To be shocked at what I saw at a Toby Carvery?

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I went to a Toby Carvery the other day. I had two types of meat, a Yorkshire pudding, veg and gravy. I had a good sized portion, ate it all and didn't feel the need to go up again. I'm quite smug that I know how much to put on my plate without wasting it.

However, I could see the gravy/sauce table from where I was sitting and saw a few very overweight young people, late teens/early 20's with 3 - yes 3 Yorkshire puddings on their plates, a mound of veg and ladling on bucketfuls of gravy.

Surely this is not normal and they were just greedy.

I'm a vegetarian and I have an active gallstone and I'm undergoing tests for abdominal pain this week.

So- mo meat/fish/chicken (my choice)
No fat (so no roasted potatoes or cauliflower cheese ) my gallbladders choice
No wheat or fibre -my bloaty stomach choice

So if I was at a TC, I'd be looking glances at y'all.

I was reading the M&S Food to Order and thinking "Fuck It, I want sandwiches. I want cheese and pickle on proper bread, not gluten free crap that I can only eat 1-2 slices off"

Quite honestly, I've shed several tears at this thread...

I'm v overweight...I KNOW this...I'm not fucking blind...I have food issues and I'm under no illusion that I have portion sizes under control.

But eating in public is honestly one of the most excruciating things to do...to KNOW (and this thread proves that) people are judging you on what you eat...how much of it you're eating...how many of your chins are jiggling whilst you chomp...and I see the stares, hear the comments and the jokes...I'm not fucking deaf either

I have a job that means it's easier to grab something on the go but 9/10 days, I will eat nothing all day purely because I cannot face the judging over what I'm eating in public...I would rather just eat tons for dinner in the privacy of my own home.

Do you know what that's like? To be starving but to be worried about eating in public because you really cannot take another comment, stare or joke from some judgemental cunt?

To those who judge and stare....and you do, you know you do...I hope you're proud of yourselves for making another person feel shit about themselves...you deserve a fucking blue peter badge for it

ihope hugs this is exactly how I feel too :( I also got upset at this thread and others like it. There are some locy people on mn who encourage and support others and do not judge. Then there are araeholes.

Why people feel happy hurting others is beyond me and makes me quite miserable, even if it only is strangers on a website :(

Lego* don't worry....if you counted up the negative comments on this thread they're a TINY minority. that means that the majority of people aren't judging you. They won't even notice you! Even the thin ones will be too busy eating their own food!

Really...people judge because they're afraid of BEING judged themselves. Those who aren't overweight but who judge those who are have their own problems somewhere....things they're ashamed of or afraid of. Remember that.x

• lovely and arseholes that was meant to say

Lego I am not overweight but if I am judging anyone it is the people making negative comments. I'd sooner see someone enjoying their food regardless of portion size rather than someone scared to eat in case someone was looking. Besides, I don't think there is anything ruder than staring whilst someone eats!

Going out for food is meant to be an enjoyable social past time. If you are obsessing over what other people do that you shouldn't go out to eat, it's obviously not for you.

Anyone who feels conscious of their size, whether big or not small should not be subjected to the emotional abuse of malcontented scrutiny, because of what they look like physically.

People are very insecure and those insecurity are what people voice. These people don't know what life will throw at them.

I used to be a size 6, I was miserable and was for ever getting ill.

I am happy with my size 14/16.

The most miserable people I have ever known, were all thin.

I do think these all you can eat places encourage people to stuff themselves though.

It's human nature isn't it.

The way I was raised, rudeness and ill manners, such as monitoring what other people eat and then commenting on it, would be a much bigger moral failing than deciding to have a third Yorkshire pudding.

That's the thing with the right help people can change their weight.

People who make fun, belittle or who is just plain nasty will never change, the will be ugly on the inside.

I like your thinking

www.tobycarvery.co.uk/offers/

Dont forget to check out the offers before you go, no need to print off just show it to the server before you take your seat.

Which Toby was this??

I ask as the three near to us that we have visited only ever give one out per person, and point blank refuse you more.....I cannot have them due to milk allergy so I am lynched by my children over who can have mine (I get it to share with them, and so listen to ever more outlandish reasons as to why THAT particular child deserves it over the others).

I clearly need to visit yours to enable my children to have their fill of yorkshires!!

No carvery here but did have a wetherspoons breakfast so get my points for being common. I'm also overweight so bonus points there too

Oh, I waitressed at Harry Ransdens as a teen and we did giant Yorkies with gravy as a starter!

Look, I'm fat. I piled my plate today at the carvery AND I went back for more. Shock horror, so did lots if skinny people, including my husband who has a disgustingly efficient metabolism. I bloody enjoyed it, I've been ill and not really enjoyed food for days but this was yummy and I relished it. Stare away, motherfuckers.

Oh I really fancy a carvery tomorrow now, with three huge yorkshire puds, one balanced on top of the other, a veritable leaning tower of puddings. Yum.

3 yorkies...yum!

DS went on a little holiday with his grandma when he was 13 and already had hollow legs / love of carveries... They stayed across the road from a TC and DM told him they'd go for a treat one night. They ended up going every single night for four nights as they both loved it so much and decided it couldn't be beaten - DS had TWO gigantic yp's each night and a mountain of roasties. They are both very very slim / active and love all sorts of food but resistance was futile! He's 16 now and still has a far away wistful look in his eyes when talking about that particular trip and where they ate

How judgemental of you.

Why didn't you mind your own business and leave them eat in peace?

Singaporefling, that story made me smile!

Can we stop this "thin people are miserable" line please. It's just as bad as the "fat people are all jolly" stereotype and frankly is pathetic.

I know a fat, miserable person and a thin, miserable person. I think being miserable transcends body type.

OP, were you sitting in the TC with your modest plate, looking contemptuously at your fellow diners and planning what to write on Mumsnet?

I mean, were you dining alone or something? Were you bored with the company?