One of my DH's good friends is getting married in 2 months time. When they handed out their invites they said children are welcome to be at the church ceremony but are unable to attend the meal and the evening reception.
That's fine, I have absolutely no problem with child-free weddings.
I have a baby that I EBF so I text the bride and declined the invite and said it because I couldn't leave DS. DS will have just turned 5 months at the time of the wedding. I didn't get a reply from her.
My DH is felt quite aggrieved as he wasn't comfortable with the fact that me and DS couldn't go seeing as DS will not need a seat or food so won't be affecting their guest numbers or cost. But anyway, like I said, I have no problem if the B&G choose child free weddings.
However, it has now transpired another couple who have a baby are being allowed to take theirs because "he will only be 3 months old".
Since learning this my DH has spoken to the Groom who has said he will speak to the bride. The Groom said of course he wanted me to be at the wedding but apparently the bride had said she didn't want babies/children present as she didn't want food being thrown around the room?!
Do 5 month old babies do that?
(DS is my first so I have no experience of a baby's fine dining etiquette).
He also said she probably wasn't aware I'd still be BF.
It's been five days now since my DH spoke to his friend and we still haven't heard anything back do I'm guessing the bride said no and we are still not welcome.
I don't know how I feel about it all now - surely if she is banning babies it should apply to all babies? I think it's a bit unfair that I'm being turned away but another mother and her baby aren't.
(Incidentally the other baby is being formula fed so can technically be away from her parents.)
I'm happy to be told I'm BU - I just think it's a bit harsh that my baby isn't welcome but someone else's is....