to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

TBW it's not every day though-that would be unreasonable.

If every child in my DS's class brought in sweets for every single birthday we would still have 7 weeks with no sweets...

Yes,Sparkling .I suppose I'm griping at the type of sweet.I don't allow chewy sweets like drumstick lollies full stop as they're so bad for teeth.Chocolate and cake not so bad.
Some schools have mixed groups so its not always just a case of the 30 in their main class.
I would hate to put in a letter to say my child cannot have them, especially if you have a child who is already marked out a bit for different reasons.

I know it seems joyless.

Interesting thread to read as I've just baked smartie biscuits for my DD to take into school tomorrow. She's very, very excited to provide birthday treats for the whole class.

I'm providing extras for the teacher & TA.

Hopefully the other parents won't mind. I always send in the list of ingredients.

At DC1's teachers suggestion, I sent in a water melon. I asked because the previous nursery had a number of allergies and intolerances. The class loved it / had it as snac for the birthday and 2 days afterwards as it made a change from banana or raisins.

Some parents hated it though. Apparently it was giving their children ideas about fruit. Meh! Next year, I'm sending in Gregg's sausage rolls and fruit shoots.

Some parents hated it though. Apparently it was giving their children ideas about fruit

Was it a rather phalic looking water melon

No bloody winning is there

Our dentist has suggested that if dd has sweets they are once a day with a meal.

Yet at break they can buy juice.....
At school dinner they have a dessert.....

You see where this is going!

Add on a few days a month with sweets from school.
A few playdates with fizzy drinks.
A few treats from grand parents.

And suddenly it looks like I don't give a toss to my dentist.

30 packets of sweets over an academic year (39 weeks)? It's really not an issue.

I've just seen the next door neighbours daughter eating sweets before tea. Should I report it?

If some of you had dc's with problem teeth and you've seen them go through extractions and fillings every time they go to the dentist, you might not feel the same when you see them gnawing on another drumstick lolly or similar chewy or boiled sweet as they leave school.

But surely that would be down to the child's disobedience or the parent forgetting to tell the teacher, the child's not allowed sweets?

I did say that I don't like the idea of having to single a child out from something that of course all children enjoy.

Tbh, I wouldn't be furious at 'disobedience' in that scenario.

I'm not sure I can always resist chocolate when its in my face if I'm on a diet -and I'm an adult.

I get fed up of being the bad bugger you know.
Don't think I'd rather it weren't the case.

I have a child with problem teeth and a obsessional craving for sweet things.
Even I can see that one sweet a few times a term isn't going to make any difference.

Its not like alcohol when you have cirrhosis or a fag when you have copd. One sweet won't make the rest of your teeth crumble.

ThatBloodyWoman
We're in the same situation as you.
I've got used to being the Horrible Evil Party Bag Grabber and Sweet Binner.

This is why I wish other people wouldn't make DDs situation even more miserable by bringing in sweets.
A home made cake with only a small smear of icing would be better.

When I was at school, we had fizzy drink vending machines and vending machines full of sweets chocolate and crisps. I ate sweets and crisps and drank coke every break and lunch in primary and secondary school. And I have never been fat.

Don't blame the occasional sweets for tooth decay!! (I'm a bit of an evangelist so will rant I'm afraid.....)

Tooth decay in this country is mainly caused by acids, overbrushing and starch... stop drinking fizzy drinks, fruit juice and smoothies.... just stop... have a whole piece of fruit after a meal instead... would give the biggest drop.

Stop eating crisps and those stupid little boxes of raisins and "healthy fruit snacks" (fruit bars, fruit flakes, yoghurt coated crap in a bag) as snacks......

Don't eat sweetened yoghurt/fromage frais....

"Crisps" - esp wotsit/skips/quavers type stick to kids teeth for HOURS and are a huge cause of decay.... yet people use them for "outdoors weaning snacks" (I saw that term actually used on MN somewhere!?!) in the pushchair sooooo often.

Don't brush your teeth after a meal until 1 HOUR has passed - let the enamel harden first.. stop rinsing after brushing - just spit - give the flouride a chance...

Genetics plays a part - but there is a lack of knowledge out there too....

If your child has problem teeth enough to have extractions then sorry, you need to look at their whole diet and not just the occasional sweet.

Correct and thorough brushing as well as a good diet will address this and before you say anything, you're child is not genetically susceptible to tooth decay!

If you looked after teeth you wouldn't have a problem.

I don't think that is fair always some people have problematic teeth and it has very little to do with dental hygiene

Often an issue won't be discovered until a lot of damage has occurred because its so unexpected.

My son is obsessed with sugar and will do whatever he can to get it. He has eaten bags of it.
He only has 3 fillings because he has strong teeth.
That won't last obviously but we are putting preventatives in place.

Oh and I know of several conditions that predispose people to tooth decay.

YY I thought there were conditions which mean teeth are more prone to decay MrsDV.

If you looked after teeth you wouldn't have a problem. you're child is not genetically susceptible to tooth decay!

that is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO not true... I was, and have looked after my teeth and still have a problem.....

you do know that there ARE people - like me - who are genetically susceptible to tooth decay? Luckily my kids have inherited my hubby's genes for that.... I and MANY others - have a form of Congenital enamel hypoplasia where basically the enamel of the tooth is weak and friable and pitted and makes me very susceptible to tooth decay as the protective coating of enamel on my teeth is not very protective...

luckily there are coatings and treatments available nowadays - but diagnosis usually consists of having had an abnormal amount of fillings at a young age....

There are.

There are also drugs that people are required to take that cause issues with teeth.

If I see a kid with rotten teeth bad dental care is not the first thing that comes to mind.

It does happen of course but there are loads of other reasons why a child might have issues.

I have known of cases where neglect is cited because of a child's dental problems but the person who has blamed neglect has not bothered to read notes or even do a quick google.

I have a friend who was blaming herself for her DD not having great enamel due to something that happened in the womb?

M ans S do kale crisps (boak!). Would these be suitably nasty enough to give to the sugar guzzling kids do you think? Imagine - a small packet of sweets - whats the world coming to?