To think dh probably could have texted me earlier....

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Dh normally home from work about 545 if he's working locally. He works away a lot and is normally only home maybe 2 evenings a week so I look forward to eating together with ds etc.

This has happened a couple of times before, but again tonight I got a text about 540 to say sorry, his meeting had overrun and he would be leaving in about 15m.

It might just be me, but I generally think it's acceptable in a meeting that looks like it's going to overrun to say sorry, I just need to quickly let my wife know I'll be late back..... Isn't it? As it, I was expecting him home in a few minutes, dinner virtually cooked etc etc

I fully realise that these things happen and he can't help what happens in meetings so it's not that I'm annoyed he was late, but taking 30 seconds out to warn me in advance would seem reasonable to me?

(Ps he went to work in jeans and tshirt so it can't have been the worlds most important meeting either!)

Erm.... Maybe a little bit unreasonable. I wouldn't interrupt a meeting for a measly 15 mins. A couple of hours maybe, but these things happen.

Well tbh, I don't think I would stop in the middle of a meeting to text DH.

I wouldn't take time out of a meeting to text for that level of lateness.

It's partly because he KNOWS I try and do tea to be ready when he gets back otherwise ds starts to turn in to a monster.

Also, it wasn't 15m. He texted saying he was going to be leaving about 15m after he's normally back, and it takes him around half an hour to get back, so fairly significantly late in terms of dinner!

I don't think it's really acceptable to leave a meeting to text a partner, maybe if it's a couple of hours, or something really urgent, (you have tickets for something) but not just for dinner.

I think my dh would get this look if he had to stop a meeting to let me know it had overrun!

An over run of 15 minutes is absolutely nothing. I have learned to not even start making anything until i know DH is on his way home. Or i make it and leave his to heat up later.

Why would anyone interrupt a meeting to say they are going to message their wife? Not really very professional if you ask me.

You are being very unreasonable.

Yeah, you don't text during meetings. I hope you understand how his colleagues would have a hard time taking him seriously if he interrupted a meeting to let his wife know he was going to be late.

Maybe it's a UK thing, but here in the US it's pretty typical to go to a corporate job in a tshirt and jeans. You can have an important meeting in casual attire.

It takes him 90 mins to get home when he's working locally??

If it takes him half an hour to get home (and the traffic could have been thinking out by then) it's still not really late. I think interrupting his participation in the meeting to text you would look very unprofessional.

No, about half an hour to get back home turn, so he was home about 45m later than usual.

Totally prepared to accept I'm being unreasonable, that's fine. It's just disappointing I suppose, we get to eat together so infrequently during the week and ds in particular really looks forward to it!

Thinning out
Sorry.

YABU - very much so, in fact.

Do you want him to look totally unprofessional in front of his colleagues?

princess he does generally suit and boot for 'important' meetings so I can reasonably confidently say it was a more casual meeting.

Yabu to think he can put the meeting on pause to call his wife to say "delay dinner!". Really,he'd look a bit ridiculous & totally unprofessional.

Sorry totally misread that as an hour and a half!

I wouldn't let DH know if I was going to be late out of a meeting, unless it was a very informal meeting. Texting during a meeting is a definite no-no unless its an emergency.

Couldn't you do dinner for the normal time, then plate his up to heat and eat when he got home?

And the importance of the meeting doesn't correlate with the formality of the clothes.

Yabu, my husband comes home when he comes home. He is a professional and can't leave a meeting just to change what time I put on dinner!

With us, phones off during meetings, with a few exceptions allowed (waiting for support engineer to call about problem causing an outage or someone whose wife was due to give birth being the two I can think of.) It's okay to say at the start of a meeting that you absolutely must be finished by 5pm (if you really do have something important), but you wouldn't stop to text someone that it's over-run.

It's Friday. Work attire is less formal on a Friday in many offices, and some aren't that formal in the first place.

He was able to text you before he would have been due home. Really that should be all that's necessary. He would have looked really daft in front of his colleagues if he'd done anything else.

Yabu.

YABU to think he should text in a meeting, YANBU to be annoyed if you have rigid eating times, DH should let you know in advance if he has a meeting especially as they can overrun. Can you not just keep his food warm for hin?

You don't interrupt a meeting to say you are going to test your partner. it looks bad.

YABVU

No, I think I would look on a work colleague as unprofessional if he had to call his DW if a meeting was over-running by 45 mins.
I can understand your disappointment, particularly as you don't often get to eat as a family midweek. But don't let it spoil the weekend.