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To think that at a buffet you can take as much as you want

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 18:17

Went out today with dsis. We were starving by lunchtime and there was a huge buffet where we went (hotel), it was included in the price so we took loads as were hungry.
Noticed a couple of women really staring as we loaded our plates up and also when we took lots of the mini desserts and as we walked past one loudly said " I can't believe they are actually going to eat all that"
They kept staring at us and giving us funny looks.

Made me wonder if we really did take too much, surely as we had paid and were hungry it was ok ? I felt a bit judged as they clearly thought we were greedy

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BrianButterfield · 20/07/2014 21:16

Beautifully, I'm with you. That doesn't count as binge eating to me - that's when people shovel in packets of biscuits with no joy or even tasting them. Having a big meal at a buffet, when it's all nicely presented and made for you is one of the joys of life!

I can also say I don't know anyone who eats as little as people claim to on MN. Certainly nobody who thinks fruit and eggs for breakfast is a total extravagance.

Bogeyface · 20/07/2014 21:17

FFS, she paid for it, she ate it. What is the problem?

It wouldnt matter if she was 8 stone of 28 stone (apart from the fact that the judgey pants women would have been even worse), as long as she didnt clear out the buffet, didnt leave mounds of wasted food and paid the required price.

Yes it is a lot of food but so what? My BF is a skinny size 8 and can pack away three times what I can eat, and I am (almost!) a 14. I am working really hard to lose weight, she can eat anything in any quantity and still be skinny. Do I judge her? No, envy her but not judge!

Bogeyface · 20/07/2014 21:18

or not of

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 21:19

I do eat lots, I'm always hungry but today admittedly I did actually eat more than usual. I've always felt hungry and eaten a lot. It did get to the point a few months ago where iwas eating a lot of unhealthy stuff cakes etc but I changed that.
I do snack a lot as get hungry in between meals. As a child I ate a lot too.

I didn't actually expect to get a comment. I knewid taken a lot but I was hungry and it was a treat. I would not have said anything to the women concerned if it had been the other way round.

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phantomnamechanger · 20/07/2014 21:20

agree that hummus and veg is NOT a whole meal - even for a lunch I would have crackers or a pitta with it, plus a piece of fruit and maybe a biscuit/flapjack

just a yogurt for breakfast would have my stomach rumbling all day - even the DC have fruit AND yogurt AND toast or teacake or a brioche or something. They will easily eat 2 egg on 2 toast and still have the fruit or yogurt. They are all very slim.

just as an aside - I am amazed that OP knows the heights and weights of all her family members (sis, mum, gran) - is this normal? Aside from my own DC when they were younger I would have no idea of exact heights and weights probably not within a stone accuracy!

HercShipwright · 20/07/2014 21:22

Slithy veg sticks and hummus is a lunch. It's not a dinner, of course, unless you had a LOT of hummus, but it's not a snack either. Obviously if you just had a teensy speck of hummus and two carrots then that's not a lunch. But I'm guessing that isn't what the OP means. And many vegetarians and vegans eat hummus and veg sticks as one of their daily meals - it's quick, easy, includes protein and can actually be found in mainstream places.

Omelettes can be many things, it really depends how many eggs are included, what else is chucked in there, and whether loads of extra stuff is used to help make it more yummy (as DS would say). The omelettes he cooks are not healthy. The ones that DD1 cooks are probably pretty healthy.

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 21:22

DM always used to measure us till we stopped growing, the pencil lines are still on her wall! She wanted to see at what age we got to the same height as her! I know all birth weights of all family members too as DM always went on about it !

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DontstepontheMomeRaths · 20/07/2014 21:23

If I had yogurt and some nuts for breakfast I'd be starving by lunch. I need something like porridge to keep me going and then I don't snack mid morning.

Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 21:23

Several posters inquired about the OP's weight. Maybe if she was overweight she would have got a good telling off diet advice.

Oh wait, she got that already.

Who gets to make the rules about how much an adult is allowed to eat at a buffet they paid for.
It doesn't seem that the restaurant staff mentioned anything- so it seems that the OP actually left some food for others to eat

BrianButterfield · 20/07/2014 21:23

Hummus and veg is what I'd eat while trying to decide what to have as a snack.

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 21:24

Its one of those mini pots you get in a three pack of hummus from sainsburys. For omelette it is two eggs and usually some spinach and ham.

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usualsuspectt · 20/07/2014 21:24

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Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 21:26

Yes, yes Bogey

Hear bloody hear Smile

BrianButterfield · 20/07/2014 21:26

You don't need to keep justifying your diet, OP. I think anything more than dust will be picked apart as gluttonous, the way this thread is going.

HercShipwright · 20/07/2014 21:26

Slithy I would only have a banana for brekker if no toast was available. As I said, many vegetarians and vegans have hummus and veg for lunch, it's a very good lunch.

I expect I don't eat an excessively healthy diet because I eat loads of toast and have a fondness for chips and apparently carbs are the worst thing in the world (I disagree though) but on the other hand I do run (half) marathons and have been vegan for more than 30 years so I think that in fact I do have a pretty good idea of what constitutes healthy eating - you can't be vegan for that long, do as much exercise as I do, and have 3 DCs without having a fairly healthy diet. You'd die. I am not dead.

Banderwassnatched · 20/07/2014 21:27

I have an ED and this thread is horrible reading. I wouldn't dream of staring at someone because of how much they were eating- it's none of my business. And now people are sitting in judgement of what others eat- brilliant for an anxiety-free meal. Having read this, I'm not sure I'll risk a buffet again.

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 21:29

Thank you, I just think it is a healthy diet! And I feel so much better in recent months after changing from tea, cake and choc for energy to more protein,nuts for snacks etc .

The food today was delicious though a real treat and apart from that one comment I had a lovely day.

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 20/07/2014 21:31

I think it's quite a bit of food - but that's up to you

I'm not very keen on buffet/all you can eat things as I think they're a bit grabby. However, if I saw you, I'd just thing genuinely that you didn't get out much so were (a) really enjoying it and (b) a bit over-excited by the whole thing

I couldn't care less if you had 10 creme brulees as I would just expect then to be replenished. I'm not there as a food monitor

The comments about your DD are unfair. She wasn't there and I presume that you don't eat 4 creme brulees in front of her in one sitting at home.

There appears to be a lot of perfect parents on MN who would never behave differently when not with their children. I assume they are the people who never have more than one drink whilst out - even if they are away for the weekend with out DC. Frankly, they sound rather tiresome so am very pleased I've never met anyone like that in real life

bauhausfan · 20/07/2014 21:34

I have never, ever noticed what other people are eating in a buffet! Why would you? i am busy eating and chatting, like most other normal people. This thread is full of judgey madness. I couldn't give a shit how much/what other people eat and 99% of the population are the same. Sometimes I wonder if MN creates the same atmosphere that you get in girls' boarding schools - all ultra competitive and eating disorders. You only have to read any thread on reading levels of people's DC or food issues to see how fucked up it all is.

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Edenviolet · 20/07/2014 21:34

Actually, I probably was a bit over excited Blush it was a big deal to go out for a treat and have a bit of a break from everything.

At home dd usually eats a very similar healthy diet to me but with a few more carbs (toast for breakfast etc). I don't really understand her relevance to this thread either.

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StealthPolarBear · 20/07/2014 21:34

Half an egg omelette??? Oh come on!
And carrot sticks with a teaspoon of houmous is not lunch.
Though I suppose I regularly have salad plus a little cheese plus houmous for dinner. Huge bowl of salad tho

slithytove · 20/07/2014 21:35

Veg sticks and hummus is not a lunch.

It's not a meal at all. It's a snack at best.

Beautifullymixed · 20/07/2014 21:35

Bander don't stop eating out, it's definitely one of life's small pleasures.

Not everyone will be watching what you eat.

Not everyone will be judging your portion sizes.

And not everyone would be so rude as to even dream of commenting.

I'm sure there are plenty of us around.

Banderwassnatched · 20/07/2014 21:37

*Not everyone will be watching what you eat.

Not everyone will be judging your portion sizes.

And not everyone would be so rude as to even dream of commenting.

I'm sure there are plenty of us around.*

Cheers m'dear Thanks

EatShitDerek · 20/07/2014 21:37

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