AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

Well then it is a bigger issue, Slithy.

As long as we pretend we are not in any way obliged to be considerate to each other nobody else will take any notice of our needs either. We teach society at large how to treat us.

It is most interesting that condoms have come up in this discussion.

Why are posters conflating sex with menstruation and the need for sanpro?

I do actually, slithytoves, condoms only though, (latex free and knobbly ones) as you need a prescription for the pill.

I also have ovulation sticks and pregnancy tests, and a moon phase calendar on the back of the door, just in case you're so inclined!!

As I say, ALL the comforts of your home, in my home. I'd hate anyone feeling uncomfortable staying with me.

And the tea is always brewing

I'm impressed venus! Can't imagine requesting a condom though (knobbly please)!

So math not providing generic sanpro has now become "we are not in any way obliged to be considerate to each other". Seems like a bit of a stretch no? Why does this consideration only apply to sanpro and not other needs which have been suggested upthread?

Following on from the OP where presumably the girl leaked as the period was unexpected, should a good hostess provide clean knickers?

You'd be amazed at how may people seem to need a condom. (Mostly in pairs to be fair)
I used to carry them around in my bag in uni and I was the go to girl for everything. (I'd get them free and by the handful from the uni nurse)

I know they're handy for carrying water also, if you're out and about and stuck for a vessel, but only the ones without spermicide.

This is surely not real. OP did this honestly really happen?! What kind of world do these people inhabit? Seriously? This is a joke thread.

Fuck, I'd be quite uncomfortable if there was a guest selection of condoms on show!! I'd wonder if I'd accidentally strayed into a swinger's house.

I am n immigrant (albeit one who grew up in the UK). Certainly we feel that a host has done their job properly when their guest feels totally at ease and at home. As mentioned above, I try to provide appropriate food, I have guest slippers. We don't drink caffeine, yet we have small jars of coffee and teabagsfor guests who do.

Nonetheless, we would not provide guest sanpro. Nor have I ever seen it provided at relative's homes. (Not, for that matter, at English friends' homes.) While a good host anticipates their guests needs, what is even more important is that a good host shares what they have with their guest. So, of course, anything that a guest reasonably requests for their comfort, I would share with them.

I went to a friends house for the weekend; her guest bedroom had -
kettle
teabags
coffee
mugs
sugar
biscuits
tea towel
towels
soap
shampoo
bath oil
bin
spare thick blanket
electric blankets (one on each side for warm/cool combo)
iron and board
moisturising creams
bedside radio
magazines
books

BUT
I had forgotten to pack my nightie. I had to sleep in my knickers. I did not ask the hostess if I could borrow one of hers.

Am I a bad guest, or is she a bad hostess, for not anticipating my 'needs' and therefore letting society as a whole (and English specifically) down ?

I suspect I am just stupid at packing.

Can't see any sign of sanitary goods on that list there, Captain!

Wow, your friends takes their hosting duties very seriously! I'm currently living in Canada and before that the US. Bathroom contents seem pretty similar to bathrooms back in England, although I've never looked in the cupboards (because that would just be very nosy and rude, surely).

I'm not English, I've never heard of or seen guest sanpro provided.

I've visited bathrooms in the UK, Ireland, USA (east & west coast), Japan, France, New Zealand, Germany, South Africa & have never seen any sign of guest sanitary products. Nor did I feel unwelcome or feel my hosts were in any way remiss for not providing anyway.

We only have relaxed guests in the house anyway. Anyone with a rod up their backside doesn't last 5 minutes around a severely autistic teenager. Really in our bathroom the provision or otherwise of guest sanitary towels is the least of your problems.

See when I lived in the states and it was a 40 mile drive to buy tampons (60 if you wanted non applicator!) I might consider emergency items for guest use. Living 5 mins from a 24hr Tesco I don't see the point in second guessing every eventuality.

I think that text is outrageously rude. Hopefully the teenager learnt a lesson: to carry sanpro with her at all times!

My house is not a B&B and frankly, if people expect a kettle in their room when they come and stay, they are in the wrong place. I would expect anyone who visited my house who needed toothpaste, tampons, or whatever simply to ask.

Captain. No sanpro on that list.

I've been in that position both as guest and as host. I've had no issue lending a nightie. As the absent minded packer guest, I have occasionally asked to borrow, but usually not. I know that my forrin hosts won't mind the request, but am not always certain of my English hosts - some I know well enough to know they won't mind, some MIL will make me feel uncomfortable, some I just don't know well enough to know how they feel about it.

I wouldn't usually ask for a nightie, but a large t-shirt if I've forgotten my nightwear. That's usually easier to cope with from everyone's point of view.

OP, I would reply saying 'Perhaps you are a bit confused about protocol with this one, if your daughter has only recently started her periods. She only had to ask and I would have found her something. You will find most people are happy to share their own supplies if needed, but most people don't have a special guest supply.....if you think about it, what exactly would you supply, towels with wings, without wings, applicator tampons, non applicator tampons, which absorbency. The best way for your daughter to be sure she has exactly what she prefers, is to have it with her, but you will find people are happy to supply an emergency, but you will have to ask. I found your text rather rude, but am sure you didn't mean to be'

I'm not English, I've never heard of or seen guest sanpro provided.

Don't worry. It's not an English thing either. I think it might be a newly invented concept - Google searches of the terms 'guest tampons' and 'guest sanpro' seem to lead back to this thread (and nowhere else).

Way back in the thread, someone mentioned knitted sanpro bags (not knitted sanpro, I hasten to add). I have hundreds of litte balls of yarn, legacy from twelve years of knitting stuff for grandkids, so would be happy to oblige any MNer who feels she would like a bag to hang, perhaps, on the bathroom doorhandle, full of an assortment of sanpro of every size and style. Perhaps the front could be tastefully embroidered with a discreet indication of what was within, such as 'Fanny Covers' ...

I could knit the bags in stripes or one colour - and for those whose bathrooms are particularly luxuriously appointed, I could add sequins, beads, gold braid and Swarovski crystals.

[oldgrandmama goes to rummage in her bag of tatty old wool remnants, batting away the moths ...]

oldgrandmama What a marvellous idea. I think your beautifully bagged lucky dip selection is too good for keeping hidden away on bathroom knobs - it could also have summer fete/fundraising applicators applications. A nicely packaged yet highly practical lucky dip with a difference.

This needs to go into Classics for being so weird and rude. Crazy woman.

Yup, fascicle, the Townswomen's Guild meets in the church hall nearby ... I might pop along with some samples of lovely knitted sanpro bags. I'm sure they'll go down a storm - average age of members, about 103. They make oldgrandmama feel like a giddy, winsome young girl.

Old grandmama, can I please have one with a knitted tampon on the front and 'guest sanpro' on the back

I'm not 'English' I'm Scottish and yes like to be a good host. Hence a bathroom cabinet full of guest stuff. I have the space to do this and therefore don't see a problem. I provide a few different types of towels and tampons and don't why people should take the piss out of that. One of the many other things includes down condoms... I don't want a guest having to ask or rummage in my own personal stuff for that!

Maybe the Scottish/other foreigners make better hosts? We always feed people who walk in the door too. English people that I have visited tend to be less enthusiastic about guests?