Would you prefer men not to post on MN?

[XYWithBabyOnTheWay]

I'm a man and I've just had my AIBU thread zapped, and it's made me sad.

My wife and I have been preparing for the birth of our baby (PFB) for most of this year.

I discovered MN while we were TTC, and have found it to be a great resource for all the worries and questions that naturally come to you at this time in your life. My DW reads it too sometimes, but not as much as me! I've posted a few threads myself, and got some great advice on some serious subjects.

I also discovered the more light hearted side of MN like Chat and AIBU, and quickly became slightly addicted to the funny, crazy and hilarious things people post.

Today I decided to post a silly story about me drinking gravy from a jug my wife had previously had a wee into (for a urine sample for one of the many antenatal appointments that all pregnant women have). Yes the jug had been washed in between! I was hoping to perhaps make a few people smile, like many other threads have done for me.

It was tame compared to some of the bodily function threads I read about on here. Yes I name changed, but it was a bit embarrassing - and many many other people do the same thing for their TMI posts.

Clearly some of you didn't like it, and have reported me and got the thread removed. Is is purely because I identified myself as a man?

It would be a great shame if the knowledge and resources of a site like MN were made less available to men who post openly.

I'm not going to flounce, but I think when I post in future using my new account, I wont draw attention to my sex - then I can join in the fun without being excluded.

I think it would be disingenuous to say that men don't get a different reaction on here. They do.

I do think that there can be a camaraderie amongst women who hit it off that is different to men who get along. It's usually cos we have similar experiences as women and can relate to and empathise in a way a man can't. Having said that I have no problem with men on MN, generally, when they are joining in and being a bit sensitive that in some cases on a predominantly female forum women posters are expecting responses from other women, I wouldn't necessarily be seeking advice about periods or intimate female stuff from a bloke, I would ask my female friends...tis the same on MN, but joining in with general banter or threads seeking wide opinions then great. Like I said sensitivity for me is the name of the game, after all a numpty is a numpty be it male or female and neither should whinge if they get a thread deleted.
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PigletJohn is a man?

Oh dear. I should stop picturing him as a smart fit lady with a toolbelt.

Thing is, this is one of the rare female-dominated spaces on the internet. And some men get very cross about that yes think this is what I was mulling about, I do like that women can have places that are women only without having to apologise for it, however an anon internet forum is not really going to stay women only is it like it or not, we never know who we are 'talking to' so yes back to my original point made better by others, welcome all but be sensitive that it is predominantly female and there will be places where you will be less welcome sometimes such as relationships.

Men are a group, or a class, in some sense

What, all the many billions of them?!

Yes. HTH

PigletJohn is actually more of a superhero than a man

Men?! On MN?! With all their extra body hair and percy filth!

Don't you know we are all ladies?

Tiggy is a man?

I've gone too conspicuous, haven't I?

Heigh-ho..

makes mental note to avoid Relationships

Tiggy is a very girly name, so it's understandable herms. S/he is claiming to have mesticles on this thread though.

There's some down right weird views on this thread. Making a whole new spreadsheet of strange....

No problem with men on MN.

Thread probably got pulled because of name change plus possible attempt tenuous at connection with wee drinking.

Perfectly innocent threads do get zapped by mistake.

Minnie It's not very helpful to say that there are weird views (in your opinion) on the thread, without clarifying which views they are, and why you consider them to be weird. It just doesn't add much to the thread imo.

I remember the man from the singles thread, Vile poster who seemed to like ripping women who wouldnt agree with him to shreds. Very unpleasant and I never understood why MN never did anything about it.

Anyone remember the "guy from Sheffield" that posted pics.
They certainly jumped on him quick.

I don't have a problem with men posting on MN at all. There are quite a few male posters who I find entertaining in a variety of ways.

However, the ones who come on to FWR either to mansplain or go 'Not All Men' all the fucking time when posters are discussing male violence, well, they deserve any online kicking they get.

*Today I decided to post a silly story about me drinking gravy from a jug my wife had previously had a wee into (for a urine sample for one of the many antenatal appointments that all pregnant women have).

You need to ask why that was deleted?

Post away. Man Woman or Frog.

I really like the balance, in that it is female dominated, but with some male input. Kind of like the opposite of real life...

I posted about a near identical wee receptacle experience on a TTC thread recently

I might aswell say it-YES!, sorry but I just think MN is geared towards women and DN is for guys.

I would prefer any gender not post about drinking out of something their DP peed in.

Also, there are plenty of users I think are guys because of masculine sounding usernames that I find out are women. I don't think any less of their posts and I don't respond differently between women and men (unless of course it's about a girl issue).