To want to shout at this bloody child..

[Wilberforce2]

Not sure if I'm being a bit precious but this is driving me mental.

Every Tuesday my ds does rugby 4-5 and as they are only reception and year 1 all of the parents stay. I like staying and enjoy watching him but one of the little girls of another parent is doing my head in. I have a 4 month old dd and every week this little girl does not leave her alone, constantly plays with the hood on the pram (pushing it backwards and forwards), putting her fingers in the babies mouth, kissing her on the lips, takes her toys/muslin off of her, pokes her eyes it just goes on and on. Last week this girl had a heavy cold and was constantly wiping snot around her face then walked over to dd in her pram (I dared to take my eyes off of her for a second) and stuck her fingers in her mouth, Friday my dd gets an awful cold. The mum just laughs and says "oh she is so motherly" or "she just loves babies" but I want her to tell her to leave her alone for one fricking second. Today I told the girl no a few times and had a couple of looks from the mum who then said "oh *** come over here darling I don't think you are wanted" but I can't just watch her prod and poke her for an hour, she was trying to put a pine cone in her mouth then whipped her with a muslin!

Am I being precious or would you keep telling the girl no? Little girl is 2 years old. Older brother is in my ds's class so I don't want to cause an argument.

Thing is, though, we are on t'internet and even though this child is real, the situation is pretty much "virtual" as we are all complete strangers!
I think "nasty" comments are therefore not to be taken too literally.

Usual it is not about being smug.

The other baby is 4 months old. What about her?

Doesn't she deserve not to be poked?

And the OP hasn't been nasty. I don't understand your stance on this one.

Everything that Bluebell said!

A 2 year old is fair game.

only if they're naturally inquisitive and have a snotty nose.

OP your anger is misplaced, the two year old is not your problem your inability to speak up for yourself is.

This is a very common situation, most people manage it without this much angst.

But what about the 4 month old baby usual?
You seem to be ignoring the fact that she keeps having her eyes and mouth poked.

Come off it.

Nothing bad has been said about the kid .

And what about the poor baby she pinched? I've got more sympathy for a baby who is poked and pinched than for a bored 2 year old whose mother believes in free range : distance parenting

Its not a competition, they are both small children. The Parents must intervene.

I'm guessing now... but it is possible OP was annoyed with herself for being such a wet blanket and came her to vent a bit.

Well she'll know better next time. YOU NAUGHTY MUMMY you MUST let all and sundry poke at and make your baby ill and the take the blame cos you is wet!

Wet I tells ya!

I don't think she should let her child be poked at. I think she should behave like a grown woman and navigate a very common situation without placing her anger on a 2,year old.

No they aren't both small children. One is small child, the other is a baby.

are babies only considered cute until they get to a certain age then?

there is an 8yo girl in DD's class who is all over my DSs when she sees them. 'I'm not sure he likes that' usually does the trick. this child is 6 years older though and badly behaved in general so doesn't even have an excuse

I agree Xx

There have been children/toddlers that I have found annoying in the past, especially ones with dried snot wiped all the way up their faces who then want to kiss my dc. I personally find it disgusting and if my dc has a cold I contantly wipe and clean his face/nose. There's no way in hell I'd leave him to touch/poke/pinch another child, regardless of age.

Yanbu imo to be feeling how you feel and I'm certain that no matter how pissed off you feel with this child you wouldn't shout at her. It's ok to not like everyones children!

.. the girl had a heavy cold was covered in snot that she was wiping around her face yet she was still allowed to breath over my 4 month old dd and put her fingers in her mouth.

Wilberforce, I realise you are very non-confrontational, but that phrase 'yet she was still allowed' is ludicrous. You are allowed (!) to stop other children from spreading snot onto your baby. You allowed her to get close enough to your baby to spread the cold.

Yes, her mother should be far better behaved, but you are a grown up now. You can be as rude and forthright and blunt as you like to other people's children.

I don't in any way think YABU! I'm well pissed off on your behalf in fact. When my son was only a few weeks old my friends child was about two and always wanted to hold his hand. Trouble was her way of doing it was by digging her nails in until he was screaming. No matter how I tried to get her to stop she'd continually have another go. It ended up with me making excuses not to meet up with my friend because her attitude was 'oh look at her - she's so maternal'. Hmmm.

Nowadays, friend or not I wouldn't put up with that. Your job is to protect your baby and to all the people telling you YABU - I bet it would be different if it was their baby.

Take the child back to her mother and tell her to keep her away from the pram. You're not destined to be friends anyway so why let the pair of them upset you. And yes I mean the two year old as well - why should other people have to police her - if the mother gets annoyed all the better. It might make her realise other people don't find her annoying child a pleasure and she might ask herself why.

And to all the people who say 'she's a baby ffs' its not your child she's poking at with snotty fingers and if it was you'd probably be a bit more understanding.

oh my god, there is something dodgy about people who want to be rude to a 2yo and assume they're being annoying rather than curious. wtf is wrong with people? OBVIOUSLY the baby shouldn't be poked or given a cold but there are non-cuntish ways of doing that you know.

Fuckin Ada, who has been rude to a 2 year old.

OP has vented and been rude about a 2 year old and her lazy mother.

The only, erm, cuntish behaviour has been the vitriol poured on OP for thinking horrid thoughts about a child and discounting the existence of her baby - aid 2 year old being so much more important for some unfathomable reason.

Read again - OP did nothing to a 2 year old. She just had fuck off thoughts about one.

A 2year old doesn't understand that a baby isn't like a doll ( they have similar problems with dogs, cats etc). They have to be taught how to behave with them. There are two choices here- OP is kind but firm and stops her or she asks the mother to stop her. What she doesn't do is leave her baby to suffer the attention because the 2yr old is 'little and cute'.

how about YOU read again nomama? I wasn't quoting OP and have already said to be fair, the nastiness isn't really coming from her...

You can be as rude and forthright and blunt as you like to other people's children.

if this is how your mind works, then something is fucking wrong, sorry.

OP was so kind that she didn't feel able to do anything!

I find it strange when people start threads about 'dirty strangers' touching their baby- very odd as I doubt they are really dirty and they are adults- and yet toddlers have to be left to prod, touch, kiss etc!

so do me a favour and find one instance of vitriol directed at OP, by me.