to be disappointed that some of my family hate our PFB's name

[bexleigh]

Our little boy is 7 weeks old and some of my family don't like the name we chose. This includes my dad and my grandmother. Their first reaction on the day he was born was "Really? ... Oh. Right. Well, it's not really my cup of tea, no. I'm not a fan". The next day I thought they might have gotten used to it, but no, "I just can't get used to it. I think I'll call him the initial". And ever since the birth they've avoided referring to him with his actual name, instead they make up pet names.

I didn't announce the name before the birth, wanting to avoid negative comments, and expected people to be too polite afterwards to say anything if they didn't like the name. So I feel that this is quite rude. However, they probably see it as being open and "wearing their heart on their sleeve". It just hurts my feelings though! My dad is a kind and loving man but can sometimes be a bit tactless.

Btw, it's not a really wacky name, not made up or strangely spelt, just a traditional name which is uncommon these days.u

When pregnant with ds now 11, my ex mil told me she hated the name I had decided on- Oliver, which 12 years ago was not common at all.
From the day he was born she has called him Ollie or ols. He is known at school as Ollie but she still refuses to call him by his proper name.
Now there are 4 Oliver's in his school, all younger, and lots of babies about with the same name, I was just ahead of the game:)
Congratulations on your new baby, with motherhood, you develop a thicker skin as someone will always think they know better or have an opinion on something. You know best, youre his mum and with that privilege, you decide on his name.

I think a name does instantly conjure up an image.

I instantly thought of Uncle Quentin in Famous Five. George's dad! So I see a child who will grow up to be an esteemed scientist, loving family man, with a bit of a temper who has a tendency to get kidnapped and then rescued by a group of children.

Like GoringBit I think they are seeing blue eye shadow and Quentin Crisp.

I chose 2 kinda out of style names for my DD, I'd have given anyone a mouthful if they bad mouthed it, because I happen to love her name.

To be honest, I don't think Quentin really suits a baby.

Having said that, they are being damn rude. Try calling them by their initials

You know what I mean though- you look at a beautiful squishy newborn and think Quentin?

But obviously you only think it and tell his mother that it's lovely.

Better to give a baby an "adult" name than condemn an adult to being called Betsy-Boo or Sparkle

Congratulations on your baby op. I think quentin is lovely, they are being extremely rude imo.

I do love an non traditional and unusual name though.

totally outing self here our dds are called Kayla, Derry and Jorgie ( I've had a lot of horrible comments on here before about the name, stating jorgie would grow up to be a striper or glamour model because of how we chose to spell it) thankfully in rl everyone loves their names

Tell them to stick their opinions. What on earth gives them the right to have a say in this! I would be fuming! :-[

MsJupiter Of all the things I've had to suck up and get over, my grandson's name has been one of the easiest

Give it a while and you won't imagine them being called anything else.

I agree that it's a control issue. My mil hounded us when I was preg, fretting over our choice of names (Weirdo), & we (well, I) got so sick of it that I announced, "We've chosen another name which will be a surprise. We found that people were giving us unwanted opinions. So you'll find out when he's born!" Would you believe that she continued to try and get it out of my hubby?!?! You can imagine how mad it made me. Especially with all those preg hormones..

... And dh and i are Christians, so she started looking up names in the Bible. One day she rang and said "How about Kane?" I replied, "No thanks. He was actually a murderer.." :-\

Did you stick to your original name socks? I hope so.

Yes we did :-D

The only thing to be said when someone tells you the name of their baby is "That's a lovely name" and then nothing else.

I speak as someone with an unusual first name. Mum has frequently told me how people would tell her it was awful, get it wrong and call me another name, even called me a boy's name that sounds slightly similar (only slightly)

I'm happy with it, my parents are happy with it, it's no-one else's business.

I don't think Quentin really suits a baby.

Fortunately, he will only be a baby for a year.

Hopefully, he'll be an adult for 60 years or more.

I'm thinking an adult name is a better choice than a cutesy baby name.

Good on you socks.

People were very raised eyebrows about our name for DS. Because it is 'boring' apparently. Maybe. [shrug]

Noone really liked my DD2's name (some didn't like DD1's either). Now it totally suits her and she couldn't be anything else.

My brother still calls her Steve though

I think yabu op. You chose a name that you knew some people wouldn't like then are surprised when it takes them a while to get used to it.

Classic quote from a friends gobby Gran when it was announced that someone was calling their son Darren -- "Bloody hell - you'd think that got money or summat"...this was in the 80's...she obviously though they were "jumped up"...

My DM and my MIL were the ones that didn't like one of my son's names and said so. My DM said that she wasn't going to call him that. I rolled my eyes and bitched to my Dsis about it and otherwise ignored. She got over it pretty quickly.

My DM STILL calls DD2 "the little one" 8 years on. It grates, it really does, so you have my sympathy. I know she didn't like the name we chose (mind you, no one in our family has ever liked our choice of names for any of our kids)

I counter this by saying "you mean MiniDaisby?" every time.

Remember the poster whose family hated their putative baby name? She got lots of support telling her it was her choice, stand up for herself etc, she could call her baby what she liked...

She then revealed the name in question was Slithery.

Cue the fastest turnaround on a thread ever!

Yes there are limits, Jellystrawberries. (I like your delicious n/n, by the way!)

Personally, I would always try to steer clear of adjectives!