to feel uncomfortable mentioning this?

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Am going away shortly with my DP for a couple of nights to somewhere v expensive/luxurious as a treat for both of us.

It looks, and I'm sure will be pretty incredible and I am (we both are in fact) really excited about going. But I feel quite uncomfortable about mentioning it to pretty much anyone, in fact I haven't told a single person I know in RL, because it costs more a night than some people I know pay in rent for a month and I don't want to be accused of being a show-off/boasting (stealth or otherwise).

DP says we both work hard and deserve a treat, and whilst he's not madea big song and dance about it, he has mentioned it to several people he knows - his argument is that anyone who is a genuine friend, even if they are in a far worse financial position, would be happy for us...I'm just not that sure people's emotions are that straightforward

Tell us!!!!!!!

I'm convinced this is some kind of variation on a reverse thread.

OP, if you are usually the frugal and thrifty type wouldn't everyone just assume you were saying in a Travellodge or similar if you told them you are going to London.

Are you sure it's not actually the case that you really want them to know you can afford to go to this posh place?

I've been to Burgh Island Hotel! It's beautiful

I was planning to just say we were off to London for a midweek break - but if anyone asks whereabouts we're staying (sod's law someone will, or ask what part of London the hotel's in) then I will be honest and tell them, but slightly hoping no-one does, and just asks about sightseeing and if we're going to Westfield etc!

bohoec you guessed it correctly btw.

I don't get it

So if it's an out of reach sort of place for most no one will have a clue what it costs

If someone told me they were going to , I don't know The Ritz or whatever's a posh hotel, I wouldn't know if it was £200 or £2000 a night unless I'd specifically enquired, which I wouldn't be doing if it wasn't the kind of place I could afford

Friend- 'are you doing anything nice next week?'

OP - 'yes- we're off for a short break in London- really looking forward to it'

Friend- 'oh lovely, whereabouts in London?

OP- 'it's a hotel near Convent Garden.'

Friend- 'I love the markets in Convent Garden'

End of conversation

there's simply no need to name the hotel unless you really actually want them to know.

Covent not Convent grr!

Coo there are some bitchy responses on here.

I have never in my life thought "oh I can't believe my friend is spending money on going to a swish hotel/restaurant/holiday, talk about FLASH!" I always think "how lovely, hope she has a good time"

If anyone in your life feels anything other than happy for you then fuck that noise. As someone once said "..those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"

Why do you care what other people will think? Anyone who's jealous or makes a snide comment has issues of their own to sort out.

Seriously op, you are overthinking! I wonder are you feeling guilty for spending so much, might that be why you are worrying? I honestly don't think very many people will be jealous of any holiday, how often do people say they are going to Florida etc? People cope with it! Just relax and enjoy! Believe me, it wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea anyway, plus most probs haven't heard of it!! Have a fantastic time!

well I haven't had a holiday since I was a child...and don't remotely resent you for having one! Just enjoy and don't worry

On reflection, even if you told most people the name of that hotel they'd have never heard of it- it sounds like it could be a B&B- it's not exactly as synonymous with opulence as the Savoy or the Ritz.

I used to work for an upmarket travel company and used to book holidays for people that cost as much as a house.

Back in the day when Concorde was still flying the rich, famous, crooks and Russians would stay at the K Club, Petit st Vincent, Curtain Bluff, Sandy Lane followed by renting Mick Jaggers villa on Mustique then charter a yacht around the BVI's, factoring Christmas premium rates a family of four could easily cost £180-£200K.

The Shangri La will be fantastic, don't worry about what people think, it's your money.

Btw the travel company in question used to pay about £12k to their travel consultants, I wasn't wealthy enough to stay in such luxury.

magic

Grumpy is right.
In my defence - I'm occasionally mostly nice.

Seriously though OP, just say you are going away to a nice hotel. I absolutely promise nobody is going to feel you are rubbing their nose in it.

They might if you umm and Ahhh and lie though...

i would sit up all night looking out of the window

I thought that, then I wondered what the point of paying £400 a night to look out of the window was.

It looks lovely but I'm not sure I could blow £800 on 2 nights for it but each to their own.

I think if you do tell people exactly where it is they are likely to think you are bonkers if it's not the kind of thing you or they would usually do.

My BIL was/is rich, he used to travel on Concorde, mainly to Barbados, we struggled day to day, I never resented it.

Their holidays cost twice as much as my house.

My DD and her DP have done well, they go to festivals around the world and have at least one luxury holiday, the DM republic/Mexico etc staying in suites with jacuzzis etc.

I can't afford what two of my children can.

That's life, we are constantly surrounded by things out of our reach, you've just got to get over it.

As long as it's not done with arrogance, you should be able to share your good times, with friends/family.

Please do give us feedback on your trip OP.

you will have a fab time. just enjoy! if your friends care about you, they'll be happy for you.

Or you could say it like this:

"We're off to London for the weekend."

"Oh how nice, where are you staying?"

"Bermondsey."

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I'm sure you'll have a lovely time, but personally, I'd rather stay in the Corinthia, Claridge's, the Goring Hotel or Rosewood. I don't think the Shangri-la is quite "there" yet. Apart from the view, it doesn't really have a lot to offer.

Some really weird, horrible responses on here. Those that say op's husband "sounds like a nob" - so horrible! Really no need.

Op, it's your money to spend as you wish. It's lovely that you're trying not to rub people's faces in it and that's a considerate thing to do but definitely don't cover it up if asked. Enjoy your stay! You'll have a brilliant time!!

OP, I had the shangri la group as a client of mine for a number of years. Part of my job was to stay in their hotels worldwide (best gig I ever had).

They really are fabulous, the attention to detail is amazing. You will have a great time.

Borough market and the lovely shops and restaurants there are on your doorstep, definitely worth going.

I always wanted to go to Burgh Island, but then we had the DC.

Intrigued by the boutique hotel in Cornwall mentioned above and wondered if it was the 'not really worth it' one I stayed at. In place with initials SM?

I always found staying in amazing hotels made me slightly dissatisfied with my lot on our return (totally unreasonably) Beware!

I grew up by burgh island.

Don't worry about others op. Enjoy your treat.

Some people can get jealous and bitchy though. I have a friend who moans about me and dh going abroad every year because it's not fair. But, she can't have holidays as she got into huge amount of debt and had to have an IVA and as soon as she gets paid she goes out buying shoes, clothes and make up and eats out a lot. We have always been careful with money, don't buy lots of clothes or eat out often so we can afford holidays. There's nothing unfair about what we can afford.

Those that say op's husband "sounds like a nob" - so horrible! Really no need.

Eh- where did anyone say that?

Sorry- just seen it- I know I can be a bit harsh but I do agree that was uncalled for.