To think party mum should have checked before giving out inappropriate prizes

[SoonToBeSix]

Genuinely don't know if I am being unreasonable. I was at a birthday party today with three year old ds and he won musical bumps. He was swiftly handed a packet of haribo . I tried to encourage him to " save" them for later ie I would put them in by bag and through them away but he was so upset I let him have them.
I do not give my dc sweets ever with the exception of a small amount of chocolate at Easter from well meaning relatives. Most eggs get given away.
I really feel she should have checked first before handing them out.

Why MTWTFSS?

Fair enough, it's your choice but what do you think might happen that requires all the exclamation marks.

No not haribo but I could go a freddo u love freddos

MrsJ, but why is one decision - to not let your child eat meat- seen as more acceptable than another - not letting your 3 yo eat sweets?

Kurri, see, I don't think it is appropriate for a 3 yo. We obviously have different ideas - why do you think yours are 'right'?

Why is there this expectation for party food to be 'crap' anyway?

Go easy on the exlamation marks there MTW - it's only a bag of haribo!!!

Loxley - would you say to a vegetarian - "it's only a cocktail sausage/ham sandwich etc?"

Because Bumbley, crap food ie cake, sweets, chocolate etc whilst not necessarily very good for you tastes great. And it's a party. So it's a celebration. Not the place for dull food

But if the OP didn't want 3 yo to eat sweets why not say in advance. If a child was vegetarian a parent would tell the host this in advance...

The host can't be expected to be a mind reader and sweets at a party aren't unexpected

Haha check with yiu first,what like a disclaimer list and do and dont
It was spontaneous and appropriate,you're being dreadfully angst about sweet fa

Cakes sweets are the norm at parties for children these things taste nice they have no health benefits they just taste nice and for generations these things have been served at parties the op reaction to a teeny tiny packet of haribo was Hysterical im sticking to that, the child is 3yrs old not a baby he can chew a sweetie

YABU perhaps you should avoid all birthday parties in the future as Haribos at birthday parties are par for the course.

Is this for real?!

YANBU not to let your DC have haribo but YABveryU to think the host of the party should check with each parent before giving out sweets. It was YOUR responsibility to inform them beforehand.

It was a bit silly for you to be watching them play musical bumps and it not cross your mind that sweets might be given out as a prize. Especially as it's not your PFB.

YABU. I think you need to remember that the party wasn't about your child..

Op Is that you gwyneth?
Look a packet of fags and can special brew is inappropriate
A packet haribo is wholly appropriate

Haribo "inappropriate" at a 3yo's birthday party.

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OP, I've been on MN a long time and seen some incredibly precious parenting, but you are absolutely in my top 5 Most Ridiculously Precious Parenting Moments Ever.

Sorry.

Is forcing vegetarianism on kids ok too now??

"Is forcing vegetarianism on kids ok too now?? "

How on earth do you "force vegetarianism" on anyone?

"I utterly forbid you to eat that sausage"
"Eat this carrot or I'll beat you to a pulp"

Time to update the 'only on mumsnet' thread with this load of bullshit little gem.

YABU I thought the party mum was handing out pile dancing toy kits as prizes and what condition does your dd2 have which means she can never have sweets ever? Even diabetics can has small amounts and there are sweets with natural flavourings / colourings suitable for those with allergies.

I've always taken the line that as long as their diet is good the majority of the time my dcs can choose what they want at their birthday parties. So often it's Doritos, monster munch, quavers, chocolate fingers, party rings, mini sausages & scotch eggs, cupcakes and lots of different drinks including water, though I also provide a big platter of strawberries, grapes, fresh pineapple chunks as these are popular too.

I always know which dcs have the food police parents as they are the ones still pigging out on the contraband when everyone else has long finished and chasing balloons around the hall.

Pole dancing toy kits!

Truffle you obviously haven't read my posts, I have a teenage dd. She eats sweets as I feel she is old enough to decide for herself. She doesn't go crazy, has them
less than weekly.
Once my dc start going places without me I am not going to be phoning ahead forbidding anyone to give them sweets. Although I won't buy them myself. . ( my 10 year old can't for medical reasons) . My objection was that he is so little and I was right there so should have been asked first.

scottishmummy now that would be a party game I'd like to play

I hope the mother of the child whose party you went to reads this, and takes this all on board before inviting you round again. She was probably fretting about that party, that everything was lovely and perfect, she probably spent quite a bit of money as well, and here you are bitching about her daring to give your child a tiny bag of sweets as a prize. You really are something else. Pretentious is one way of putting it, but you come across as plain ungrateful.

And how would asking you first have worked? You would have been asked, said no and he would have had to do what? Sit out? Hand over the prize to you and sit there left out and upset while all the other children had their sweeties?

Yabu, it's not like she has a joint wrapped under each layer!

Fucking hell I thought I was going to read that they'd given out alcohol or something.

It's a sweet.

Get a grip. You are being unreasonable