Was DH unreasonable to ask the neighbour's kids

[differenttoyou]

to go inside at 9.40 this morning. There were 3 of them and they'd been outside on their trampoline (which buts right up to the fence) since 8.00 am singing at the top of their voices. Eventually we couldn't take it any longer as they started to sing a song from Frozen and they ramped up the volume until they were virtually screaming. DH called over the fence and asked them to go and sing inside.

I think after an hour and a half of top of the voice singing, it's perfectly acceptable.

No acceptable if they'd just got going, but an hour and a half that loud at any time is instructive, irritating, and unreasonable.

Yes, I suppose it is easier to order children inside than speak to parents and actually use manners.

The house would be suffocating at 8am
If you closed windows & doors on that side of the house
Really ?

This is why we no longer live in the UK. All this neighbour angst...

It sounds really annoying, op. Our neighbours' kids are the same - always really noisy, all hours of the day and into the evening. Our neighbours couldn't care less about how annoying it is, there would be no point in speaking to them. I think it would be more effective to address it with the kids tbh.

And FYI. He should have said something at 8am. By 940 am, it's perfectly reasonable to spend as many hours you like on the trampoline.

Seriously, an adult calling to a few kids "please go and sing inside" or suchlike is unreasonable? He should move/speak to the parents/something else ott?

Seems fine. Kids were extra loud, neighbour asked them to take that specific noise elsewhere.

At 9.30am my kids were in the garden, bouncing on the trampoline, possibly singing Frozen songs I try not to listen.

When we first moved in I wouldn't let them out before 10.30 on a Sunday.

But then I found out my neighbours turned out to be rude inconsiderate arseholes so now I'm not too bothered when they go out.

You might find you've just shot yourself in the foot. I agree with a pp that it will be a long hard summer for you .. and I think your dh may have just made it a lot harder.

My kids love nothing more than a good screaming competition when my neighbours have been particularly awful

I don't think your DP was unreasonable although it would have been better if he had tried asking them to be quieter first.

I think playing outside before 9 at the weekend (esp. Sunday) is too early.

Later in the day they can be noisy, although mindless shrieking and screaming is really irritating at any time.

All screaming from kids is mindless.

The sun glows bright on the trampoline, a dozen kids to be seen.

A kingdom of isolation, with your husband as the king?

The noise was howling like a swirling storm outside,

Couldn't force them in, heaven knows he tried?

He couldn't hold it back any more?

Did the kids turn away and slam the door?

He didn't care what the parents were going to say?

Did the singing rage on when they went inside?

The noise never bothered me anyway.

YABU

I would be mortified if this happened where my children's loud playing was annoying our neighbours on a regular basis and would want to know it was a problem. That said i do feel it is unquestionably rude to tell other people's children to leave their own garden and go inside and sing esp at that time, even at 8.00 am tbh - before 8.00am though and your dp wnhbu.

It is reasonable, in the course of meeting their parents in the street or over the garden fence to bring the subject up just to let them know you find loud play disruptive early in the weekend morning.

Aldous Huxley - fitional but ultimately true and the same for Golding and his Lordy Flies, We all live close together, except for the rural dwellers and even then the open space makes sound travel. And even then, So much more in life to get off pissed off about. doubt hubby never annoyed anyone when he was a child. NOT. Tell him to get a grip - we're all living the same thing - baby, kid, teen, young adult, older adult, parent, grandparent, dead, Big houses little houses, status careers, jobs, marxist explained mass-unemployment. Big wages, lots of little wages to hrelp the big wages be bigger. The majority getting by and coping with mediocrity. Kids making kid noise? He's being an UR arse.

I would have chosen one of two options:

A) Open the window wide and make outrageous sex sounds, with lots of screaming, moaning and bed screeching until the sweet darlings shut up..

B) If they had actually woken me up at 8 am on a Sunday, I would probably just screamed "SHUT THE F* UP!!!" from the bedroom at the top of my lungs (after all, I would be inside of my house and at that time in the morning, I would have the right to make as much noise as I wanted and use as much profanity as I wanted).

Are people really asking why he did not go and talk to the parents? Well, it's bloody obvious: it was Sunday morning, he was trying to sleep and likely wearing underwear or nothing. If he had to get up, get dressed and walk to the neighbours, he would have to leave the bed, and hence what the hell would be the point of complaining.

But hey, I am hot-blooded and have always believed kids are tougher and can deal with much more than most people here, which would probably feel the need to take them to the child psychiatrist after the traumatising event. As if kids couldn't deal with being told to shut up.

Before 9am YANBU
After 9AM YABU.

Not unreasonable at all. Children bouncing on a trampoline is one thing but screaming and singing at the top of their voices is another. It's not about children playing, it's about noise level and consideration for others on a Sunday morning.

As long as your husband said it politely, I can't see an issue.Why weren't their own parents telling them about the noise?

The parents probably told them to move the trampoline to the other side of the garden, by the neighbours' window, so they wouldn't bother them LuluJackey :P

He did the right thing.

If this was an adult screaming in a garden for an hour and 40 mins on a Sunday morning (or any other time of the day) people wouldn't be so forgiving. It's pretty lax to be allowing them to make such a racket for so long on their parents part.

The noise of (another bloody) trampoline would drive be bananas anyway.

Seems perfectly reasonable to me. When my children were younger and had friends round sometimes they got very rowdy (especially the girls). I considered it part of my neighbourly duty to tell them to keep it down. The world doesn't belong to them and why should they make it unpleasant for other people? I don't think it is unreasonable to want to enjoy your garden at the weekend, and no one has a right to be shouting and screaming without getting told to be quiet or take their shouting and screaming elsewhere.

I don't think that just because it's not the crack of dawn that it's OK to create a nuisance. Children can play very happily without screaming. Better to make a fuss before it gets intolerable though.

This morning they were out there at 6.15 am

Were you still in bed at 9.40? I'm jealous.

It is ureasonable to expect people always to be ressonable. All the other crap aside, I know I've been dragged over the edga by the singing of my little angles ... think "rusty saw" and "squeaky seesaw" ...
Problem is trying to be too reasonable and not telling the little buffets to shut up or go away early enough. Ie before getting too wound up for human reasoning.
Um that'll be why the parents sent them "outside if you're going to make that horrible noise!"
"That's not an inside voice, is it?"

Ahem

... Doooooo ewe waaaAAnna BilD a snOWMaaaaan? (Squicky, erk, squicky, erk, squicky, erk ....)

god what a nightmare. i don't think he was wrong - they needed telling to pipe down no matter what time of day it was and the parents were doing bugger all to control their kids.

I have two noisy daughters and I wouldn't like them screaming their heads off in the garden, whatever the time of day. It's inconsiderate. Of course children's play can be raucous, and I think that's fine, but sustained shouting/screaming is awful to listen to for most people and parents should be mindful of the fact that there isn't an invisible forcefield dividing their gardens from everyone else's.

I've lived next door to a screamer. It's awful and I don't blame your husband for cracking. He didn't tell them to go in did he, just to sing indoors.