to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

I got to exactly the same end claraschu with no effort at all!
Mine are all good cooks, eat healthily, don't eat junk food - all through balanced eating at home and being relaxed about things like a small chocolate bar as a school treat.
I would be rich if I had a £1 for every child who can look their mother in the eye as she says they don't like sweets and you know they cadge as many as possible while she isn't watching!

at my elder kids school they have a break time black market
Current " stalls" are artisan breads and mentos

It's 'Monster' round here.

And at the Middle School the ice cream man parks up outside school at hometime. Just awful.

Agree 100% WorraLiberty with you post of 13:44.

The Mentos will be for dropping into bottles of cola and making fountains Troy. Science and bad food.

Just for information, I wasn't allowed sweets, cakes, fizzy drinks or crisps as a child. This meant that as soon as I was old enough I would take myself off to the nearest shop, buy sweets and smuggle them home. The problem was that we lived out in the sticks, and the village shop was run by a friend of my mothers, so I didn't really get to go to a shop where I could buy sweets all that often. When I went to uni I quickly realised that I could buy all kinds of shit and no one could stop me.
I still have issues with food, and even as a nearly 40 year old I still hide food and sweets.

So what I'm saying is please let your children have the occasional sweet or chocolate bar or you are building up a huge psychological problem for the future.

Giving gifts of food is an almost universal custom, giving gifts on your own birthday to people who wouldn't otherwise be bothered about it (work colleagues / rest of class etc.) is a pretty long standing British (and other) custom.

30 kids in a class, let's rule out 5 'cos their b'day is so deep in the holidays that we wouldn't do it, so that's once every other week or so, the kids would get maybe 100 kcal's from some sweets or a cupcake, out of a required 15 to 30,000 kcal's that they'll need to eat in that time.

YABU and pretty bonkers to even think it could have a difference to their weight.

"Blanket banning is a lazy and dangerous way to go...." And "banning things doesn't educate..."
Oh ok. I've just sent DD to get herself some crack, coke and heroin, a pack of fags and Watneys Party 7. Because trying to stop her from doing all of this wouldn't really be educating her about drug, nicotine and alcohol abuse.
Obviously I've been going wrong somewhere.
From now on I shall toe the MN line.
Looking forward to the first fuckwit who posts "oh don't be so stupid FLB"
Bring it on.

Op you would love me I give my DD cake and sweets to take in, her little face is beaming when she comes out of class, for her its the excitement of handing the treats out.

They stop it in Year 2 at dd's school, I was really about it actually as it also meant that dd couldn't have her birthday cake on the first day back to in September, which also happened to be her birthday. I had hoped it would cushion the blow of having to go back to school at the end of summer hols on her birthday.

I was obviously an abused and neglected child.
My mother banned all fizzy crap, sweets, unless it was the weekend, packet jam tarts and cakes, and shitty junk food.
She also said she would those me out if I ever took up smoking or drugs.
I am not fat as a result. I don't binge on sweet stuff. I don't shove jam tarts down my throat and make myself vomit, or anything else. I've never smoked, or taken drugs.
I must be totally fucked up then. I must get rid of my self control tendency immediately less I pass it on to DD.

Those? Sorry, that should read throw me out.

It's sad for the children who have birthdays in the school holidays not being able to share their birthdays with classmates and give out treats.

This happens quite rarely at our school. I am not a fan and never buy them myself, but I don't object to it as it is basically a nice thing between children.

Bigger culprit is the school itself , which rewards DCs for good work / sitting quietly / pretty much anything with a mini bag of Haribo

This despite a supposed healthy-eating policy which bans chocolate and cake from lunchbags.

I'm not livid but it does piss me off. At least once a week DS comes out munching sweets. "Who gave you those, DS?"
"Miss X."
"What for?"
"Doing my reading nicely."

It's made you miserable though bunster!

The parents are deciding though. They are deciding to buy sweets and send them in. If you don't want your child to be included in this then just tell the school. It's really easy to sort out. "Please don't allow my child to take a sweet". Job done.

You are neither in control of nor responsible for the choices of others so you have no power there and no need for you to bother yourself getting angry about their choices, particularly when you have the power to prevent them from affecting you in any way with a simple and easy instruction to the school. - Do not include my child in this.

That's entirely up to you. If you don't want them to feel left out, you can even sort that out too by leaving a little supply of things that are acceptable to you that they can be given instead. Or by telling them why it's better for them to not participate. Whatever you like, really.

My children can't have gluten. I supplied the school with a bag of alternatives. They kept them in the office. Everyone was happy.

It's really not a problem that does not have a quick and easy solution for you, there's no need to be livid about it.

Just for information, I wasn't allowed sweets, cakes, fizzy drinks or crisps as a child. This meant that as soon as I was old enough I would take myself off to the nearest shop, buy sweets and smuggle them home. The problem was that we lived out in the sticks, and the village shop was run by a friend of my mothers, so I didn't really get to go to a shop where I could buy sweets all that often. When I went to uni I quickly realised that I could buy all kinds of shit and no one could stop me.
I still have issues with food, and even as a nearly 40 year old I still hide food and sweets.
So what I'm saying is please let your children have the occasional sweet or chocolate bar or you are building up a huge psychological problem for the future.

We can throw anecdotes around all day, though. I was allowed sweets, chocolate, fizzy drinks etc as a child, and I still went sugar-mad in my teens and early twenties. I mean really, really disordered. I remember hiding a bag of icing sugar in my wardrobe and eating it with a spoon. When I went away to uni my diet was appalling! And I can't blame it on a restrictive childhood. I don't know what I can blame it on, but suspect something in some people's genetic makeup that makes them particularly susceptible to sugar (disclaimer - totally unscientific opinion).

Whatever troubles my children may or may not have in the future regarding food I will not be blaming it on having the odd tiny bag of Haribo in Primary because it was someone's birthday.

I'm a teacher and it only annoys me if parents send in things like an entire cake not cut into slices so I have to divide it intp 30 and wrap each sticky piece in kitchen roll in my marginal time.

I don't have a problem with letting them share out a bag of fun size treats on their birthday, especially if there's one for me too - one of the perks of teaching!

Don't be such a meanie.

There is a problem in that it's not her child Hecate. It's her niece.
So the school will take no notice of her request, unless she's the designated carer.

I always made sure there were enough for the teachers and TAs mind be rude not to.

If I were a teacher I would flatly refuse to get involved with the giving out of party invitations though.

So what we can take away from this Tulip is that it doesn't make a jot of difference if you give your children the occasional bag of haribo or not. They are just as likely to end up with food issues.
I say let them have some fun then.

I don't do party invitations, or cutting up cake. I did used to keep alternatives in my cupboard for nut allergy/vegetarian/religious etc issues.

Expecting the teacher to faff with cutting up a cake is a cheek. Blimey.