"We are waiting to see what we have before choosing the colour for the babies room"

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This is not an anti pink thread but seriously?! For what its worth I am female and I like pink. And blue. And green. And yellow. You get the idea. It just bugs me that people give colours gender. I do have a pink hating, dinosaur loving dd so I might be a bit more sensitive to this.

Yabu, So what if people do this? It's their choice. I don't see why you have a problem with this.

Does it hurt you in any way if other people want to use tradition gendered colours for their home decor?

No.

YANBU it is the tip of a really rotten iceberg.

Why do you care ??

You're being ridiculous, if people want to paint their babies room, blue, pink or blood red with a mobile of inverted crosses and ABC border of Satanic lyrics it has no bearing on you whatsoever.

The whole pink rejection thing got boring long ago tbh.

YABU.

Baby's room (or babies' if multiple)

They are insane, because who wants to deliberately wait to do a DIY job (especially one with smelly paint) until after they've had a baby?

YANBU it is the tip of a really rotten iceberg.

Completely agree with this.

I agree with you OP. Each to their own but I dislike gendered colour too. You'd hope these attitudes were dying out but my friend put a pic of her son in pink trousers on facebook and there were sarky comments!

I think it shows a depressing lack of imagination, but it's up to them.

What does it matter?

I bet by the child is in school they will be choosing traditionally gendered clothes, shoes, toys and decor for themselves anyway.

The girls will have long hair and will wear dresses, the boys will have short hair and wear trousers, the girls will do ballet or gymanstics, the boys will do football or martial arts etc etc ec-fucking-ectra

YOU CAN'T ESCAPE so you may as well submit.

My whole house is painted white (including my daughters' rooms) so it really doesn't make too much difference to me.
Doesn't bother me what anyone else does though.

saucyJack said "Does it hurt you in any way if other people want to use tradition gendered colours for their home decor? "

YES YES YES it does!

It hurts me. A lot. It hurts me when I don't get the same level of pay, respect or assumed competence in my job simply because of my gender.

Every time any one does ANYTHING that reinforces gender stereotypes it hurts me, my DD and my DH.

YANBU it is the tip of a really rotten iceberg.

Completely agree with this.

^^^ me too.

I bet if your DD is over 4 she has long hair and owns at least one dress though Icebeing.

They are just a "gendered" as the colours pink or blue.

Well said IceBeing.

YANBU both DD's are in neutral rooms. They are about to be redecorated though and are requesting pink and purple respectively.

At least it's their brainwashing choice

YANBU but your opinion is not welcome. I've tried being ender neutral with people's little ones before, eg Orange jumpsuits and regular lego type things rather than 'girlified' things. It hasn't gone down particularly well, and I've been accused of being aggressively political before, even though I didn't even say I was purposely attempting to be gender neutral.

ratfans my DD isn't over 4....

We have rules on clothing / toys though...we don't let her wear/play with anything we wouldn't let a DS wear / play with. Of course being feminist means we would certainly let a DS wear anything he choose to...hence DD gets to choose anything she wants to. This means she went out wearing dino, boots, jeans, a lion T-shirt and a frilly tutu yesterday. I imagine it is pretty clear to the average passer by that we aren't enforcing our own, or society's ideas of appropriate girls wear on her...

About 50% of people assume she is a boy on first meeting her...which is cool by me.

YANBU, we tried to get rid of this pre-programming last century but it came roaring back.

If I were choosing, as I dislike bright blue and bright pink wall paints I would paint white walls with mixed colour additions. Kids can always add their preferred touches later.

I just can't get my knickers in a knot over this sort of thing.

But how many people who say colours should be gender neutral actually painted a room baby pink before knowing the sex?

Every other is really quite neutral including blue. Lavender might be tricky but could work in a boys room if it was quite grey.

And pink is actually a really nice colour for decor.

My sons room is green, if it gets reprinted it won't be in pink, I can't say the same for my daughters room which is currently yellow. Unfortunately my DH has banned any more grey in the house.

Fwiw I get the same level of pay, respect and assumed competence at my job but I realise I am lucky. I had a peach room growing up.

If painting the bedroom makes a couple more excited about having their baby, then let them get on with it.

I find it weird that the baby would have a room . Each to their own though.

YOU CAN'T ESCAPE so you may as well submit.

Speak for yourself. I'm running down the hill waving an axe and yelling "Freedom" at the top of my lungs.