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AIBU?

To ask what is your instinctive response to hearing a child is Home Educated?

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NickiFury · 12/06/2014 16:31

I am really interested to hear general opinions from everyone and hoping for some from professionals such as teachers etc. I really want to know what people think because in the main in RL, the response is overwhelmingly negative. I've had people threaten to call SS on me because ds isn't in school, been told it's "weird" and seen this face a lot.

Now to me home education is a totally normal thing but I suspect this is only because we are immersed in this world and know lots of other HE families (you'd be surprised how many are out there).

What has made me think about this was a friend telling me today that people in our community know of me and ds without ever having met us because we are notorious as that woman who doesn't send her kid to school .

Btw I also have a child who does go to school and is doing well but no one seems to gossip about that.

So what would YOU think if you someone told you their child is home educated?

Thanks .

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Fideliney · 16/06/2014 16:58

I think this thread has been a bit of a missed opportunity for some of those who've been so dismayed by the goings on they decided to give it a body swerve.

I couldn't agree more Granny

AlwaysOneMissing · 16/06/2014 16:58

Maybe you are not coming across quite how you intend then magical. I have been quite shocked at your blatant disregard of Tilly's opinions and insulting put-downs towards her.
I think she has interesting and valid things to say. I don't feel she has insulted anyone. She has given her own experiences of HE, which is appropriate for this thread. You seem extremely aggressive in trying to silence her tbh.

Fideliney · 16/06/2014 16:58

I think this thread has been a bit of a missed opportunity for some of those who've been so dismayed by the goings on they decided to give it a body swerve.

I couldn't agree more Granny

Mammuzza · 16/06/2014 16:58

And you're still not big enough to apologise for your 'mistake' earlier where you accuse me of wanting to silence failings and swiftly moved on after being provided with quotes to the contrary.

I can believe you believe that the few crumbs offered in whirl of posts offering gems like chippy/bitter etc. wholly offset what you chose as the main focus of your posts.

I can believe you believe that you have come accross as even handed and interested in exploring HE-Fails.

I can believe that you honestly believe there was nothing that could whiff of silenceing/deflecting in your reaction to Tilly's posts.

I can believe that you believe you have done a good job fighting the good fight de-stigmatise HE on this thread and haven't cemented any previous doubters further into anti.

I just don't believe that what you believe is well founded.

I am not going to apologise. Not even a faux one with a backhander attached for luck.

I beleive if people like the OP really want to understand why they get negative critism, and want to know what might work towards combating it, the ideas and issues I've raised are worth not rejecting without so much as a backward glance.

Fideliney · 16/06/2014 16:59

I think this thread has been a bit of a missed opportunity for some of those who've been so dismayed by the goings on they decided to give it a body swerve.

I couldn't agree more Granny

NickiFury · 16/06/2014 16:59

I would LOVE it if someone would start a thread sharing experiences and ideas

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Fideliney · 16/06/2014 16:59

I think this thread has been a bit of a missed opportunity for some of those who've been so dismayed by the goings on they decided to give it a body swerve.

I couldn't agree more Granny

Fideliney · 16/06/2014 16:59

I think this thread has been a bit of a missed opportunity for some of those who've been so dismayed by the goings on they decided to give it a body swerve.

I couldn't agree more Granny

Fideliney · 16/06/2014 16:59

I think this thread has been a bit of a missed opportunity for some of those who've been so dismayed by the goings on they decided to give it a body swerve.

I couldn't agree more Granny

Fideliney · 16/06/2014 17:00

Apologies.

I'm not sure what happened there.

IncognitoErgoSum · 16/06/2014 17:10

You only need another 38 copies to bring the thread to a halt, Fideliney

magicalriff · 16/06/2014 17:12

It's quite shocking that you won't apologise for making those accusations (quite a list too), after being provided with quotes to prove the contrary, Mamuzza. You were, and have proved to be, in the wrong. Now you're doing the same again.

I didn't use the word bitter, certainly. So hope that wasn't aimed at me, Mamuzza.

Like I said. I stepped in to challenge Tilly's behaviour. I found myself on the receiving end of false accusations (to fit own agenda?) from these two posters for daring to challenge her.

magicalriff · 16/06/2014 17:14

"I can believe you believe that you have come accross as even handed and interested in exploring HE-Fails."

Are we back to this again. I've already provided examples to discredit this one.

Fideliney · 16/06/2014 17:16

Well I would try dropping the laptop experimentally but it's not that good a cause Incognito

Mammuzza · 16/06/2014 17:46

I heartily apologise Magic

Calling Tilly "bitter" came from one, possibly two other posters.

Let the record reflect the following edit

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I can believe you believe that the few crumbs offered in whirl of posts offering gems like chippy/ bitter / bizzare / silly etc. wholly offset what you chose as the main focus of your posts.

magicalriff · 16/06/2014 17:59

Odd that you won't apologise for the false accusations, and being in the wrong. Because you were and are. Yes, that is quite important to me. You accused me of things which were untrue, and I was forced to defend myself, I provided evidence to the contrary. No apology, no acknowledgment just more unpleasant posts from you both, seemingly both enjoying yourselves with your overuse of the Not bullies, though, oh no.

You can believe what you like. To say your belief means nothing to me would be an understatement.

You've also repeatedly failed to provide example of the supposed home education defence style I have used and where...

TillyTellTale · 16/06/2014 18:08

Magic you have told me you wish me well with my career, et cetera. And expressed sympathy on it. This is true. But you also did a about me ever having children. Were you solely referring to the idea of me home-educating the children you deemed hypothetical? It didn't quite read like that.

I'm not your em

I wasn't one of the respondents to that post, so cannot say

TillyTellTale · 16/06/2014 18:12

Magic you have told me you wish me well with my career, et cetera. And expressed sympathy on it. This is true. But you also did a about me ever having children. Were you solely referring to the idea of me home-educating the children you deemed hypothetical? It didn't quite read like that.

I'm not your employee, so I don't have to pretend to be fooled by the "shit sandwich" approach!

I wasn't one of the respondents to that post, so cannot say
But you have a mind of your own, presumably. Does that comment come across as angry to you? If so, how could I say my point so that it doesn't?

WickedWitchoftheNorthWest · 16/06/2014 18:14

I've lost track as the thread is so long but am I right in thinking that so far three people have come along and said they were homeschooled and it was awful, compared to none who have said it was great?

magicalriff · 16/06/2014 18:17

I did the shudder about you home educating! Not having children! I don't know if you have children or not, more likely yes if you're on Mumsnet. Yes, I've wished you well more than once, and expressed sympathy at the inadequate home education you received. The same as I did to other posters with similar experiences.

I'm not your em

I don't understand this

GrouchyKiwi · 16/06/2014 18:24

I too would love a thread on experiences and ideas, if there's someone willing to start one!

Tilly thanks for the link explaining the different approaches to maths teaching. I was going to ask about that.

GrouchyKiwi · 16/06/2014 18:27

And it seems that I wasn't taught with the relational approach and I would have found that incredibly helpful because after a certain level maths and I do NOT get on at all well.

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Fideliney · 16/06/2014 18:28

Ta dah!!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2108673-to-ask-for-your-Home-Ed-ideas-experiences-and-anecdotes

magicalriff · 16/06/2014 18:31

Ah x post, you hadn't finished typing.
But I'm afraid it still makes no sense. Shit sandwich? Is that supposed to mean something to me?

"I'm not your employee, so I don't have to pretend to be fooled by the "shit sandwich" approach!"

losingmybelt · 16/06/2014 18:33

It would be great to get a couple of Teachers' comments on Home Schooling (I believe a lot of Mumsnetters are teachers?)

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