To want to shout at this bloody child..

[Wilberforce2]

Not sure if I'm being a bit precious but this is driving me mental.

Every Tuesday my ds does rugby 4-5 and as they are only reception and year 1 all of the parents stay. I like staying and enjoy watching him but one of the little girls of another parent is doing my head in. I have a 4 month old dd and every week this little girl does not leave her alone, constantly plays with the hood on the pram (pushing it backwards and forwards), putting her fingers in the babies mouth, kissing her on the lips, takes her toys/muslin off of her, pokes her eyes it just goes on and on. Last week this girl had a heavy cold and was constantly wiping snot around her face then walked over to dd in her pram (I dared to take my eyes off of her for a second) and stuck her fingers in her mouth, Friday my dd gets an awful cold. The mum just laughs and says "oh she is so motherly" or "she just loves babies" but I want her to tell her to leave her alone for one fricking second. Today I told the girl no a few times and had a couple of looks from the mum who then said "oh *** come over here darling I don't think you are wanted" but I can't just watch her prod and poke her for an hour, she was trying to put a pine cone in her mouth then whipped her with a muslin!

Am I being precious or would you keep telling the girl no? Little girl is 2 years old. Older brother is in my ds's class so I don't want to cause an argument.

yes usual but you are... unhinged... so it's to be expected.

she's hit the nail on the head though, there are definitely more mentally stable people than me about - what a clever bunny.

So, Vampyre and usual both know what sporn is.... mmmmmmmm!

Unhinged and squeezy (I peeked at a thread - yeckity yeckity).

I think I prefer snot, tbh.

Tbf I'm pretty unhinged and I sided with the OP.

haa x-post.

Puss leaking abscesses on various body parts including nips, fantoosh and bum hole? ????? ?

Just do an advanced search for the word Klaxon.

Really Sirchen?...I should have kept my DC away from humans and animals? because he had a snotty nose sometimes...when I couldn't catch him? When I had just done it 2 minutes before? when I was VERY aware he was snotty but his nose was bleeding and just wanted to give my 2 year old a break...tissue in hand waiting for him to come near? That is one of the most horrible things anyone has said. I am a nanny and was a childminder and trained childrens nurse so have wiped many a snotty nose. Good job there are people who love children no matter what state they are in. I remember nursing a child whose whole family had been seriously hurt in a car accident. He was sitting on my knee, covered in blood and snot and pee and poo. (till he stopped sobbing and trusted me enough to clean him up) Good job I didn't turn my nose up at him and his needs because I didn't like snot.

marylou that's awful :( if it's any consolation, I bet loads of these MNers were snotty kids :)

Oh Mary. It was a joke. A bit of facetiousness. Do lighten up, life - and snot - really doesn't have to be that serious.

And yes, I was that snotty child Vampyre - happy to admit to that. Snotty, loud, and proud

I like it when my kids are snotty. cleaning them up gives me a sense of enormous wellbeing achievement!

I can cope with my own kids snot fine - other kids green trails of yeuch do have me fighting the heave, I have to admit.

Of course, if I was nursing a family after a serious car accident etc etc then I'm sure I would manage to put the green snot boak to one side!

OP you asked, aibu to want to shout at this bloody child..

yanbu to want to shout at her, ywnbu to want to shout at her lazy mum either. There are times when I want to shout at my DTs all day long when they're driving me batshit but I find another way to vent. It's good that you felt you were able to vent on here.

Christ Almighty I can see why the OP has not bothered to come back to this thread.

Only on MN can the fact that someone felt anger cause so much consternation (and posts)

For god sake 2 is old enough to be told the word NO
Why the hell should the OP have to put up with this, if you had a baby and a two year old came and started smacking baby round the head or started breaking things in your home would you still think "they are only two".
No wonder there are so many little brats around if parents are letting them get away with stuff by saying "well they are only two"
And I know I am going to get flamed but 2 is old enough to start learning boundarys. I saw a little girl about the age of two running all over in a coffee shop going up to the staff and tugging at there aprons. The mother then had a go a member of staff who asked mother to keep child under control
Was the member of staff being unreasonable? If the kid had banged into a member of staff and had hot coffee spilt on her would it have been the staffs fault? or the mothers?.
Probably the member of staff eh as it seems to be when you are two you can do what the hell you want without being told to stop because "you are just two".

But you must say "no" in a gentle voice, remember, and you certainly must not ever, ever feel angry when you say it

Agree with Bluebell... and why shouldn't OP come on Mumsnet to vent about this? How is it hurting the two year old? I suspect that some of the vociferous, "How dare you, OP?"'s are coming from people who don't mind what their child or other children do... because they're children.

Their choice but not mine - and not OP's. Stop telling what she can and can't post about please, people get annoyed about anything and everything, it doesn't mean that they're not entitled to feel the way they do about things.

This thread has got so far derailed that it's about to come careering round and plough straight through the OP, her DD, and the 2y.o. (unless the latter has been taken back by her mother in the meanwhile)...!

More personal attacks than a World Cup football match!

Wow!! I only came on here for a moan not to start a riot..

I can't even begin to remember who said what so won't even try but I just wanted to defend myself slightly.

Maybe I did title it wrong but at that moment I did feel like shouting at the 2 year old and that was it I "felt" like it, I didn't shout at her and I would never shout at another persons child. Do none of you who are up in arms ever feel like doing something you shouldn't/can't? I also often feel like punching my husband in the face when he keeps me awake for two hours snoring (yes that was last night) but I don't do it I just feel like it!

If this post was titled AIBU to have just yelled at a nasty little snotty nosed 2 year old brat then yes have a go and tell me that I'm being horrible and nasty.

Anyway had words this morning with the Mum as little girl came over and started playing with the hood on the pushchair and then tried to poke dd in the eye! I said to the lg to go back to her Mummy and she said no so I then just called over and asked her to come get her as I was trying to talk and couldn't keep an eye on her and the baby. Mum was all a bit huffy and said she was only "interested" but still took her away, I have a feeling though that this will be an ongoing battle

Thanks for all the replies some were ummmm interesting and others were really helpful.

Oh and as for me being "wet" I prefer to say I'm just a bit too nice, not ideal but that's just how I am.

Hi Wilberforce.

There never was going to be a 'nice' way to get rid of snot-baby and her useless parent. Totally understand why you wanted to find one, you're going to be at the same school for a few more years yet.

Just stick to your guns and keep telling her to keep her child away as yours isn't well/sleeping/whatever.

And if you want sensible advice DON'T do your OP in AIBU

Thanks Alpaca have learnt my lesson!!