to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

Being given a little bag of sweets isn't fun?? Bringing in some little gift for your classmates on your birthday isn't social? Bollocks.

Demonising any food or food group is stupid and counterproductive. My mother strictly rationed all food, especially sweets, throughout my childhood, and now I have an extremely disordered relationship with food, and am very overweight, because I never learned to self-regulate, and always associate rationing/controlling of food with my mother, and with her massive contribution to my depression (she ignored me when I was being bullied, did nothing to help, never asked if the bullying had stopped, and didn't notice how withdrawn and unhappy I was for the whole 5 years of senior school. I was suicidal - she didn't know or care). So when I left home, I went to the polar opposite - eating whatever I wanted. And medicating my depression/pain with food.

sirzy because my DS(8) is still learning about food - he is learning as and when it happens that food contain a variety of things that we need but some things not in huge quantities.

Educating you child how to eat and cook healthily is not making an issue out of it. I do not sit there and analyse every meal and mouthful. Im mindful of saying things like 'no you cant have that bag of hairdos because you had an ice cream earlier' Nothing is banned, 5 per day is encouraged. McDonalds once a month...

The answer is quite simple

Just tell the teacher your child isn't allowed sweets

There - job done.

this is so WRONG - healthy schools adn all

its not even her child Worra

Maybe OP you should see what DN actual mother thinks

Why is it wrong Troy?

Healthy eating in schools has nothing to do with children being given the odd bag of Haribo on someone's birthday.

There is nothing wrong with the odd tiny bag of sweets as part of an otherwise healthy diet and exercise routine.

I know andsmile I remembered earlier that the OP seems a little obsessed with what her DN eats.

I'd love to know what the Mother actually thinks.

You absolute misery. What a depressing post. Were you the one who was also having a melt down over a Kinder egg?

Maybe OP should go on the fussy eater thread and sort em all owt

My children have never come home from school with sweets, I have never heard of parents sending them in for birthdays. They do get the very odd slice of cake, but that is it. I have no idea if it doesn't happen because it isn't allowed since I have never heard of anyone even wanting to do it. I really don't see the point personally! Especially if they have a party.

IMO if junk food is the only thing that makes children excited as a gift then they need their horizons broadened.

ODFOD

OP I think if you had brought your children up properly they would refuse the haribos in the first place. Parents have a duty to encourage a healthy hatred and rejection of anything connected with sweets. The only acceptable birthday school treat is, IMHO, a pot of unsweetened organic goat's yoghurt, with an insistence that the goat is reared on the foothills of the Himalayas for guaranteed air purity.

I have heard it all now- no sweets to 'educate' about sugar!
Having 'good' foods and 'bad' foods is the problem.
The only education is 'make sure you only eat sweets out of mother's sight. Forbidden fruits always taste sweeter!
The aim is to self regulate, if you do it for them there is no hope!

MissDuke, a lot of children don't have parties and even if they do, the parents can't always afford to invite the whole class.

Therefore, handing out a tiny bag of sweets or a fun size Marsbar is a way of celebrating with their friends...or at least marking the occasion.

It's no different to working in an office and bringing in cakes for your colleagues.

My eldest is over 30yrs and it was the norm when he was a primary school. It is not new.

But Donnie what if the goat has a penchant for Himalayan Kinder eggs and Haribo?

Most parents will find it easier to take in some sweets than make cakes, need bags etc.

I wish it was banned but I don't have energy to move beyond occasionally irritated about it. I wish my problems were on the scale OP is dealing with.

This thread is making me seriously crave some sweeties.

Tell your niece's parents to ban her from eating sweets, and to make her refuse any offered to her at school.
Problem solved.
Change your name to Aunt Spiker. That would clarify things too.

The average class contains 30 children. That's just over one birthday a fortnight on average and each member of the class gets maybe a fun size mars bar containing just over 100 calories.

Hardly going to make them fat!

Op, you have a posting history full of minor worries about car lights, people eating meat in your house, colleagues and windows...have you thought of taking up a hobby?

Getting a life might be a start

What a very unpleasant, bullying pair of posts. MN is full of posts of varying degrees of importance, including many, many trivia-based posts. But because these two happen to disagree with the OP, they go to all the trouble of researching her posting history so as to sling insults at her because her posts aren't sufficiently grave and weighty for them.

For the record, I don't agree with the OP on this, but I don't think that in any way justifies this sort of personal attack.

OP I don't understand it either. It was a problem for my Dc's as Ds had food allergies and Dd had lots of difficulties with her teeth. It was not a custom in the country I grew up in so came as a shock to me. Same with the giving out cakes at work on someone's birthday.
Yanbu!

Really?
She is being unreasonable, petty and ridiculous. This isn't about her child either. Suggesting she finds something else to occupy herself with rather that constantly fretting about her DN and how she is being raised by her parents isn't bullying.
I wonder how her dn's parents feel about that level of critical over-involvement.

As I already said, if you have problems with your child's school permitting birthday sweets, cakes etc, then put it to a parent vote and you will be able to express your opinion.
You also have the choice of being able to ban your own child from having sweets, and informing the school that it is your decision.

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