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to feel uncomfortable mentioning this?

132 replies

feelsawkward · 08/07/2014 19:29

Am going away shortly with my DP for a couple of nights to somewhere v expensive/luxurious as a treat for both of us.

It looks, and I'm sure will be pretty incredible and I am (we both are in fact) really excited about going. But I feel quite uncomfortable about mentioning it to pretty much anyone, in fact I haven't told a single person I know in RL, because it costs more a night than some people I know pay in rent for a month Blush and I don't want to be accused of being a show-off/boasting (stealth or otherwise).

DP says we both work hard and deserve a treat, and whilst he's not madea big song and dance about it, he has mentioned it to several people he knows - his argument is that anyone who is a genuine friend, even if they are in a far worse financial position, would be happy for us...I'm just not that sure people's emotions are that straightforward Confused

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ajandjjmum · 08/07/2014 21:31

That will be fabulous! I would love to stay there.

Jealous of your job Lambzig - stayed in the Sydney hotel and it was brilliant.

AnyFucker · 08/07/2014 21:33

OP, do you always self sabotage your own nice treats ?

You are spoiling it for yourself

Lighten up, ffs

maddening · 08/07/2014 21:34

Have a lovely time - see if there are any shows on while you are in London! A treat is a treat - loads of people do vastly expensive things that I could not afford - I enjoy hearing about them - anyone that would feel put out by you sharing nice news about a special trip away is a jealous twat.

I remember a rich girl at school - dad was a pilot she had horses etc - said after pe "I can't believe that we are going to the Seychelles again this year - it's the sixth time I want to go somewhere else" and another time "I can't believe that we have to go to LA for Easter - I want to go skiing " now she was spoiled! This is totally in the realms of normal - enjoy it - you don't have to crow about it but mentioning it to your friends is fine and am sure they will enjoy talking about it - mentioning places that you must see and tips on where to eat - it is fun to share someone else's excitement.

QueenBean · 08/07/2014 21:38

bearbehind - first page, thecuntureshow said "Your dp sounds like a nob. Hate show offs". Uncalled for and unfair.

Downamongtherednecks · 08/07/2014 21:40

BreadforBrains did you get the sea tractor to Burgh Island? I remember feeling a total idiot standing in a ballgown on the beach (DM's 50th) waiting for the tractor to come. have a lovely time OP, don't ruin something so nice for yourself!

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 08/07/2014 21:40

I really think you're over thinking this.

Bearbehind · 08/07/2014 21:40

I know queenbean I corrected myself on my next post- sorry- need glasses.

I do think it is interesting that the OP has disappeared now she's told everyone what hotel it is...........

VioletBrogues · 08/07/2014 21:42

I think you need to lighten up a bit and understand that most people give far less of a shit about what others are doing than you might think. Most people would just smile and wish you a nice time.

Who cares what others think anyway. Its your money. You can't please all the people all the time so you might as well just please yourself.

Even if you told me where it was it wouldn't mean a lot and I wouldn't be frantically googling to find out the price. in all honesty I probably wouldn't give it another thought after the conversation.

Don't spoil it for yourself OP. It sounds like a rare treat and hope you have a lovely time.

NCISaddict · 08/07/2014 21:43

Have a fabulous time OP. I felt the same when we flew to New York first class and kept having to tell people it was all done on air miles, not sure they cared either way.

Longdistance · 08/07/2014 21:45

Oh go enjoy yourself. It'll be fab. Go get spoilt.

Sod everyone else!

QueenBean · 08/07/2014 21:46

Oh sorry bearbehind, it crossed on to the next page so I missed it. That's two of us who need glasses!

alleypalley · 08/07/2014 21:59

Just googled it, looks lovely. We live within walking distance from that hotel, it's my 40th birthday next year, I may get a babysitter and me and dh spend the night there. Have fun and enjoy it.

bohoec · 08/07/2014 22:17

Amazing! Go, enjoy yourself and relax!

Do come back and let us live vicariously through you by telling us all about it.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 08/07/2014 22:22

Looks nice if you like that kind of thing. It would horrify me though (I hate heights and panoramic views)

Bearbehind · 08/07/2014 22:30

Slightly off topic- I can understand hating heights but how can you hate panoramic views- unless it's on a photo isn't a panoramic view just a normal view but moving your head round?

nokidshere · 08/07/2014 22:38

I would totally pay 875 per night for that iconic room - stunning! I would pay to stay at burghers island too!! And I would be so excited I would be telling all my friends about it and they would be as excited as me!!!

Looks awesome, stop worrying and enjoy x

BreadForBrains · 08/07/2014 22:47

Yes Bear, we did! We mainly walked back and forth as the tractor seemed to only rarely operate over the few days we were there but it was rickety and fun. Windy! But fun.
We've been back a couple of times to stay in Bigbury since, but the hotel was something else.

mumminio · 08/07/2014 22:58

You sound insecure. Go, enjoy, and return to regular life again. Simple. No need to say too much about it to your friends, if you don't want to.

mumminio · 08/07/2014 23:01

PS I think it's a bit mad to spend so much on a holiday unless it's from surplus money, and you have paid off your mortgage, saved for retirement, are eating good quality food etc. It's just a bit nouveau riche. Feel any better?

singaporefling · 08/07/2014 23:02

Sounds FABULOUS !! I would LOVE to stay there!! Have only ever stayed in a Shangri La in Singapore and it WAS amazing - just enjoy every single second..... Why shouldn't you?! Long time dead and all that....

WowserBowser · 08/07/2014 23:07

I've been to Burgh island. My ex boyfriends dad hired the hotel for his bday. Was v nice. Nicest beef I've had.

Anyhoo, back to thread! Enjoy op!

TheoriginalMrsDarcy · 09/07/2014 00:46

WOW!!! Just googled the hotel, it looks fabulous! Have a great time and enjoy yourself. You better stay in all night to get ur moneys worth. My hubby and I stayed in a hotel costing £350 a night, spent most of the evening at a friends 40th birthday. Came back at 2am. I made my hubby order room service and then get up at 8am for breakfast! I didn't even get a chance to test out any of the facilities/swimming pool etc, despite having paid a fortune for the privilege cos I was too hung over.

movingtoourwillow · 09/07/2014 01:57

Don't feel too guilty to enjoy the experience! Have an amazing stay and take advantage of all the facilities!

MidniteScribbler · 09/07/2014 02:56

A real friend won't care. I find the people who would be annoyed at you saying where you are going are the type of people who like to bring others down to make themselves feel better anyway.

I have an acquaintance like this. I made a comment on FB about getting to go backstage and meet the performers at an upcoming show I've booked tickets to, and got the usual sook about not being able to afford to do something like that. She has chosen her path in life, I chose mine. I have a lot of friends that are constantly getting free trips overseas to judge in our chosen sport and I see it all over social media. Good for them. They have put the hard work and effort in to their judging while I chose to focus on another aspect of the sport (where I'm lucky to get a free lunch in exchange for standing on my feet for twelve hours). My choice, their choice.

ArcheryAnnie · 09/07/2014 03:13

I'm another one who says do enjoy it, and don't worry about what other people think. If you are mentioning your trip to a friend who is struggling a bit, just say "a hotel in London" if you don't want to be flash about it.

Come back here and post a photo of the view from your hotel room!