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AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

999 replies

EasyCube · 29/05/2014 18:16

Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

OP posts:

Thumbwitch · 03/06/2014 16:50

Math - if you'd got a pack of thick Kotex like my Mum used to use then I'd still use the fucking toilet paper, as it happens. If you had super plus tampons, I'd still use the toilet paper. If you happened to have the right size then I'd probably use one of them but I still maintain it is fucking weird to keep a visible selection of sizes/types of sanitary protection to cater for every potential feminine need and I don't actually believe anyone does it!

slithytove · 03/06/2014 16:54

I would ask my host if upon opening the cupboard, I couldn't see what I needed.

I wouldn't ask a single male out of respect for their potential embarrassment. Not having supplies would be my error, not theirs.

slithytove · 03/06/2014 16:55

I can't believe this thread will end up getting locked. Better settle the debate soon. I think a vote should do it

OnlyLovers · 03/06/2014 17:00

It's really fucking rude to text someone who's been hosting your child and tell them you embarrassed them.

mathanxiety · 03/06/2014 17:03

I said 'regular' pads. The sort that might tide an average woman over for an hour or two.

Not super maxi, extra chunky, sanitary belt required, etc., pads.

Why wouldn't a woman want to wear thick Kotex since you mention them? If TP does the job and thick Kotex does the job and both are freely available, which one would you choose and why?

I didn't say 'visible' when I suggested providing sanpro for use by anyone who might need it was something a good host/ess should consider doing. The idea of some sort of visibility (including a fancy basket) was introduced by other posters. I wouldn't be against keeping it out and visible but equally I don't see a problem with a host/ess telling her guests when they excuse themselves to use the loo that they might find anything they needed in X drawer or cupboard.

ILoveCoreyHaim · 03/06/2014 17:13

if there was a packet of pads left out with the spare loo rolls/on a shelf/in a lovingly handwoven basket with 'for guests' embroidered on it, and a roll of TP, which one would you choose?

I would have to take a photo on my phone to send it to my mam saying look at this in xx bathroom, is this normal to have a fanny napkin basket?

slithytove · 03/06/2014 17:22

I would hope that if my host told me I would find anything I needed in x cupboard, that they had been very careful what else was in there.

Eg. If there is deodorant, shoudl I infer I smell?
Pregnancy test, am I fat?
Air freshener - do I look like I do stinky poos?

Proper minefield and one a good host should really be aware of

KatoPotato · 03/06/2014 17:23

I think math shouldn't be keeping hand towels on top of the cistern... yuck

KatieKaye · 03/06/2014 17:27

A little note saying help yourself!!! Well, I nearly had a little accident at the absurdity of that.

Unless you have loads of pals who are too tight to buy their own and see you as a soft touch and stock up when they visit .

susejamieson · 03/06/2014 17:29

She actually said 'guest tampons'?

That is one of the funniest things I've ever heard.

Guest tampons

mathanxiety · 03/06/2014 17:29

I think I can safely assume people would choose the pads then.

'If they're so detrimental to being a good host then why don't hotels provide them? Their whole thing is providing for guests. Little sewing kits, slippers, toiletries, towels, snacks, drinks, hell sometimes even a pillow menu but never ever sanitary towels and tampons.'

Maybe it's because women expect so little that they don't even expect to find sanpro they could use in the home of another woman and would use the very poor substitute of TP rather than asking.

What it boils down to is hotels and hosts providing for the needs of men but expecting women to shift for themselves.

Thumbwitch · 03/06/2014 17:33

"Why wouldn't a woman want to wear thick Kotex since you mention them? If TP does the job and thick Kotex does the job and both are freely available, which one would you choose and why?"

Cos they're fucking uncomfortable and I like to be able to walk without feeling like I've a ferret down my knickers, thanks.

Coumarin · 03/06/2014 17:36

I think you're just enjoying arguing the toss Math I will take note of the Guest Tampon situation in future but I'm willing to bet large amounts that it's just you, the op's friend and about two other people who think this should be a thing.

mathanxiety · 03/06/2014 17:36

If you find TP comfortable by comparison to thick Kotex why not use it all the time (assuming you don't)..

Thumbwitch · 03/06/2014 17:40

Toilet paper can be folded up, you know. You can't compress one of those thick towels. I use thin ones when I have to as I no longer like to use tampons.

Anyway - you seem determined to play devil's advocate on this thread, some of the things you have come out with are just mad very strange, especially the patriarchy conspiracy to only provide for the menz and not the wimmin. I'll leave you to it. I assume you're after getting the 1000 post so you can say you had the last word on the subject, as I really can't see why else you're posting the same stuff over and over.

OnlyLovers · 03/06/2014 17:51

I like to be able to walk without feeling like I've a ferret down my knickers

MrsCripps · 03/06/2014 18:08

OH FFS!
I wont use a pad because I choose to use a bloody (arf) Mooncup.
I haven't used a disposable pad for about 7 years .

Why are you making such silly assumptions - that its all a patriarchal conspiracy ,when the fact is I and most other women know their own cycles and don't need other people to provide everything for them.
I don't have a beard not on my face anyway I don't provide guest razors -Oh its a feminist conspiracy against men not

Give over!

fascicle · 03/06/2014 19:03

There is another conspiracy - against babies. Where are their 'guest nappies'?

captainmummy · 03/06/2014 19:33

Are we all waiting to have the last word?

AllMimsyWereTheBorogoves · 03/06/2014 19:35

#996 and counting...

captainmummy · 03/06/2014 19:35

I think math is going to come on as the 999th post, to say she's had a good laugh and thangyouvairmuch, that's all folks

MrsCripps · 03/06/2014 19:38

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