AIBU to wear black to a wedding?

[Silvercatowner]

I have absolutely no idea about these things….

No, YANBU. I was at a wedding reception recently and saw a couple of people in nice black dresses. I wouldn't be offended if guests wore black to mine, either.

I think it might be a bit unusual if you were the mother of the bride/groom, but otherwise I'd say it's fine.

Hope not - I always wear black, whatever the occasion. The only rule is NOT to wear white.

I think it is ok. Rules about not wearing black, green or white to a wedding are becoming a bit dated now.

I say wear what you like, all black can look stunning.

What is the issue with green?

I would say it is not etiquette to wear black.
However if you teamed a black dress with coloured (or white) accessories it would be OK.

It is supposed to bring bad luck if you wear green to a wedding.

Flip….. I got married in green. 28 years ago so can't've been that bad...

It'll probably be okay as long as you don't look like this

I would and have.

I dressed my bridesmaids in beautiful, black evening dresses. Very classy they looked too. YANBU.

Green sposed to be Bad Luck

SIL issued a No Green notice before her wedding

I know Silvercatowner - my bridesmaids wore green and I have been married 19 years!

Unless it's an ex's wedding it be reet.

I wear black all the time. No one ever comments on it except my mother

Ah yes, but the success of a marriage is not based on luck is it? And only the seriously nutty are superstitious so issue of green not really relevant surely.

It depends on the bride - I couldn't have cared less what people wore as long as they had a nice day but my SIL almost had a melt down because someone wore a green dress. Ask the bride.

The success of things may not be based on luck, but people still say it before e.g. exams, childbirth, a performance.

I wouldn't wear all black to a wedding and don't think other people should either. Black and another colour is ok. I think it depends on whether you look like you're dressed for a funeral.

Bit stunned that people let other people's colour choices govern their lives. Was this bride a particularly disempowered individual?

My gran not only wore black to my mum and dads wedding- she organised all the grooms side of the family to do the same.
In her case it was to make a malicious statement. They were "mourning" the wedding
I'm not sure it carries the same message now though. I guess I would check with the bride first

Be prepared for some disapproving looks from older guests. You do need to check with the bride really. It's becoming more accepted but personally I wouldn't . In days gone by it was a sign you disapproved of the union.

I've worn black with bright accessories.

YABU unless you are the mother of either the bride or groom as it will be the main topic of conversation amongst the other guests. My xMIL wore cream to mine. Didn't bother me but the horror and psychoanalysis of her choice among the guests was incredible.

A family member did this at my wedding and it was absolutely intended as a snub to the mother of the groom, her dh's ex dw. Everyone was pretty insulted , not least my parents. Really out of order, she shouldn't have come.

That should be YANBU