YANBU
After my terrible birth with DS i had 3rd degree tearing and was double incontinent for a few months, had physio for 8 months and very sore hard scar tissue and little elasticity (they seemed to have sewed me up very tight i couldn't even get a tampon in).
At a 6 month check at the hospital the conversation with the doctor went like this:
Dr: How's sex now? all normal?
Me: I haven't done it yet
Dr: Oh sorry, i thought you were married
Me: 
Yes, iam
Dr: 
well why aren't you having sex then?
Me: 
because it's too painful
Dr: Come on it's been 6 months, you've got to get back to normal, think about your husband
Me:
Dr: I'll prescribe you some topical numbing cream you can rub it on before you have sex and it will numb the area so you can't feel anything, but your husband can have sex with you, and when it wears off you may be a bit sore but that will settle down...
Me:
I just took the prescription and walked out shell shocked. i got in the car where DH was waiting and burst into tears. I told him and he was furious. He said what kind of rapist husband would expect their wife to feel nothing and be sore just so they could stick their cock in them. He said he was perfectly happy waiting (and i believe he really was).
I was tempted to make a formal complaint. But i never did. I still think about it now 2 years later and wish i'd said something. I think we had sex at about 10 months, but it certainly wasn't back to normal even then (or now for that matter - and a baby/toddler also makes a big difference, regardless of your physical ability you are knackered and it's hard to find the opportunity).