to feel sad about people's perception of having sons.

[wanderingcloud]

A random conversation in the staffroom at work, general chit chat about children. The mother of two daughters who go to the same nursery as my sons said "I'm sure your boys are lovely but I'm SO glad I have girls! Boys are just horrid!" then other mum's of girls started chiming in with comments about how generally noisy/smelly/disgusting/horrible boys are and what a nightmare they must be. I laughed it off, my boys can be a handful. What under 3yr old isn't occasionally noisy and dirty? However, watching my two sons sitting quietly looking at books together this morning, I'm filled with sadness that people actually perceive them in such a negative way.

Slippy, that really was nasty.

I have to admit, I personally would be disappointed to just have sons! but you get what you're given, family wise!

You know how important is to grow up with that mother daughter bond downstairsmixup - oh wait, sorry you don't do you?

Ouch! That was a bit below the belt!

I only have the 1 DC and I didn't mind what I was having (took so many years of ttc I was just grateful to be having a baby!) Had a DD and was extra overjoyed at her being a girl, but that's just me! I think maybe because I don't have my Mum anymore I daydreamed that I would have the same great relationship with DD, as what I had with my Mum

But with regards to the differences between girls and boys, I personally think it's an age thing/personality rather than what sex they are. DD is 4, she loves getting wet, muddy, climbing, jumping and racing around. She thinks farts are funny, has in the past wiped her snotty nose on my sleeve . She is no different to my friends 4yr old boy tbh!

myotherusernameisbetter - With a username like yours, you'd think you'd be clue'd up on the ability to namechange

you'd think you'd be clue'd up on the ability to namechange

Yes, I am not stupid or patronising. Clearly though you think you are in the right and didn't care about being judged so I didn't think you'd feel the need.

Slip, if you're the product of a really strong mother-daughter relationship, then you're making a LOT of MNers really glad they've only got sons right now.

Oxford :o

Where they not so happy before reading this thread then?

*Were

I'm not so sure your mother did a very good job with you myself slip

My MIL does the opposite, "girls are all bitches, I'm so glad I didn't have any". I only have a son and she said "can you imagine if he was a girl?" with a scrunched up, how horrible, look. He's only 6 months old! I'd love either gender as much as the other, I just love my baby!

Well good job my mother isn't alive yo hear your opinion Pomm

reading this, I don't relate to most of these at all, I have two of each DS's at 10 and 3 and DDs at 7 and 3 and in my experience my DDs are a complete fucking nightmare handful.

Don't get me wrong my boys can have their moments of temper and behaviour etc but for the most part; they ask, I answer and they run with it, the girls - woah they don't ask they tell, their back chat is worthy of a clip round the lug or the belt as I would have got and they are nasty and vicious when they want to be and the screaming just waiting for the teenage years to kick in then I'm done for

Yeah, we were all v happy, but now we're ecstatic

I think it's a good job too slip, if I was your mother I'd be ashamed that I had raised such a nasty, shit stirring bitch.

I think gender is irrelevant. I have two DDs. They are completely different and their personalities are chalk and cheese. I'm curious to see which one DS is most similar to

I have a feeling you haven't been happy for a long time Oxfordbag

What a bizarre thread. Yes it's awful when people are disparaging about the gender mix (or not)in a family. Jesus people healthy children are a gift. Fwiw I have one of each and ATM the nearly 8yo dd is a living nightmare, stroppy, shouty, opinionated and refuses to bathe a lot of the time.

My 10yo ds is clever, funny, helpful and clean . Boys who are still destructive or violent by 10 haven't been parented terribly well IMO. There is something very wonderful about watching a strong beautiful man evolve from something produced in your own body. Whereas with a girl it's just more of the same IYSWIM.

"strong beautiful man evolved from your body"

wrong on so many levels.

Are your children aware that you prefer your son Stillwish?

I don't prefer my son, I was expressing how much I enjoy him. I could be equally eloquent about the joy of dd.

The way you described her made it sound like you couldn't stand her!

For eg she is creative, artistic and self contained (like dh) whereas ds and I can't draw at all. She has natural style and flair and is wonderfully athletic, she is also very beautiful and reminds me of my diss . She is social aware and emphatic ,she makes friends wherever she goes.

Oh she is very affectionate well they both are to be fair we are a very touchy family.

Why slippy ? What wrong with looking at his broadening shoulders and muscley legs and thinking about the wonder that I produced that? I have spoken to mil (mother of 2 boys) about it and she shares those feelings.