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Just sent wrong text to playdate horrors mother

451 replies

Fanfeckintastic · 15/07/2014 17:14

Oh please help me I'm mortified!! I've just had a play date from HELL and to I went to text my best friend (who would find it hilarious) all about it, outlined everything horrible that he did but I sent it to the little boys mother. I feel like crying.

Is there anyway out of this, I used him name and I ended with "never to return again" Blush

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Aeroflotgirl · 15/07/2014 19:02

it might have happened for a reason. From this it may have confirmed to her, how bad mabey her ds behaviour was and to get help if she is finding it hard. She may also make a new friend in op. Op sounds nice, and genuinly mortified, we have all done silly things that we wished the ground had swallowed us up, and probably have shock horror, taken part in some gossip.

HilariousInHindsight · 15/07/2014 19:02

Oh dear.

I don't generally bitch about people. I tend to inwardly be annoyed about something as I worry someone else will say.

The times I have however I have always checked who the text was going to.

In a way though I'm glad it went to the other Mum because:

  1. She knows that her sons behaviour is impacting others.
  2. She can now have a frank conversation and chat to you. She may be able to get advice or just be able to have an ear to listen.

I hope everything is going OK over at her house, OP.
I can't say this has ever happened to me--but we are all only human.

milkysmum · 15/07/2014 19:09

Op I dont think what you did was bitchy. You had a nightmare play date and was venting to a freind something I think most people would do (and people have vented on here plenty!). It was very unfortunate she got the text by mistake and I really do feel for you. Hope she understands (maybe she has had difficult play dates which she has subsequently discussed with a freind and understands no malice was intended)

ChoccaDoobie · 15/07/2014 19:13

I feel for you and hope it went ok when you visited her. She does indeed sound like someone in need of support. It is not easy for you either though. I had a very dear friend with children who were really horribly behaved, I found it unbelievably difficult to cope with them but never wanted to upset my friend by saying so. In the end I told her how I felt and to say it was not well received is putting it mildly.

I know the situation is very upsetting and I do feel for the other mother but I think your mistake was genuine and I think it is unusual for people not to vent to anyone at all. I bet lots of people have made a mistake like this.

Other than that I agree with Hilarious, it is good, in a way that you can talk about this sensibly and calmly and maybe offer support.

riskit4abiskit · 15/07/2014 19:16

Respect to you op for going to see her.

writtenguarantee · 15/07/2014 19:18

I text the wrong people all the time. I sent a text to the plumber to move the laundry from the washer to the dryer (and got the reply "???") and to various friends texts that are supposed to be sent to DP. Thankfully, nothing inappropriate!

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 15/07/2014 19:24

Hope the meeting (with playdate mum) goes OK OP.

I have also sent a text to the wrong person a couple of times. It's mortifying. Good on you for caring how it might have made her feel & going to check on her.

500smiles · 15/07/2014 19:24

I've sent texts to the wrong people before. Not quite as bad as that, good on you for going round there.

HavanaSlife · 15/07/2014 19:25

Oh dear, poor women. Hope it goes well and shes not too upset.

myroomisatip · 15/07/2014 19:26

awww Flowers

I think going round was a lovely thing to do, and brave. Hope it works out well.

BlinkAndMiss · 15/07/2014 19:28

Oh OP I cringed when I read your post - we've all said things that are less than complimentary about others at some point, you're not being two faced and the rest of it. It's life!

I did feel for the mum though, as someone who is having a bit of a mum-crisis this week I could cry for her. But the point it, it's not your fault and I'm so glad that you've gone round to see her. She sounds like a friend in need and you've gone straight round to lend an ear. No doubt anything you say will sound so much more sincere than anything you could send by text.

Please update and tell us that the mum is ok and that you've sorted out your text message fail.

whois · 15/07/2014 19:28

It's especially easy to tend a text to the person you are talking about as they are on your mind!

RedLentil · 15/07/2014 19:30

Good on you for going over to her. My son was that child in his day, and the few people who acknowledged that and let me talk about it were appreciated, so I hope your chat heads that way.
He is the kind of sweet-natured funny boy at eleven I could never have dreamt he'd become. God knows what the teenage years will bring though ... Not counting chickens yet Grin

jaynebxl · 15/07/2014 19:32

Hope you both had a positive time. Well done for going round.

Neeko · 15/07/2014 19:35

Feel for you op. You are only human after all.
Hope going round helped.

LittleBearPad · 15/07/2014 19:39

Well done for dealing with it well. Poor you. Hope the wine and chat helped.

Pickacolouranycolour · 15/07/2014 19:40

Hope the chat goes ok I've done something similar before :(

Iownafourinchporsche · 15/07/2014 19:40

I hope it's ok. Fair dos for going round

trixymalixy · 15/07/2014 19:42

Oh God! Poor woman. Hope you managed to help her out.

believeintheshield · 15/07/2014 19:43

Really well done for going around; that must have taken a lot of guts and could be just what she needs right now. I don't think you were being a bitch at all - everyone needs to vent after a stressful day, and it's just a terrible mistake that you sent your text to the wrong person. I really hope this turns out to be a blessing in disguise and you can give her the support she needs.

Glastogirl · 15/07/2014 19:44

How did it go?

TheBookofRuth · 15/07/2014 19:46

On the subject sending the wrong texts to the wrong people, I used to have an assistant with the same name as DH. I once sent a text to DH asking him to update the website, and one to my assistant telling him I was ovulating so we needed to have sex that night....

I got a very confused reply from DH, and one from my assistant saying he wasn't aware that was in his job description, but he was game if I was!

TwelveLeggedWalk · 15/07/2014 19:48

That's quality Ruth!

nilbyname · 15/07/2014 19:49

Poor you op, I think driving round with wine is a very sensible option! You need to face this and the.
Will be well.

I don't think it's karma. I've bitched to close friends about devil
Children.

Tis fairly normal no??

nigerdelta · 15/07/2014 19:55

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