To rule someone out because of their size?

[WendyBloomers]

So following on from a thread I posted yesterday about fancying Littlefinger from GoT, several posters mentioned he's a bit on the short side and I have to admit I was a bit 'ohhh that's a shame' I of course still fancy him but it did make me realise in real life this is a bit of an issue for me.

Anyways I'm about 5'8 so not exactly really tall but I'm self conscious of being taller than quite a lot of blokes, especially on a night out with heels where I'm probably pushing 6ft!

I'm single at the moment and the offers are not exactly flooding in (I'm a bit slow on the uptake mind, I never really notice someone's been flirting with me until afterwards) so am I being really unreasonable to count someone out just because they're shorter than me? There could be plenty of really lovely men out there that I'm missing just because of his height! Also, I think they wouldn't be interested in me anyways because I'm taller than them, or taller than them in heels at least.

Are there many others out there like me who abide by this silly rule that the woman shouldn't be taller than the man? And are there any of you who are taller than your SO and if so how do you both feel about it?

Please convince me it's just me being daft and I don't need to hang around the local basketball club to find a potential suitor..

To completely rule out a potential partner -regardless of looks, personality etc - because of their height is shallow.

Preference is one thing but a hard and fast rule?

DH is an inch taller than me, don't give it a thought when J wear heels which is good as I wear them a fair bit.

A (lovely but ditzy) colleague once said in surprise, upon meeting dh 'gosh! You two are the same height!' Dh said, deadpan, 'yes, we met at a conference for people who are exactly 5'7'. Colleague (bless her): 'oh, really?' ...

When I wear heels-dunno who J is...

I'm 6ft. My husband is an inch or so shorter than me. It really doesn't matter

High heels are not an issue because I haven't worn them since 1999.

U2, time for a change of position, ahem?

I'm 5 foot 9, so sort of averagely tall. Before I got married (to my 6 foot husband) I didn't date anyone shorter than me, but I think I probably at least snogged a few shorter fellas in my younger days. If I were single I def wouldn't rule someone out on height alone, that's silly.

We're the same height - 5'4.

He did try to tell me he was 5'8 once (after we met)...he spent ages trying to convince me he was 5'8 last time he was measures, when he was blatantly the same height as me.

Never bothered me though - but I so have a preference for short men anyway! It's all different strokes for different folks, I guess.

My slightly weird GoT crush is Stannis.

I have to admit to a massive crush on a colleague at work who is probabaly a couple on inches shorter than me , and a couple of decades younger than me so i really should know better

I've always fancied taller men. Current squeeze is 7" taller than me at 6'4", I find it quite attractive! In fact, I (briefly) met Benedict Cumberbatch the other week and he wasn't as tall as I thought, and now I'm all confused about him.

Ruling them out purely based on height is probably a bit unreasonable. DH is a couple of inches taller than me and it suits me fine. I don't like wearing heels anyway. I once had a boyfriend a foot taller than me and it was just annoying.

I'm 5 foot 3 and I love tall men.

I like men taller than me.

I'm 5 foot. Sorry dwarves, you'd have to be super awes

...some to change my mind!

Thanks for sharing your opinions all, you all seem to be saying what I know deep down is true anyways!

I think it's more so of a thing for me as I'm a bit chunky so am self conscious of looking a lot bigger than the guy if I'm taller and wider..

I've just started a new health and fitness regime (gawd help me) to lose a bit of weight so if I'm thinking if I'm a bit more, ahem, streamlined I won't care so much!

Although good to see a few others are similar thinking my current thinking too..just in case the diet doesn't go so well and I continue in my search for a lanky larry..

Eh obviously too much thinking going on in that last one..oops

Women miss out on some really good men if they judge a man according to his height( tall or short).

I wouldn't date a man shorter than me neither. Then again I'm only 5'2.

I don't think there are many men out there of my age and shorter than me (I'm 5'5") but I wouldn't automatically see it as a turn-off. DH is almost a foot taller than me and that has its own problems, like your nose getting squashed into his chest when slow dancing, and of course the fact that he just walks really fast all the time because of his long legs and doesn't even realise it. I actually thought before we got together that I wouldn't want to go out with anyone really tall, which just goes to show if you love someone, it doesn't really matter what size they are!

I certainly don't think there's any rule about how tall you should be relative to your partner. I probably wouldn't enjoy going out with someone shorter if he had a problem with it and was constantly moaning about it or not wanting me to wear shoes I liked, but apart from that, it's just not an issue.

I sm 5ft 2 so never had this problem, don't think I have come across any men shorter than me.

A few of my ex's have been over 6ft and whoever said it doesn't matter when you're lying down is wrong. I have nearly suffocated squished against shoulders and had a face full of armpit hair on many occasions.

I'm 5ft 2 and DH is 6ft 2.

I know that's a bit greedy as I don't need all that and I do get a crick in my neck if we snog standing up, but I love tall men.

Another 5ft2er here.

I used to be height biased as all the men in my family are over 6ft, but have changed my position on height. Dp is 5ft10.

If given the chance I wouldn't say no to Peter dinklage.