to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

Sorry just realised it's your DN you are referring to. Unless you have parental control then it's not your call. You can think it's wrong all you like but it will be near on impossible to change or dictate what other peoples children eat.

Good point Nocomet

Our school banned it for a bit as certain very loud parents complained - and the kids just did it outside the school gates - clogging up the pavement.

It is really important for a child to feel special occasionally and to do something for their friends. Not every child can have a party, do playdates whatever so singing happy birthday and bringing cakes or sweets makes the child feel that they are special

Nice point nocomet.

It's not particularly frequently with dc as some parents don't do it, some don't do it if birthday falls at a weekend, and most don't do it if their birthday falls in school holidays. So not very many days at all really.

Very mean concept to actively want schools to stop it happening.

It is so sad when people want to suck all the joy out of childhood! If they have a balanced diet it is fine. Attitudes like this will mean that your child will wants sweets more. Relax and they will have a healthy attitude towards them.

Seriously? Yabu . Its a lovely thing for the birthday child to do and nice for the classmates.

Do you really have so little to discuss you need to co-opt someone else's minor discussion points? Because your niece's parents haven't been mentioned as having any issues with it and yet you 'would be livid'. Do you realize that sounds utterly incongruous with the scale of the problem?

Here's the difference - birthday treats are sent home and so a child's parents can make a decision. It's nothing to do with you until you are elected Overseer of the State Parenting Dept.

You could have started a thread about school menus as now many parents are having their choice removed to opt out and the content is frequently wildly at odds to the standards expected of lunch boxes.
I mean, you'd have an education on the food that's actually being provided as well as some other things but at least there would be fewer people immediately thinking you were under a foil hat, unless you posted in the same style.
Just, if you're desperate for an argument then you have to pick an appropriate topic, not one that most people agree with.
If you are really worried about all this unimportant stuff then use MN's resources to get support in leaving anxiety behind.

If you have another point to make then please try again as you don't appear to have made it clear.

Get a grip. Worry about them in 10 years time when their mates are handing out cigarettes at the end of the day

Oh for heavens sake. Just take them, stash them and ration them.

That's providing your children or family are actually allowed to set eyes on a sweet without spontaneously combusting.

I would agree if they were given every day and allowed to eat them there and then, but sweets usually come home. Just give them when u see fit.

And a heart. Many families can't afford a party, a few sweets may be all the kid gets to involve her friends in her birthday.

And have a heart. Bloody phone

Or just get your child to say thank you then chuck them in the bin when you get home

mine have usually eaten them by the time I've got to them
they eat the in the playground in the line while waiting for parents to come

Yabu, there are what 30 kids in a class so it's not even once a week and as for bringing raisins instead they are far worse for teeth than sweets.

Wow. First world problems.

The sweets that DS gets on friends birthdays is a mini pack of Haribo that has about 6 sweets in.

as for bringing raisins instead they are far worse for teeth than sweets

rasiins cling to the teeth so anything like that is bad

And yes agree with pp. If this was about school diners and something kids eat daily id agree with you!!

Please worry about the bigger picture.

Ha, missed out my own point - as sweets are not that frequent and mostly controlled by the parents but school dinners are 5 meals a week so have much more impact than sweets (although not as much as all the other meals a week but I digress). It just seems your focus is on the thing least likely to have an effect on health but that brings more fun and social benefits with it. I really don't get your reasoning.

YANBU but if they get them at school then don't give them biscuits etc that day at home

YABU as have you tried to come up with a small treat to celebrate a birthday that's not sweets chocolate or cake? It's impossible. Unless you spend a fortune. You can buy a massive bag of sweets in pound land.

Those tiny packs of haribo have half a dozen sweets in, they don't cling to teeth ad much ad raisins.

Ours come out with the packet at the end of school and then parents can take them if they want. I just make sure mine have a drink of water with them or after them, as I said it's less than once a week.

It's a difficult one. My daughter isn't allowed any sweets except for occasional chocolate at meal times as her teeth are not brilliant. Normally any sweets given out are Haribo, which also have gelatine in them and we're vegetarian.

She's old enough to decline them politely and to say why. So she is left out.

I think it is a poor custom and ought to be banned.

A sensible child who knows they will get thrown in the bin will eat them as soon as they get them!
My DCs are all adults- have good teeth and are slim and eat very few sweets- they don't buy them. They didn't get to that by setting up food issues by getting upset about a birthday child giving out a few sweets!

Why a poor custom Bonsoir?

It's hardly a biggie is it? there is probably loads more sugar in their breakfast cereal than one little pack of haribo. It's the thought that counts.

30 kids in a class, so it's hardly a lot of sweets spread through the year.

Children need to learn about moderation, and to enjoy foods . Labelling foods as good and bad is what contributes to issues.

You will be pleased to hear that at High School it stops. They can buy their own massive bag of Haribo as they walk to and from school should they choose.