outself I think it works both ways, boys/male activities are seen as 'better' and it's good for girls to do them. But the reverse is that girls stuff is seen as inferior and so boys are discoutraged and socialised against more 'girly' stuff. Iykwim?
So it's ok and good for a girl to be a 'tomboy' (hate that word) but a boy liking girls stuff is seen as not good, the're are worried re bullying etc and some girl stuff is seen as inferior.
It's bollocks because colours and toys etc are not gender specific but the categorizing of them and marketing etc is all pervasive and insidious and does influence our children from a young age.
Back to the op, four boys and a girl here, if anything we are stricter with the boys as I can't stand the boys will be boys excuse! And dd is only 3 but she will be expected to behave just as the boys are. She is just as rough and tumble as ds2, ds3 and ds4 are (ds1 never was a physical child). She loves bugs and dirt and scooting and animals and also fairies. She is who she is, all five of my children are very different and you do treat children differently but because if their personality/age, not their gender. Or at least we are trying to not let gender make a difference.
But as an example discipline strategies we used with ds1 don't work with ds2 so we have to do different. Ditto ds3 is different to ds2. Ds4 and dd seem more similar to ds2 but they are still their own unique person.
I think like many parents we are muddling along and hoping we don't fuck it up too much.
But gender issues and socialization and constructs are something I am aware of as a parent and I am trying to support each of my children to be who they are to the best of their abilities, regardless of gender.