearly it is A Lunch. But not A Dinner.

YANBU to eat as much as you like. YW probably a little U to carry several plates back to your table at once - I have never seen anyone do that at a buffet and would probably have looked, but would probably have been wondering how you were carrying them rather than gleefully imagining your visceral fat.