to be hurt that someone brought out a bday cake for someone else on my bday

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I was at my partner's family bbq on my birthday. The bbq was pre arranged but everyone did know it was my birthday and they did all say they hoped i would have a good day and a happy birthday when i came in which I thought was nice.
I didnt expect any cards or presents. When the food was finisihed I helped take some plates into the kitchen and I saw a birthday cake and didnt say anything as I thought it was supposed to be a surprise. My partners aunty came into the living with the cake and then announed that the cake was for her sister whose birthday it was in 4 days time and could we all sing happy birthday.I felt really embarrased that I had thought the cake was for me and then felt so awkward singing happy birthday on my actual birthday to someone whose birthday it wasnt!

My embarrassment turned to hurt however as I felt that was a horrid thing to do. Maybe it was just a general oversight and she didnt think, but I cant help but wonder if she just didnt want the cake to be shared with me.

My partner has apologised to me over it but no one else has said anything. They just acted awkward.

This event has really upset me. Am I too old to be being upset about my bda? am i unreasonable?

Why would you be affronted? A bit embarassed or self concious maybe, but affronted?

sorry vintage that's me slipping into local talk. I'm from Co Antrim where 'I was clean affronted' is commonly used to mean 'I was a bit embarassed'.

Fair enough. But I still could not imagine bringing out a birthday cake on someone's birthday and not including her in it. It just sounds odd.

I'm clean affronted now for using the word affronted in the wrong context.

I think they were thoughtless and YANBU to be a little upset over it. Hopefully all the Happy Birthday wishes here have cheered you up. Have another virtual slice from me

It is the simple thing to do but until someone suggested it on the thread I didn't think of it so maybe they didn't either until 6 hours later at which point they hid their face under the duvet cringeing.

Omg, the reverse if this was on the wyoo page on the babycentre.co.uk website a few days ago. General consensus was the aunt was bu.

Well when nobody sang a joint Happy Birthday, why didn't the partner lead a round of HB?

I would have been upset by this OP I can't really understand the posters who don't seem to understand this. I too would have been embarrassed and then upset.

Happy birthday OP .

Thanks Betty. I'm sure most would be upset. There is always one who doesn't agree lol

Thank you to all who wrote happy birthday for the belated birthday wishes :-)