Would you prefer men not to post on MN?

[XYWithBabyOnTheWay]

I'm a man and I've just had my AIBU thread zapped, and it's made me sad.

My wife and I have been preparing for the birth of our baby (PFB) for most of this year.

I discovered MN while we were TTC, and have found it to be a great resource for all the worries and questions that naturally come to you at this time in your life. My DW reads it too sometimes, but not as much as me! I've posted a few threads myself, and got some great advice on some serious subjects.

I also discovered the more light hearted side of MN like Chat and AIBU, and quickly became slightly addicted to the funny, crazy and hilarious things people post.

Today I decided to post a silly story about me drinking gravy from a jug my wife had previously had a wee into (for a urine sample for one of the many antenatal appointments that all pregnant women have). Yes the jug had been washed in between! I was hoping to perhaps make a few people smile, like many other threads have done for me.

It was tame compared to some of the bodily function threads I read about on here. Yes I name changed, but it was a bit embarrassing - and many many other people do the same thing for their TMI posts.

Clearly some of you didn't like it, and have reported me and got the thread removed. Is is purely because I identified myself as a man?

It would be a great shame if the knowledge and resources of a site like MN were made less available to men who post openly.

I'm not going to flounce, but I think when I post in future using my new account, I wont draw attention to my sex - then I can join in the fun without being excluded.

Oh, who, tilly?

Is your name Rob?

Now I'm just curious to know what was 'pervy' about it!

Can't imagine a thread about pissing in a jug being pervy. Am probably being v unimaginative.

because - oddly enough - they don't post with penises in evidence.

Well not since I got the restraining order.

The general rule would be don't be a colosal woman loathing twat or a knicker sniffing perv and you'll be fine! But then they are just rules for being an okay human being.

If you have to question if you are being either then you probably are and should stop.

I'm trying to stay angry, but some of the replies have made me grin.

I like men posting on mumsnet.
Didnt see the thread. Looks as though your thread topic wasnt suitable?
fwiw, 3% of posters on mumsnet are male[so said Justine on an article]

I have no issue with men posting at all

Like Worra I don't look at wee/poo threads because they are dull and make me feel a bit sick

quite often they are started by idiots but not always - sometimes male idiots sometimes female ones

I think you are reading way too much into it and having a manhuff

@manhuff

Now I feel like I'm letting women down by never having peed in a receptacle other than the loo in my home.

Who cares if you are a man or woman, as long as you aren't Percy or offensive.

pervy obviously! I don't care if you are called Percy. Bloody auto correct!

BTW, this will be zapped in a minute too as it's a Fred about a Fred.

I didn't read the thread so I can't comment specifically on that, but I thing this:

I'm not going to flounce, but I think when I post in future using my new account, I wont draw attention to my sex - then I can join in the fun without being excluded.

is a very good idea. For reasons I have never really understood men have to work much harder to be accepted on MN than women, and often get given an unnecessarily hard time. There is also sadly a culture of blatant double standards where blokes are concerned on here, and a default position of guilty until proven innocent. That will probably be flatly denied but I have seen it many many times over the years and it really winds me up.

Admittedly we occasionally we get complete twats (male) coming on here just to make trouble, or to get weird sexual kicks by starting fake threads (poo troll for example) so maybe that puts some people on the defensive but even so, they really shouldn't stereotype.

Monty, I was trying to work out who the bloody hell Percy was! Was thinking Percy the Parkeeper

For example, the phrase 'man huff' would not be tolerated in reverse, if a bloke came on here and said 'you are having a pre-menstrual strop' all merry hell would break loose.

Fell

There is this thing called the patriarchy......

I do usually proof read before I post, but clearly only skimmed this time.

I didn't think the original thread came across as pervy, but I do think starting poo/wee threads can come across that way as so many of them are weird or attention seeking and they just all get bundled together. As for having men on here, if they're normal and pleasant that's fine. Ditto the women. You get some horrible men and horrible women... nothing to do with their gender.

And i'm feeling very sorry for Percy whoever he is

No bodily function threads - though the one posted about poo over the weekend was bad :(

I suspect the zapped thread had nothing to do with you being a man. I like the fact that men are happy to post on here and agree with what Qcumber said:

I like men posting on Mumsnet. Some men do an excellent job of contradicting the theories about "all men" trotted out by the trolls. Providing "balance to the force" so to speak.

I also agree with Worra:

I have no problem with men posting on MN

I don't open the bodily function threads as they bore me shitless (pun kind of intended I suppose).

Really? I'll go look that up in the dictionary.

I don't really want to get into all that on this thread thanks. He's just a bloke who wants to chat, like the rest of us, and he's been treated with suspicion. That makes me disappointed in Mumsnet.

But like I said, I didn't see the thread.

manhuff and PMT are not the same - obviously if I said he was hormonal that would be the same ...he's a man having a huff

I am differentiating because the OP wants us all to know he is a man - it matters to him as he thinks MN have discriminated against him because they zapped his thread

they zapped it because it was a minging thread about piss not because it was a manthread

I saw that thread. It didn't look pervy to me. Obviously I have no way of knowing whether or not someone is indulging a fetish, but it was plausible and innocent enough that I don't see why it should have been deleted.

I suspect that the people who reported it would have been less likely to suspect a woman of having an ulterior motive.

I'm not sure why the motive should matter. Why not have a discussion on the reasonableness or othewise of using previously-peed-in-gravyboats regardless of whether the OP has a relevant fetish he might be enjoying?

The men that aren't twats seem to get on fine. Unfortunately, quite a few of the men the post on mumsnet are.

Whenever I see a thread obviously started by a man I'm always secretly rooting for them thinking 'please don't be a twat!', but I'm often disappointed :-(

The thread didnt come across as pervy to me, although I may have missed the end.

I think people are just a bit suspicious about poo wee threads

Is the tapeworm thread replete with photos of the tapeworm covered in the female OP's shit still there?

Funny that.