Just sent wrong text to playdate horrors mother

[Fanfeckintastic]

Oh please help me I'm mortified!! I've just had a play date from HELL and to I went to text my best friend (who would find it hilarious) all about it, outlined everything horrible that he did but I sent it to the little boys mother. I feel like crying.

Is there anyway out of this, I used him name and I ended with "never to return again"

It's awful when you put your foot in it quite so hugely, and then if the other person isn't angry but sad and humbleit just makes it worse.

You say you're on the way round there? This could be a great friendship in the making. She sounds like she's been having an awful time - or that she shares your sense of humour. I hope it's the latter, and you have a great evening.

I think you have done the right thing in going round OP. Not sure how old her child is but if young still then he may have some undiagnosed SN.

My DS is 11 now but would have been a nightmare when younger too. It took until he was 7.5 years old before we knew he was autistic with ADHD. Now at age 11 you would be hard pushed to pick him out from any other child in a group.

Before he was diagnosed though I was the mother thinking I had got it all wrong, that I was a crap parent etc.

So glad you have gone round, sounds like she could do with the support.

Rtft scottishmummy

Notes to self it's ok to be reckless with regards to other people as long as you say sorry

I think you are doing a good thing.

Terrible shame about the text, but perhaps a blessing in disguise. If you can support this mum, and you two can become friends, and the wee boy can stay friends with your DS, then it's a happy ending.

Keep up seriously I've read the thread
Are you instructing everyone or just me

Oh no. I actually felt genuinely sad when I saw how she replied.
I hope you can boost her a bit.

I was once the receiver although work related not child, which I spose is less bad. It was someone junior to me who was venting to someone else about something I had done.

I replied and said 'was that meant for me?' and watched the colour drain from her face. initially I was pretty but then within a fairly short time I could see the funny side of it tbh. I was her favourite manager from then on .

It may be the start of a friendship, I honestly felt so sorry for her, as it could have been anyone and the look on her face I will never ever forget.

Oops just did what I accused you of scottishmummy
OP it's the end of term and (certainly where I am) bloody hot. I think I should stay off mumsnet tonight.

It happens,folk vent,technology gets it wrong
Whats the thing about switch to aeroplane mode to delete text?

Oh Dear. I wouldn't like to be in your shoes right now. However I can't offer you much sympathy o.p. You can't go around calling little kids and that's the end of it. Of course his mum will be furious. It's her baby. What would you do if the boot where on the other foot.

Well done for going round there-I think that'll make a big difference in terms of making her feel better. Sounds like she needs a friend.

Reminds me of when a friend asked if I thought her son was badly behaved when he was going through a very bad hitting and shoving phase.

Didn't know how to answer without upsetting her. She looked so sad when she asked me.

In fairness,none of us know how the other mum will react.and op has graciously gone round

Well done for having the guts to go around there though.

Well done OP for going round. Hope things are ok.

Was thinking same.
Child may have some undiagnosed IDD.

Lets not speculate based on post about wild playdate

I'm probably sly rather than sanctimonious but I never bitch in writing - too scared it would ever fall into the wrong hands as once you've sent it, you don't own it. Or like you - I'd send it to the wrong person.

Hope you going to see her in person works out. I feel sick for you both. You can't undo it though so hopefully you can both learn something and put it behind you.

h my goodness!

It is what it is. You were caught red handed.

When you apologise do not go on too long or make any excuses. It weakens the apology.

Putting it onto airplane mode requires teenage like speed --I I know because I've been sending 'you smell' texts to dd and failing to delete them in time.

Awwwwwww...glad Fan went to see the mum !

Good for you for going round there to make amends! I was cringing for you there for a while!

OP I think we all make mistakes and you sound genuinely appalled by the error. Good on you for getting round there to 'fess up.

Can't believe other people here don't swear about children to friends. In conversation I exaggerate terribly and love making friends laugh but I would never willingly hurt someone. There's a difference between making a stupid mistake and actually setting out to demean someone.

And quite honestly? Some VERY nice mums have horrible, nasty kids. Just saying!

(My kids are average/nice - I'm not so nice!)