To rule someone out because of their size?

[WendyBloomers]

So following on from a thread I posted yesterday about fancying Littlefinger from GoT, several posters mentioned he's a bit on the short side and I have to admit I was a bit 'ohhh that's a shame' I of course still fancy him but it did make me realise in real life this is a bit of an issue for me.

Anyways I'm about 5'8 so not exactly really tall but I'm self conscious of being taller than quite a lot of blokes, especially on a night out with heels where I'm probably pushing 6ft!

I'm single at the moment and the offers are not exactly flooding in (I'm a bit slow on the uptake mind, I never really notice someone's been flirting with me until afterwards) so am I being really unreasonable to count someone out just because they're shorter than me? There could be plenty of really lovely men out there that I'm missing just because of his height! Also, I think they wouldn't be interested in me anyways because I'm taller than them, or taller than them in heels at least.

Are there many others out there like me who abide by this silly rule that the woman shouldn't be taller than the man? And are there any of you who are taller than your SO and if so how do you both feel about it?

Please convince me it's just me being daft and I don't need to hang around the local basketball club to find a potential suitor..

I don't think it's shallow to have preferences on what you find attractive - hair colour, height, build etc. It's just what you like. If it's because you are worried about what other people think then that's different and you are probably missing out on some really nice guys.

Bodicea, no way, i wanted a tall man tp breed a bit of height back in to my line. My flat mate 6'0" was determined to find a taller man. I used to wonder if that was such a great idea for the sake of her daughters (future potential dds) , given that being taller than 90% men caused her so much inconvenience & anxiety!

Now i have children id be less bothered about height and more concerned wuth compatability, common decency... shiuld have put those top of list to begin with

I wouldn't be too fussed about a shorter bloke (5ft9 here) bit would only date a shorter woman.

Thinking back to when I was younger (I'm 44 now) I always went for men who were of similar height or shorter than me at 5'5", I met DH 20 years ago and he's 5'9" and my current actor, (never going to meet him and wouldn't know what to do with him if I did), crush is 6'6".

So, in 30 years my preference has grown by about a foot.

Agree totally with Hotfuzzra. I'm 5'10 and DH is slightly shorter. It makes no difference whatsoever. I worry slightly about men who won't go out with women who are taller than them. Do they feel that being taller makes them the dominant partner? It must be an ego thing. Conversely are women who want the man to be taller looking for protection of some kind. Or is it just convention?

On the other hand, your life, your choices. Do what makes you happy.

Ooh Ken Stott.

I am 5ft 9/10ins - DH is about an inch taller than me.

I wouldn't want to be with a man shorter than me TBH.

You are being daft. I'm 5' 10", DH is 5' 9" and

It doesn't matter when you're lying down .

[stupid phone] and one of the things he likes about me is my height. I like the fact we're nearly level when we kiss. Noticeably taller men have never done it for me. And I wear heels whenever I fancy.

I think it's a bit stupid to rule someone out on this- my friend did until she'd practically had a nervous breakdown dating tall but wankerish men online (not all tall men are wankerish, but the ones online seemed to be player after player, probably as they were the better looking ones and thought they were all that). Finally, she met a nice but not that tall man in real life and is getting married. I'm pretty sure sticking with her rule would have been not just daft but life-changing, she's also trying for a baby.

Also what Ginger said

I guess it depends on your age/situation/etc...

38, and wanting DCs? It could be argued that you would be foolish to 'rule someone out' for their height if they were otherwise a decent match for you and wanted the same things.

24 and not that fussed about DCs yet? Then you have the 'luxury' of being picky.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again - the longer your list of 'requirements' in a partner (height included), the sooner you need to start looking.

I'm not really attracted to shorter men, I'm 5'8. I used to have a big crush on Jason Statham, but then I met him and he was tiny. I went right off him. I have been attracted to otherwise very unattractive men because they were 6'4 and broad. I go the other way with women though - definitely more attracted to short slim women.

I once attended a wedding where we were treated to an extensive sermon on how it was important for a man to be taller than his wife because God didn't intend for a woman's head to be higher than a man's or she might get ideas above her station and start having opinions and stuff.

That minister would probably say you're quite right to rule someone out if they're too short

(That was only a few years ago btw, I haven't time travelled from 1540 or anything)

I'm 5'8 and exactly the same height as DH. We met at work and I used to measure him up from afar, trying to work out whether he was tall enough to go out with! At first I used to feel uncomfortable being taller in heels, but I don't wear them often and I got over it!

And I missed your other thread, but totally get where you're coming from as far as Littlefinger is concerned!

Treacle . No, really, I don't know why I'm shocked. I've heard so much rubbish like that.

My Mum is 5'7" and my Dad is 5'4". They have been very happy together (as far as I know!) for the last 45 years. So I guess you may be ruling out some lovely men. My Dad is brilliant btw!

I am almost 5.2 and my husband is 6 ft.

I love that dh towers over me. I don't know why, I just do.

I wouldn't initially be that attracted to a man who was shorter than me, and under 5ft 2 is pretty blood short, but if I got to know him and enjoyed his company I doubt it would be a deal breaker and I would manage to look past it.

Best, on the plus side he also said that since the man was bigger, he should tuck her under his arm and protect her from the world, which was quite sweet but a little creepy

I'm 5' 9'' and over 6' in heels dp is 5'10'' and we have no
Issues. I don't wear heels often since they cripple me. I did go out with someone shorter and he had a real problem with it, shame really as he was a lovely guy and I adored him.

I know what you mean girls. I wouldn't date a women fatter than me. It just seems weird!

I quite like short men. They often have great posture because of their height, which is a turn on, and I love that you can look them in the eye, not always craning your neck up. But I'm very short too, so not sure I'd go for a man shorter than me.
But DH is 6'2", so didn't choose him for his height.

Why is it OK the other way round though? My sis is 5'1" and her DH is 6'6". No one ever comments on that height gap, but if he were a foot and a half shorter than her, I bet people would.

I'm 5'3'' and a half - so I don't find many men are shorter than me! I'm just under 12 stone though and I wouldn't want to date a man who was a lot lot thinner than me - I prefer muscular or stocky men to really thin men.

My latest boyfriend was 6'4'' but the problem was I had to stand on tiptoes to kiss him!