Was DH unreasonable to ask the neighbour's kids

[differenttoyou]

to go inside at 9.40 this morning. There were 3 of them and they'd been outside on their trampoline (which buts right up to the fence) since 8.00 am singing at the top of their voices. Eventually we couldn't take it any longer as they started to sing a song from Frozen and they ramped up the volume until they were virtually screaming. DH called over the fence and asked them to go and sing inside.

Oh yes, kids shouldn't have rights.

In actual fact they should be seen and not heard .. like the good ol' days when you could give em a good slap to teach em right or wrong.

Oh no ... wait a minute, weren't the kids all playing out in the streets in those days? Presumably making noise ...

Where did I say kids shouldn't have rights?

I honestly despair at the number of numpties who think that its perfectly ok for children to make any level of noise they like in the garden just because they are children.

Rather than op having to move to the middle of nowhere [hmm?] for peace and quiet, how about the neighbours move to the middle of nowhere so that their noisy offspring can't bother anyone?

^ STUPID ARGUMENT ^ put forward by fools.

If you live in a densely populated area then too right you need to be mindful of the impact of your noise on other people.

Equally Mintyy what kind of halfwit thinks yelling over the fence at children to get out of their own garden and go back inside is the answer?

The problem was not that they were in the garden. The problem was that they were noisy. Therefore the obvious request is to 'keep it down' not 'go inside'. Horrible oppressive behaviour from an adult man to children in their own garden.

Arguably much better for him to him have knocked on front door and spoken to the parents too.

"DH called over the fence and asked them to go and sing inside"

that sounds perfectly reasonable to me. I can't detect any aggression from what op has said.

I didn't mention aggression. I said 'oppressive'. It IS oppressive to tell someone else's children to go inside.

On the other hand he could have quiet reasonably asked for quiet, preferably via the parents.

I disagree.

Tra la la.

I think the telling the dc to go inside might have resolved it for him that moment but it's done nothing long term. Which is why I (and many others) said it would have been better to have a friendly chat with the parents about maybe setting some ground rules on noise before certain time - it seems that's still not been done and now you are suffering even earlier noise - which is definitely at an unreasonable time.

I don't see that it was a problem that he spoke directly to the children... children need to learn that their actions can impact on others...

Yes shouting over a fence is the way too teach children not to make too much noise in the garden.

It's like the idiots that think smacking teaches a child not too hit.

Great logic.

i'd have asked if they take requests.
DO you wanna build a snoooooooooooowmaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan

Who said anything about yelling or shouting. Yet another extrapolation.

"He's a bit of a fixer upper!!!"

Me too coraltoes

Sorry, he stood next to the fence, waited for a break in their really loud singing and screaming, then whispered for them to go inside - without the slightest hint of aggression or anger.

Is that the tale your peddling?

different you know full well that your DH got dressed up in his Child Snatcher suit, snuck along the fence and then lept out at the kids, screaming and yelling to get away:

"You, yes you, innocent angels with rights. Get the fuck away to the far side of fuck and fucking stay there you horrible, nasty, stupid children.

"Run now," he shrieked, "or I will eat you alive."

And he has done it before, too. Nasty, shouty man! Should be shot...

That thing with the reindeer is really outside of nature laws

I LOVE the way Kristoff talks in Sven's voice, it's the best thing about the whole movie.

Tut Tut Nomama, don't you know he was whispering?!

Dispite becoming more and more worked up for the past hour and half he was the very essence of calmness and control.

And dispite the unreasonable level of the neighbours concert (Glastonbury levels I think) they were able to hear this calm whisper

Dear different I know I've been a bit of a clown with this and that you have asked a perfectly reasonable AIBU and responded well far better than I. Would you please give us an update if a repeat 'performance' occurs soon, or not as the case may be, or some kind of action taken.

If he didn't shout, how did they hear him over the performance?

You seem to be writing your own script here Mayhem

I actually don't think your DH was being an arse or anything else. That would have done my head in.

8am on a Sunday morning is not acceptable and I also have young children. I also think that anything before 10 on a Sunday is early. I have health problems and am utterly exhausted and have to lie in weekends in an attempt to catch up on sleep, ok the world can't fall in with my lie ins but I would not be happy about kids being allowed to go outside making a ridiculous amount of noise early at weekends (or weekdays actually, this morning they were taking the piss).

There is no need for it. I bet the parents were having a lie in themselves and let their kids do what they want in the mornings. Why would they care if they are at the front and can't hear.

Well of course the parents next door were originally in the wrong (allowing their DC to be too noisy and at an anti-social hour).

But the DH has lost the moral high ground by issuing orders beyond his remit to neighbours children, thereby making himself look a twat.

OP has made herself sound an even bigger, massive twat by announcing comparative housing tenure of herself and her neighbour as if it had any relevance whatsoever. Then making pathetic retrospective attempts to invent a relevance.

My kids make a noise in the garden.

I am up with them. I wouldn't dream of laying in bed while the kids played outside.

Why assume the parents are in bed?

What kind of generation are we rearing if a few kids can't be asked by a neighbour if they could take their singing inside now as the neighbours would like a break from it. (Having listened to it for an hour and forty minutes early on a Sunday morning before saying anything).