to feel uncomfortable mentioning this?

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Am going away shortly with my DP for a couple of nights to somewhere v expensive/luxurious as a treat for both of us.

It looks, and I'm sure will be pretty incredible and I am (we both are in fact) really excited about going. But I feel quite uncomfortable about mentioning it to pretty much anyone, in fact I haven't told a single person I know in RL, because it costs more a night than some people I know pay in rent for a month and I don't want to be accused of being a show-off/boasting (stealth or otherwise).

DP says we both work hard and deserve a treat, and whilst he's not madea big song and dance about it, he has mentioned it to several people he knows - his argument is that anyone who is a genuine friend, even if they are in a far worse financial position, would be happy for us...I'm just not that sure people's emotions are that straightforward

Only in the UK would we call someone a nob for spending their hard earned money on a fantastic weekend and telling people they have saved or worked harder to afford it

its a suffoctaing mind set it really is.

You're over thinking it.

If someone asks, tell them! I wouldn't think someone I knew was "insensitive" for sharing that they were going to stay at luxury hotel.

Fear of being "insensitive" over the tiniest thing makes life utterly joyless.

I'd really like to stay at Babington House (once queried how much weddings are there, wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry!) and would be bouncing off the walls if I was going. I doubt the majority of people I know have heard of it or would be arsed to google it either!

""Only in the UK would we call someone a nob for spending their hard earned money on a fantastic weekend and telling people they have saved or worked harder to afford it ""

Totally agree.

We need people to spend money and buy goods that have not come from China or Bangladesh.

It seems to be a bit of a MN 'thing' to feel the need to be apologetic for being anything except absolutely skint. It's probably something else that almost no-one IRL ever thinks about.

And YY to those that say that many of those that express jealously about nice holidays etc are often spending their money elsewhere.

OK, yes, there are lots of people that can't even afford the basics, but there are plenty of others that spend a lot on things like cigarettes, daily bought lunches, new mobiles every few months and 'disposable' fashion. Someone is keeping all the coffee shops/Greggs etc in business.

Someone getting a £2 coffee and bacon butty from Greggs every morning might think they aren't being extravagent, but do that every working day and it costs nearly £500 per year, which would pay for a week's holiday abroad or whatever.

SIL and BIL are a case in point. They are currently stressing about having to replace a broken washing machine and are so 'woe is me, it's so unfair' whereas I would just think 'you can get a new one for £200/300 quid - meh'.

They both work full time and earn about the same as we do, and they can't understand why we are comfortable and can afford holidays, new washing machine without worrying etc, whereas they are constantly skint and 'can't afford anything nice'. They both smoke and have iphone 5s on contract - that alone costs about £500 pm for two people, but they don't see the connection .

Yes... I think that is true. I recently gave up booze. (gave up for Lent- carried on). I, myself alone, have saved over £400. It's only been 4 months. £1200 off a year, just me. It's mind boggling really when you do the maths.

As for saving, I have to mention my prudence acquiescence to my son. My gas and electricity is down from £1476 pa to £800 pa and water down from £333 to £204. How? I used uSwitch (a doddle) to change supplier for gas and electricity and had a water meter installed. I've never smoked and don't buy wine as often as I used to. Well done CornChips for saving that amount just by not buying so much booze.

Why do you need to tell anybody unless they actively ask you what you did that weekend?

It's not something I would mention, but then we generally don't speak about how much we have or how much we spend.