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AIBU?

AIBU to wear black to a wedding?

88 replies

Silvercatowner · 12/07/2014 09:56

I have absolutely no idea about these things….

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Waltonswatcher · 13/07/2014 21:53

I've worn a white dress with black accessories - a wonderful huge black hat .
I loved my outfit and felt comfortable . That's the main thing surely ?
At my own wedding I wanted no posh , best clothes . I didn't want men in suits and women feeling the need to splash a load of cash .
I myself wore an old dress and it was navy . It's the commitment that counts , not all the boring rules and regalia.

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MrsKoala · 13/07/2014 22:10

at I loved my outfit and felt comfortable. That's the main thing surely ? ummm not really no. You loving your outfit and feeling comfortable is not remotely what the main thing about a wedding is about. A lot of times it's about tradition, ceremony and the etiquette that says you appreciate the importance of occasion. Otherwise people would just wear an old track suit or something if they wanted - after all it's all about them isn't it??

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lljkk · 13/07/2014 22:13

I got married 12 yrs ago, day time wedding in a sunny place.

Lots wore black! Quite surprised me. Wouldn't now.

My aunt put her bridesmaids in black & red. But that was an evening wedding which is unusual in our culture. Seemed elegant & avant gard, not depressing.

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Nanny0gg · 13/07/2014 22:26

I think it might be a bit unusual if you were the mother of the bride/groom, but otherwise I'd say it's fine.

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wtffgs · 13/07/2014 22:39

I have no idea what colours people wore to my wedding (apart from the bridesmaids to whom I would like to apologise ) Do people really care about this stuff "No Green" How about (addressed to either Bride or Groom) "Please dissuade me if my intended is a wankferret!"

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MrsKoala · 13/07/2014 22:48

I distinctly remember 3 cousins of exH at my first wedding - one wore head to toe black and the other 2 head to toe pure white. Lots of people commented. It looked quite odd and i was surprised that anyone would not realise it wasn't quite the done thing. Altho i must say the white looked way worse than the black.

I also remember at work once a colleague saying she was going to a wedding and had bought this full white number. I pointed out that it might be considered a bit off to wear it, but she was very dismissive and said 'it's a wedding, you're supposed to wear white...' Umm only if you're the bride

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RaspberryRuffle · 14/07/2014 00:53

No I would not wear black to a wedding. Or white, or cream, although I have worn green.
My cousin wore a cream lacy dress to another cousin's wedding, I was really surprised her mum hadn't said anything when she saw the dress. It was a tad short to be a wedding dress but in an 'upper body' photo it did look 'bridal'.

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Happy36 · 14/07/2014 00:56

Can you snoop on Facebook at photos of the other guests at recent weddings?

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SquigglySquid · 14/07/2014 03:49

As a guest, you can wear whatever you want as long as it's nice. I've worn black to plenty of weddings because I look good in it. No one's ever given me looks. But I'm also from the US, so it could be different rules.

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SquigglySquid · 14/07/2014 03:58

Hmm.. Yup, just went back through all my old wedding photos. Plenty of people wearing black at my wedding. Some people even wore green. But really, if you asked me even at the end of the night what anyone wore to my wedding, I would have given you a blank stare. Unless it's a huge faux pas to the bride to wear black at her wedding, she won't even notice your outfit.

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Thumbwitch · 14/07/2014 04:07

I've worn a black dress to a wedding before, as it was my smartest summer dress and it was boiling hot. But I had a short sleeved pale green jacket to go with it for the church part; dispensed with it for the party afterwards.

I think it's fine to wear black (unless you're the MIL! ) but better to leaven it with some colour somewhere as well.

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Isitmylibrarybook · 14/07/2014 08:12

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ThirteenMeetings · 14/07/2014 08:17

I went to a wedding where the mother of the groom wore black. She's not a dressy woman, and it was her favourite smart 'go to' dress and she just wanted to feel comfortable. I'm sure a few people commented (like me, now!) but it was pretty obvious nothing was meant by it.

I might wear black to a wedding, but I would probably bling it up so it didn't look depressing. I did wear a cream dress to a wedding once, but it was short and I wore it with bright blue shoes and blue handbag.