to ask why if you disapprove of porn

[katekong]

Besides the moral implications that many people in the porn industry are used/scared/mistreated/on drugs. If you disapprove of porn in a relationship, why so?

I'm on my third long-term relationship where I've discovered that my dp has a secret prolific porn habit. I've said at the beginning of each relationship that porn is ok as long as everyone's open and honest. Yet all three have kept it secret which makes it wrong and seedy in my opinion. Iccan't describe why it feels so wrong succinctly, so was hoping others could help me to articulate my feelings. If you disapprove of its use (separately) in relationships, why so? If not, why not?

Your own situation sounds pretty dire to me.

Personally, I watch porn that relates to what we do in real life. I watch female friendly with actors like James Deen and Stoya, who are in a relationship. I also watch pegging, as we do that. Sometimes, we use porn to spice up our sex life and we have got quite a lot of ideas. pegging for example. I watched porn from about 14 and it never damaged me - now I have an amazing, healthy sex life and I still use porn & so does he. It really doesn't bother me. As long as it's not children, animals or rape, it doesn't bother me. We watch porn together and sometimes it's bdsm as we're into that. I'm into being spanked, hair pulled, being tied up. But if I say NO or STOP it stops. Thats it. He respects me enough, as I do him, to stop when we say stop.

I specifically bought us a strap on and anal lube, as well as a little dress for me because I wanted to feel a bit girly! I got it from porn and asked him about it, he said yes and we love it!

Tbh I like very kinky, but very loving sex. It's very hard to find porn that's like that. James Deen is a good one as he is what my man is like. Can go from slow and loving to pretty damn hardcore. He does porn with his girlfriend and she looks sober. I hate it when the women are crying and they're getting punched (light smacking for me is fine. I'm into that.) If it sorta matches what I do in the bedroom, I watch it. Same with him - homemade porn. Which I would like to do with him in the future.

I don't think porn is bad at all. Obviously, I know women do get exploited, but the actors I watch are actually dating. Yes James Deen has had sex with over 2000 women (apparently) but him and stoya do things like me and my partner do. Therefore it's nice for me to watch. it's nice knowing that woman is safe in her partner's care. They just have some cameras on them.

I don't watch humiliation porn or anything like that, but I have watched it, it's not for me. Really not arsed that my man uses porn.

apparently anal sex can feel good for a woman if it's done right, as some women find the pressure enjoyable, but for most women it's entirely pointless because we lack the prostate, which makes it so enjoyable for gay men.
A straight man doesn't have a prostate? using your hands or a toy you can feel around for the prostate and make a man have an explosive orgasm. My normally non-vocal partner couldn't shut up when I first found out! he loved it. Straight men, if they're into it, love it too. I find no amount of lube can make anal not hurt, but I love doing it.

If your partner got into a situation where a woman masturbated in front of him or he watched a couple having sex and he, either then or at a later time, pleasured himself over it - would you not consider that to be infidelity? Why is watching it on a screen, where he's actively sought it out, any better?

It would have to be me pleasuring myself in front of him. We said (drunkenly) that we would do threesomes i did not cry and say "i feel like thinking about it feels like im cheating while he was dirty talking me. during. Both of us have said we imagine ourselves doing what we see on screen. We both see it as "us". Not other people. I'm done posting now

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