Just sent wrong text to playdate horrors mother

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Oh please help me I'm mortified!! I've just had a play date from HELL and to I went to text my best friend (who would find it hilarious) all about it, outlined everything horrible that he did but I sent it to the little boys mother. I feel like crying.

Is there anyway out of this, I used him name and I ended with "never to return again"

Nanny, no one thinks you are bullying because you disagree, people think you are bullying because you are using a mistake made by the OP which she totally owned to assert that she is a a bad person. HTH

Yay OP what a great outcome, so glad you went in and confronted it.

Nanny Do you have to be so unpleasant and aggressive?
I find that far worse than someone letting off steam to a good friend about a badly behaved child she'd had a nightmare couple of hours with.

Well done OP. So pleased it's worked out! I've done a very similar thing in the past (who the hell hasn't?~) except obviously for the judgy sanctimonious twats who insisted on criticising a natural human action

Oh and Nanny - no it doesn't make you a bully. It just makes you a twat.

I actually think you're acting like more of a bully than I was.

Agreed.

Numa "mostly"?!

Great news OP.

I love a happy ending :)

Yes nanny that child probably was a little shite, and so was my friends boy who pushed dd who has ASD over and said he hated her. Some children are little horrors. Yes op did the right thing, and the outcome of it fantastic! She has also made a new friend from this so yes it is fab!

Nice one op! So glad it worked out. She sounds like a lovely woman and I hope it's the start of a supportive friendship.

Ahhhh lovely update! I think its great that a new friendship has come out of this!

Glad about the outcome op.

Nanny you may be trying to take the moral high ground because this is something you would never do but your lack of empathy and your close mindedness to forgiveness, particularly in the face of someone taking responsibility for their actions, shows you to be intolerant and a bit lacking in common decency.

Outsself has the perfect reply.
Go for that one and don't let people make you feel bad, I'd be at risk of getting caught letting off steam too so I feel your pain!

Oops I'm a bit behind, just caught up and glad you're going round. May all turn out for the best in the end, good luck!

imnotproud honey you have more catching up to do than that

OP very pleased with how it all worked out for you.

imnotproud

Hahaha. Sorry but at least you cottoned on to the fact you had to catch up. Hahaha.

Oh, I'm so glad you had a great time with the other mother.

Just goes to show sometimes MILs are right, though!

Just delurking to say what a wonderful story. Both the OP and the other mother sound like very mature intelligent women that I would be proud to know.

Wow what an unexpected outcome. Well done op I'd like to think I would be as brave as you have been but it took some guts to go over there.

Nanny for what it's worth I don't agree with you. I think the op clearly never deliberately meant to hurt anyone's feelings and intention really makes all the difference. Once she realised she had she was clearly distraught and really showed a lot of courage to try to minimize the damage. I certainly am guilty of venting and I'm sure there are things I have said in private that I would hate to be made public.

However I think the way you have been piled on here and "ignored" and ridiculed and bitched at by other posters on here for having a different, albeit unpopular, opinion is disgusting. Real Mean Girl responses here. Hope you aren't paying any heed to them.

Great result op.

I would do that, OP. I'm so glad it worked out well for you, the monster's mum sounds lovely.

thislittlepiggie

Real Mean Girl responses here. Hope you aren't paying any heed to them.

Seriously? She expects the OP to feel shit about a mistake, constantly criticises her and then gets huffy when people tell her she's wrong, but we're the Mean Girls? That's so daft it's funny!

I really don't agree Piggie. Nanny was trying to make someone, who was already feeling absolutely dreadful, feel even worse about herself. Not nice behaviour and people were entitled to make that very clear to her.

And frankly, I really dislike it when people are quite happy to dish out criticism but get very hostile and defensive when they get any back.

thislittlepiggie if we are Real Mean Girls then that makes Nanny the Head Girl of the Mean Girls. She's been far more bitchy to the OP than anyone has been to her. I wouldn't imagine she's paying any heed to anyone at all, she seems to like the sound of her own voice too much to notice what anyone else says.

Yay, OP, that's lovely news! Here's to you and your new mate.

thislittlepiggie Nanny had already said her piece, several times. There was no call for the constant needling, especially in the absence of any response to her. I daresay she was going to keep going until one of us took the bait. So what are we to do? The OP is a real person, who deserves consideration. Nanny spoke many times before I piped up with my admittedly mocking posts.

As for "mean girl" behaviour, let's try to express ourselves without resorting to tired stereotypes of women and girls, shall we?