To leave my 4 month DS for 4 nights

[ColdCottage]

I made a commitment when just pregnant to go away for 4 nights.
I wasn't sure how I would feel when DS arrived so thought I would book my flight and I could always not go or come home early (event is in France) if I needed to.

It is now 2 months away and I'm not sure what to do.

Part of me thinks "goodness how can I leave my baby" (PFB) and the other part thinks "he will be with his daddy and not notice I'm not there, plus the sun, wine and sleep will do me good".

I'm also EBF so am pumping to freeze for him.

Advice please.

When did you first leave your DC for more than one night? How did you feel?

[ColdCottage]

I have made the decision not to go. As much as I want to and know he will be fine even if there is a small risk of not being able to EBF on my return I'm not prepared to take it.

My friend was lovely about it as I knew she would be and I did cry as as she is one of my dearest friends and I have been planning this for her for months.

Her cousin who she is also very close to cant make it so I am going to invite her to mine and we will Skype in for one of the games (Mr & Mrs!) so we can share part of it with her.

At least I can make the wedding and there will be lots more girls weekends away.

[wigglylines]

ColdCottage that must have been a tough decision. I'm glad you have such lovely friends :)

What a lovely idea for you and her cousin to skype, such a nice thing to do.

Having to make these kind of decisions does suck, but FWIW I reckon you've made the right one.

[Mim78]

I've just got back from 3 nights in Portugal with older dd leaving mixed fed (but boob preferring) ds with dh. He is 4 months.

All went absolutely fine. Ds quite happy with bottle - he usually has only 1-2 bottles per day but was fine with all bottles. I pumped to keep up supply while away and ds has just had a good feed. Remembered how to bf fine.

Dh is v confident with him and seemed to have no probs. yes I missed him ( baby and dh!) but it was ok.

Pumping was a bit boring but doable.

It was for my brother's wedding if anyone wonders. And if you really want to judge me I took dd (5) put of school for two days, which were approved, to do it.

[Catsize]

OP, I think you have made the right decision. You may not have enjoyed it anyway if you were worrying about child, feeding etc. At least this way you will be certain. Nice idea re:cousin. Do some different special things instead.

[Happy36]

The "wisdom" I received and followed was not to leave them between 6-12 months (for periods longer than 48 hours). No idea whether that is accurate, but it seems to have been for us. I left both of mine before 4 months, with grandparents, uncle/aunt and Daddy and they never noticed I was gone. Everything was fine, and the same when their Dad had to go away.

You said your son will be with his father so my advice to you would be not to worry at all. They will have a great opportunity to spend time together as "men". Enjoy your trip.

[Mim78]

I'm sorry I couldn't get back to you sooner with my positive experience. I'm bf right now!

[Happy36]

Hope you had a super time away and that your son and husband enjoyed their boy time too.