AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

and hotels slithy - surely a there should be a pick and mix selection there if anywhere alongside all the other 'essential' supplies? I have never seen such a thing and I've stayed in a fair few (travel with work).

sorry that does not belong here

Quint did you meant to post that link in this thread? I can't see anywhere to keep anything in that bathroom

Sorry, that was surely a pool of mint lube.

Wrong thread.

I know it was the wrong thread but what what with that house? Why were there some drawings and some photos?

math your argument is becoming more and more desperate and ridiculous.

TP is provided not purely for guest purposes but because the residents of the house use it every time they go to the loo. Nobody is going to use TP then take the roll off the holder and put it away until the next time. The same with soap and towels. But if those same residents have no need of sanpro there is no reason to keep any in the house.

If my guests need to visit the loo/bathroom it doesn't cross my mind to wonder what they may be doing in there or whether they need me to provide sanpro/wipe there bum etc. They are adults, they are responsible for their needs. Anyone visiting me knows I'm no longer of an age to use sanpro so they wouldn't expect it to be provided.

• wipe their bum

Well said, open. More than a bit of clutching at straws going on. As well as a fine disapplication of logic. Unless she's deliberately trying to be as hilariously OTT as possible?

math - you are free to provide whatever sanpro you feel is appropriate. It is interesting that you feel this need, but that's fine. Really, it is. Don't worry about it. Whatever makes you feel comfortable.
But it does not make you a better or a more considerate host.

A woman's body is her responsibility - it is not the responsibility of her host. Your posts suggest that menstruating is something out of the norm, something that women cannot deal with themselves. That's rather sad.

Perhaps we should compile a list about all the things that the good hostess should have in her bathroom just in case?

So far we have
Assorted sanitary protection
Menstrual Candle
Assorted incontinence protection
Favoured Lube
Condoms
Assortment of toilet paper/wet wipes
Bin

Suppositories and/or enema kits for those with constipation
Complete waxing kits for those who are going on a date (it is optional if the host offers to do the waxing, although this will mark out the truly superior host from the also-rans).
Nail varnish remover, cuticle sticks and scissors (either sterilised or brand new for each guest) and an assortment of varnishes for those who chip their own manicures/pedicures. Full choice of colours, obviously.
Clean pants for both sexes and for all ages. because accidents do happen.
Colostomy bags.
Selection of artificial limbs in case visitor break own.
All pet owners must have anti-rabies injection kits for the protection of their guests.
Laser equipment for the more hirsute guest who spies an imminent 'tache in the bright lights of your bathroom.
Full range of surgical dressings for guest who may be recovering from surgery.

As an aside, can i just say i think all of you are stealth boasting about how many visitors you get. The only people who darken my doorstep occasionally are my parents (and i don't think either of them menstruate). How many frigging friends/relatives do you all have popping over that makes even washing your hair worthwhile!? sometimes i'm glad i'm so horrible that no one likes me

Ahem, I already tried to land on the definitive list that the perfect hostess must provide way up-thread.

Sanpro is the only out-the-ordinary thing to make the cut, apparently. The only thing that marks you out as an adequate hostess, sufficiently able to anticipate your guests needs.

You were trying to substitute items for san pro margaret

Are we marking diabetics as 'outside the norm' by supposing them incapable of carrying around their own glucose tablets for their intermittent hypo episodes?

Are we not anticipating their needs by not having a guest supply in-house?

Well, I have a fulsome supply of tea bags, in regular, green, early grey and fruit varieties, in an attempt to cater for a range of guest tastes.

I suppose one could use a handful of those, if it came down to it...

Hmm, possibly more dribbly than absorbent per se but the fruit ones would smell nice and have their own strings

Problem solved.

I do hate it when people have a bathroom without a lined bin though. What do these folk expect you to do if you need to change a tampon?Blokes I can understand but I think there are alot of flushers around and I hate feeling forced to flush through lack of a bin.

The condoms are perhaps the most important item for the Guest Basket.

If the hostess is blamed for a poor girl putting paper in her undies, one can easily assume that hostess will be blamed for any pregnancies that will ensue from a visit to her bathroom/home.

How about a pile of assorted 'dodgy' mags for any visitors who might want of bit of 'me time'?

Some women (and their daughters) are vulgar. What an awful new friend. Drop her.

My English DH has just made the comment that "The English make marvellous guests, and poor hosts".

I wonder of us all who DO provide our guests with San pro and anti venom etc etc, how many of us aren't English, and those of us who bring their own ARE English?!

As someone who isn't English, I provide my guests with all the comforts of their home in my home, without question, though, to be fair, I come from a country that trades globally on its hospitality and welcome, and nothing is too much bother.

Whenever I've stayed with English people in their homes, I always get the feeling that they'd rather not be hosting anyone thanks, and they can't wait to get back to their routine!

I don't get that unwelcome feeling when I stay with my French, Singaporean, Indian, American friends... who do seem to host well....

Maybe my DH is right! What do you think?

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The posts about men having sanpro made me think of this.

Venus...

all the comforts of their own home?

But how do you know? Is it guesswork?

Do you provide contraception?

Venus I agree with your husband. I am Irish.