To not take teenage DD on holiday to Disneyworld Florida?

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I have booked our first ever overseas holiday to Disneyworld Florida in August. It is a major thing for us and we have saved for it for a long time. There will be myself, DH, DD1 (age 20) DS1 (age 18) DD2 (age 17), DS2 (age 9) and DD3 (age 7).

It is costing an absolute fortune but is a trip of a lifetime for us. Due to the cost, we have said to the older DCs that they need to have saved enough money to pay for their food, accommodation and spending money. They all have jobs and still live at home although DS1/DD2 only work part time as they are at college. They earn enough to be able to save enough though.

Yesterday, I had a massive argument with DD2 as she is not saving any money and I told her she is not coming unless she can pay her way. She said fine she won't come then. I was furious at her mouthing off so taking her at her word, I have changed the plane ticket in her name to that of DD1's friend who has said she will be delighted to come and will pay for her ticket so we at least get some money back on it. DH agreed with this as he does not want her to come due to her disgusting attitude in general. She is spiteful and nasty to her siblings and seems to hate all of us!

I have told her that she will have to stay with my sister while we are away as I am worried she will have people around while we're not here.

She could not believe I had actually changed the plane ticket and is quite upset about it today.

WIBU?

You have not been unreasonable here, OP - you have been wicked and cruel.

I would imagine you will lose your daughter over this. My heart goes out to her totally.

Your poor daughter, you and your DH sound horrid. YABU.

Apples and trees op.

OK you got me! I was the DD. It was quite a few years ago now. Don't know why I'm dwelling on it tonight. Probably because we have just booked to go to Florida next year with our DCs for the first time and my DD is 17 and at college but I would not ask her for any money towards it.

The holiday was actually over Christmas and New Year not in August and they did not even leave me a Christmas present to open on Christmas Day. I got a tacky $10 necklace when they came back.

I earnt less than £80.00 back then but I can't remember exactly how much. I worked in a coffee shop after college and at weekends. The £30.00 keep is correct.

Sorry for the reverse! My mother thought nothing of it and she was able to change the name on the ticket. It was actually my brother's girlfriend who went and in the end my parents did not take any money from any of the older ones for food etc. I am NC now!

Your mum is bitch, OP.

Ajandjjmum

Assuming this isn't a troll thread (?!) then if it's true, I suspect the dh is father to the two young children - the ones he is actually willing to pay for them to have somewhere to stay and food to eat. It's the ones he isn't father to he is not willing to provide food and a bed for on holiday.

It might be a reversey Percy?

If it is I'd suggest the "op's" daughter takes herself off to Ibiza for a summer week

Why on earth would you book your first ever family holiday abroad to fucking Disney land, don't you actually want to show your children some of the real world rather than taking them to somewhere bassed on films?

You make her pay keep (nearly 50% of her wage) even though she's still in full time education, not even uni, and under 18?
You think that contact lenses are a luxury and a waste of money
Your husband is open about how much he dislikes her. You support him in this.
You refer to her as spiteful and nasty to a bunch of strangers on the internet

I really hope you are a troll, as if all this is true, leaving her out of a holiday is the least of her worries

You're probably right Hula - I just wondered as they are all close in age, whether the older ones were a mixture of his and hers, iykwim!

Hope that you have a lovely holiday with your daughter and can put it all behind you now.

Cross posted- good for you op, your step dad sounds like a douche bag. I hope you enjoy your own Florida trip.

Maybe break the NC for a moment and send a lovely Mickey Mouse postcard with fuck off written on it

The contact lenses thing was because all through school I had to wear those awful NHS 'owl' specs. I felt so fucking ugly that as soon as I got a job I got contact lenses and finally started getting male attention! They cost quite a lot back then and my mother was not happy about it 'wasteful' apparently.

To be honest OP I think it was a small price to pay to leDn what cunts your parents are.

Just on the off chance you are a real poster - you obviously can't afford this holiday so booking it was a stupid thing to do. You would have been better going somewhere you can afford every member of the family to go without this type of pish.

Bet she's probably glad at the thought of a week without you and her step dad making her life miserable.

just saw the reverse, sorry. Although YABVU for doing a reverse thread. Why not just ask for opinions like a normal person?

This isn't going to go well OP. Lots of people get really, really annoyed by reverses on here!

This all goes to prove that people don't read the thread! I expect OP is now stuck with people only reading the start.

Younger two stepdad's DC.

OP - I'm so sorry. What a shit Mum. Glad you've got a real family now, who love and deserve you.

I can't think why you are NC with your lovely mother! What a cow.

It probably is the booking of your holiday bringing it back.

Umm. Okaaaay.

Shoot sorry it took me so long to write something that I wouldn't get banned for that I missed the reverse update

Sorry if I annoyed anyone but thank you all for validating me.

OP: just seen it's a reverse thread.

I'm really sorry you had that experience in your childhood and growing up.

As you can see on here, pretty much everyone agrees that it was an awful thing to do.

I'm not surprised you're NC.

I hope you have much better thugs in your life now.