AIBU to think that 35 is too old...

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...have another baby?

...so PlumpPartridge it is an interesting one because testing fertility isn't really just about eggs. Things like thyroid health, diabetes, auto-immune disorders can come and go, making pregnancy easier/harder or riskier/safer.

Depends on the situation. For me personally it would be as my DS would be 16 so I would be starting again. For others, definitely not. If it's your first, or if you already have young children, or you don't mind a large gap, then 35 is fine.

I find it all very strange. I bet some of the younger mothers on here couldn't run a half marathon tomorrow! I could at 63yrs.
My FIL was 47yrs when DH was born- my father was 28 yrs when I was born. It was FIL who saw his grandchildren grow up- my father died before I was even married.
I got pregnant the first time at 37yrs and the first time at 39yrs.
Do whatever suits you.

One thing I do know is that I have never met a person who has regretted having children. They just might have changed the timing a bit.

You might never have met anyone who has admitted to regretting having a child Woodland because it is the last taboo to admit that, but there have been plenty of threads here on Mumsnet where people have discussed candidly that, whilst they of course loved their child/ren, they wished they had made other choices in life.

I can't imagine even wanting them for another 10 years at least. I'm 26. My mum was 42 when I was bird though so to me it's normal. I find it weird people have kids so young but each to their own. Not for me though that's for sure.

I had my first at very almost 31 and my second at very almost 33 and feel like I would potentially like another two! Will try for similar age gap (2yrs) next time. As above the idea of someone having children sub 30 - especially in the area I live (SW London, lots of professional women) - seems very young. I only have two friends who had babies sub 30, one of which had no career to speak of and the other who gave hers up at 28...

You dont have to give up a career jusy because you have had them young. I have worked full time for years so far and have 3 of them.

I have just had my third at 35, so no.

But, in your position, a bigger issue for me would be whether I wanted to go back to the baby years and to juggle the needs of a much younger child with the two older ones. Mine are only 5 and 3, but for me personally, I couldn't have done it with a bigger gap.

No!
It's not too old.
I'm ttc and I'm 36.
My eldest is 20 this year :)

Don't be silly.

You're right, I hadn't thought about the confounding issues. Garn it.

I stand by the getting mind and body in the same place at the same time bit though!

I don't know how anyone can afford to have them young these days.

I was older that that when I had my first one!

How weird. I am 40 and have a 3 month old and no-one batted an eyelid. Most of my friends were mid 30s when they started.

The midwife who induced me said that these days she considered 50+ to be an 'older mother' - not 40.

YABU.

Are you serious? My mum had me at 35. My grandmother had her at 40. I had my baby at 33. Of course 35 isn't too old. Different strokes for different folks but having a baby in my early 20s would definitely not have been for me.

And my paternal granny had 7 kids and my dad was her 7th at 42.

my first child was at 37. so no, not too old.

I'm 36, 25 wks pregnant and have exactly that gap - oldest is 9 and youngest is 7. I hope it's not too old. They're thrilled and very excited. Husband had got more and more excited as the pregnancy has progressed and we've remembered all the best bits of their early years. We're not dwelling on all the difficult bits ;-).

I personally think that older parents are better. You don't want to be 70-80 and still looking after elderly parents. Plus, the children tend to receive inheritance at a more useful age. This maybe a bit of a morbid post but I think it's a factor worth highlighting.

I STARTED having babies at 35!

I was 35, 37 and 40

so no, it isn't too old

I had 4 dc at 35, 37, 38 and 40. I don't feel too old. I fell pregnant first time with all four. My early 30s was when I experienced infertility and a stillbirth.

I am tired, I have 4 young dcs! I would have felt tired doing that in my 20s also. I do it without any family support. I spent my 20s and early 30s travelling. Apart from the stillbirth of my daughter, I regret nothing... It works for us, despite the chaos. I'd still have another should nature find a way of subverting contraception! I'm 43!

YANBU. Just shy of 36 when my twins were born. My other twin mum friend was 38! They say the older you get the less sleep you need so in theory it should actually get easier :-)

Well, seeing that I had my first at 37, I would say, no, it's not too old
I was 37, 38, 42 and 44 for mine and all was well re pregnancies, deliveries and looking after them.

There are so many of these threads and I really don't think that there is 'right' age to have children, only a right age for you.

Re fertility : we are at our most fertile in our late teens/early 20s and there is a gradual decline after than. There is no 'fertility drops off a cliff after 35' - it's widely reported myth.

If you are keen, your DH is on board and it's right for your family then there's no reason why you should not try.

and Pacific fertility is personal my periods were irregular until my late 20s, I find out hard to believe I was more fertile then!

Some women may be more fertile at 35 then start to decline lager than 20 its all about averages.

later not lager and more fertile at 35 than at 20. That has to one of the most non sensical sentences I've ever seen on mn!