to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

[brt100]

Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

Oh! I missed that bit! I blame the 'd' this that and the other stuff. Bloody hell. Well then, to quote - shouldn't the parent decide that?

Surely if the child's parent objects, they are free to say don't give our child a sweet. If the parent chooses not to do that, isn't that up to them? I mean, we are talking the odd sweet and not forcefeeding haribo until they are the size of a barrage balloon.

Gordon Bennett. I've got enough on managing my own kids without giving a shit about someone else's having a frigging jelly bean now and then. Surely that's for their own parents to assess and make a decision on? did I miss where the OP reported what the view of the child's own parents is?

Yeah sod that. I'm crap at cutting cake anyway...let alone possibly 30 slices.

My cake cutting skills are akin to a cake smash

Its difficult when you have a child with problem teeth.

Between sweets from school, fizzy drinks when they go round their friends, and treats from grandparents, its miserable being the horrible mum who doesn't give them sweets, because you're the one who speaks to the dentist.

I think a strongly worded letter from Auntie brt100 to the school may be in order....

Me too Worra. people tend to need a bowl and a spoon if I am cutting cake.

Ds2 has a girl from Dubai in his class. They've been in the same class for 6 years now. Every year on her birthday her parents bring in a cake, balloons and party bags. Apparently it's what they do in Dubai. All the children in the class love if and have half an hour at the end of the day having a mini party.

The sweets for the end of the day don't bother me at all. Everything in moderation.

It's traumatic when you are trying to get 30 pieces out of a cake and you can see that it's running out around child number 24. You'd also be surprised just how hard it is to get hold of a big sharp knife in primary school.

I always sent in individual cupcakes or ready sliced cake, complete with a pack of napkins.

I'm not getting involved with dn upbring, hense why I said I WOULD (if its my own).

I don't see why so many people are critising me for forward planning and thinking about these things in advance.

I too hate having a cake to cut up. That said I had one parent bring in two full size Waitrose cakes for a class of 25 4 year olds! Far too much.

I never give out sweets as a reward. If we do have birthday sweets then they get given out at home time with instruction to ask first.

You'd also be surprised just how hard it is to get hold of a big sharp knife in primary school.

That fills me with comfort, oddly enough!

GoblinChild Surely one of the kids would have one you could borrow - I read about it in the daily mail?

What you plan to do in advance and how things work after you have children are two very different things.

Christ Sirzy yes

Never a truer word spoken!

30 kids in the class. That's a small bag of sweets in average once a week. You get your knickers in a twist about the impact of that on his diet ? Bonkers

When you have a DC starting in Reception just write a letter explaining they are not allowed to have sweets from other children on their birthdays brt. Problem solved, and will save you from being livid.

Do you actually have children Op?

Buy obviously be prepared to give a good explanation why they can't have them............good luck.

Mind you, you may.be lucky & have a child who doesn't like sweets, problem solved .

Ahh now there's a question.

I mean BE obviously prepared not buy

really doesn't take that much planning and thinking though, does it?

"If I ever have a kid of my own, I won't let them have a sweet in school."

God, you could write a list a mile long of all the things I would or would not do with my children before I actually had the buggers. I was a ruddy expert and I had all the answers and a very well planned and thought out parenting strategy. I was a fucking ACE parent before I had kids. You should all have taken lessons from me. I was marvellous.

Gosh I'm not pretending I'm going to be perfect, but at least thinking about these things in advance isnt criminal.

Up there with 'Why are we here?' Goblin

You make up quotes that I didn't say to make a point? Really?

But just how far in advance?

Being "livid" about a child you are yet to conceive eating as yet nonexistent sweets is, well, a bit more than "thinking about things in advance".