to help get over my fear of ghost's

[emms1981]

I've been reading the spooky posts on here. Knew it was a bad idea but keep getting drawn to it. I find the stories very interesting but also scary.
I've never seen a ghost but I hate going in dark rooms or being alone.
I live in quite a new house so feel safe, my dh works most evenings and I know when the floorboards creek its either one of the boys sneeking out of bed or my fat cat.
I visit my dad at weekends and when the house is full I feel fine but its an old house and don't know the "history" eg I know a few years ago the house over the road the single man who lived there killed himself I don't know how I knew he died but the killing himself part I only found out last year and after he passed one of the lights at the top of the house kept coming on and this freaked me out, so I know if a house is old there are bound to be things that have happed in it.

I've been staying at my dads this weekend to look after his dog just me and my boys and during the day I'm fine but at night shit myself. No reason to I haven't heard or seen anything but couldn't sit alone in the front room for long and went to bed shortly after the kids. My dad has always said the house is unlucky he's lived here since 1996 but I think that's just because my mum left him.
I wish I knew how to get over the fear. The bathroom has a mirror over the sink and I kept thinking I could see things but I think it was just the trousers hanging up behind me or my hair moving. I know it sounds silly but I honestly don't think I could live in an old house out of choise.

I disagree with it too.
I don't think belief in God is any more credible than that of ghosts. They're both ludicrous, and ought to be ignored.

If ghosts exist then why don't we all see them?
Why do they only show themselves to a handful of people who, coincidentally, are usually the same people who also see UFOs, fairies in the garden and images of the Virgin Mary in teabags...?

Of course there is proof that bacteria exists you can see bacteria through a simple light microscope it isnt just maths. Quarks and higgs bosons not so much!

"Ghosts" as in physical manifestations of dead people do not exist. Paranormal activity does happen but its most likely to do with energy concentrations rather that old aunt vera rattling her chains.

Belief in God is a faith and theregore requires no evidence

nancy because most of us aren't special with a rare gift that differentiates us from everyone else in a mysterious yet superior manner. Obviously.
Gah.

I've seen one. Never seen a UFO though. I believe in those but not sure on those faces in toast :o

Pictish - I guess you're right. Bet I never 'die' and go to heaven on an operating table either before coming back to life

Yes most of us aren't as sensitive and spiritual as those who see "spirit"

I never quite know how to react when someone tells me they've seen a ghost. It's rude to call someone a liar, but what else can it be other than attention seeking lies?
Ok...I'm willing to concede that perhaps someone might have seen something that they mistakenly but truly believe was a ghost...but most of them are just lying.
I don't know why or what is missing from their lives that they feel the need to do it...but they do. Perhaps they even convince themselves their nonsense is true - which is quite common in liars...and certainly more likely than the supernatural.

Anyway...I never know what to say to them, other than to change the subject.

And I have met I've-seen-ghost liars...everyone has. So awkward.

You also have to ask yourself, why would someone lie (I know people do sometimes) but when it's a close friend or family member who you have known years why would try risk sounding crazy by lying about something you can't prove nd is likely to black list themselves with people.

Attention? What attention? It's not usually something people ask in every day conversation. It doesn't make the person look better in any way. Can't you believe in so wine een if you don't believe what they saw was a ghost.

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Well I don't think it makes anyone look better - quite the opposite in fact, but they must do. I don't know why.

OP, it is normal and natural to feel ill at ease when away from home at night. We know that we are going to be at our most vulnerable (sleeping), so it makes sense to be extra vigilant after dark and before bedtime.

What are you afraid will happen if a ghost pops up?

perhaps they think it makes them seem interesting?

Has the OP even been back after the usual first few posts then sit back and watch the fight?

Actually I have to disagree Pictish. I think out and out lying about having supernatural experiences is probably pretty rare. I think that people who believe in that sort of thing are just SO keen to think of themselves as sensitive/spiritual etc, that it takes very little for them to imagine something out of nothing.

I don't believe. I could walk into a room full of wispy dead relatives and I'd assume a logical explanation.
Whereas a die hard (heh heh) believer sees a bit of fag smoke drift by and assumes its a ghost.

I'm sure they EMBELLISH too but I still think they're honestly deluding themselves (if that makes sense) rather than knowingly lying.

You may be right Vanessa - but still to me, that is still lying...albeit predominantly to themselves.

There are no such think as ghosts and definitely not one creeping up behind me right now because I just checked so don't worry about them.

Can I ask you non believers a genuine question?

If there's ever been anything strange or creepy or scary, you have witnessed, how do you explain it to yourselves? And do the "rational" explanations not sometimes sound more far fetched than paranormal ones?

Sorry but ghosts do exist. I used to be frightened with just the thought of them but I have had to accept that they are in the 6 bedroom holiday house I own, dating back to 1645 and there is not a lot I can do about it.

Over the years, feed back from guests about strange happenings with a certain bed and movement on the top floor when nobody is up there and the fact that for some reason my children have always refused to set foot in there, forced me to get a psychic in, to view all the rooms. It turns out I have 5 ghosts resident, 2 men and 3 ladies.

Yes I am sure you are all laughing...

2 ghosts are maids that do nothing and just stand around, seeming to be waiting for an order to take to the kitchen.

Then there is a lady ghost who paces the top floor of the house and the psychic said she was looking for her baby. We successfully communicated with her at 2am one winter morning. We just sat in silence for an hour until we heard the floorboards creak and we called out questions to her asking for the one knock for no and the 2 knocks for yes. One question was did she like living in the house and we had 2 knocks for that so all good!

On the centre floor there is a particular bedroom that, after years and years of guests staying in it, some have reported to me that the mattress on the bed went down in the night as if someone had sat on it and this awoke them. Bear in mind I did not tell the psychic about these reports but she burst out laughing when she entered this same bedroom and told me the male ghost in there is a real joker and is totally obsessed with the bed!

Lastly the dining room has terribly cold patches, despite the heating on, and my final resident ghost is a man from times way back and it is the "gentlemen's smoking room" of his day. It becomes so cold in there when occupied by women as he gets very annoyed. I saw the door close by itself with my very own eyes when the female psychic asked if we could go in. (That was terrifying at the time). And his way of saying, no you can't!

So I have 5 ghosts and I am no longer scared. They do not hurt me and I feel chuffed that I got a bit extra when I bought the house 15 years ago. They are just there in my house and probably always will be.

I don't technically believe in ghosts, but not long ago, when ds was sleeping elsewhere and my neighbours on both sides were away on holiday, I realised that, sitting downstairs in the living room, I could still here creaking floor sounds that I always assumed came from next door, or ds's bed creaking the floorboards as he rolled over in bed.
Sounds exactly like someone walking quietly around on the upstairs landing.
I have got used to the noise now, and don't notice it anymore. I did sleep in ear plugs that night though, just in case of sudden ghostly whispers!
Out of the 20 odd houses I have lived in, I would say the "spookiest" was a tiny 300 year old cottage next to a famously haunted pub, but nothing ever happened there at all.
I think that spending a lot of time in houses on your own is a good idea. It hardens you to this kind of fear. When you have spent a few nights lying in the old cottage, with no neighbours attached, and the wind howling through the woods at the back, you just grow a thicker skin and realise that even if ghosts exist, they cant harm you. They are ephemera/energy/memories/ your own hallucinations/whatever, you are solid and real.

You're wasting your time giles this one has fangs with venom dripping off them. Amusing but impossible to have a civilised conversation with.

How could a rational explanation ever be perceived as far fetched? It couldn't.

I was well into all the spooky stuff in my teens. I was fascinated by the afterlife, the occult, and all things ghoulie, ghosty, dark and 'unexplained', so I have gone from one extreme to another in my lifetime so far.

I attended seances in my youth for example, where at the time I would swear blind that glass moved all by itself with no help from anyone present.

But guess what?
I was lying. To myself. Obviously someone pushed that glass, and looking back on it now, I even know who, with absolute clarity.
But I wanted it to be true, so therefore it was. But only in my own imagination.

Fangs with venom dripping off them.

Do you believe in vampires too Gamerchick.
They don't exist either.

No.

Although vampires don't drip venom