AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

Oops - italics went all over the place - should have read:

... A beautifully lettered little notice by the basket (I favour Bernhard Modern Roman), its border decorated with whimsical roses and forgetmenots, should read: If on the rag you find you're caught/please through this lovely basket sort/'tis better to be safe and sure/don't want you dripping on my floor...

Oh I didn't mean to criticise the daughter, I didn't even read that she was a teenager. I'm just saying. I actually always have tampons in my bag.

'why would i provide guest sanpro? we don't allow that kind of filth in our house and would expect our guests to act with a bit of decorum and not be so disgusting as to visit while menstruating. i'm now going to have to bleach the sofa' brilliant reply, Mrs Koala!!

is she normally pretty mean, OP? Maybe she resents buying tampons and takes DD around an assortment of houses to stock up each month? It could save a small fortune over the years.

So, how many of the people who think it is normal behaviour to provide "guest" sanpro no longer menstruate/have anyone living in their house that menstruates? because it's highly unreasonable to think you are inhospitable if you fail to stock items you have no need for yourself. I don't have whisky to offer surprise guests, because nobody here likes it (I would of course buy a bottle if I was expecting someone who enjoyed scotch) but I can offer a variety of other drinks. Teen DD was able to use loo roll as emergency stopgap and hopefully has learnt to carry around her own tampons in future.

I have extremely irregular periods. I will always make sure I have at least one tampon in my bag. If for some reason I have forgotten and I am at a friend's house, I will ask them if they have any. If I'm not at a place where I feel comfortable to ask, it'll be a toilet paper in the knickers job until I get home/can buy some. What an odd thing to automatically expect of people.

PMSL at this OP and by the way when I went through your cupboard I couldn't find the guest tena lady pads. .

I think if I came on my period as a teenager (wasn't that log ago!) randomly in one of my mums friends bathroom, I'd have a rummage through the draws/ cupboard and still would now if caught short.. then go for the toilet roll and hope for the best.. I'd maybe mention to my mum, but along the lines of 'argh! I forgot my tampons/ whatever' not 'where the hell was the guest sanpro?!'

op, are you thereeeee?

YANBU: clearly odd and very embarrassing for her DD.
We have stuff in every cupboard in every loo as we have 3 teen Dds and another one (possibly two) on the cusp but definitely not there as 'guest stuff': just in case the girls are caught short.
Invite them back, and on arrival bring out a decorated basket, with a flourish, containing a selection of sanpro, a packet of tissues, some pile cream and a selection of condoms in assorted flavours and sizes in case anyone fancies a quickie while they are visiting?

Incredible.

Well that's a new one! Whilst shopping ladies, don't forget the guest condoms, femidoms, toothbrushes, ear buds, breath freshner, unisex deodorant and my personal favourite, guest nipple and cock rings together with furry handcuffs. Place in basket inside your water closet with te latest Top Gear, Vogue and Beano comic.

Oi, CSIJanner, your forgot latest editions of 'Penthouse', 'Knave' and 'Men Only', for gentleman guest who visit your loo for - er - 'relief'.

OldGrandmama - (slaps head!) How rubbish am I? I even left out nipple clamps and moisturiser

I'm still laughing at Strawberry Creams. Tickled me all day that has.

what a cheek.

I would only ask in an emergency and be quite embarassed. I always have a supply in my handbag.

introduce her to the mooncup, she'll never need to rifle around the guest tampon selection ever again.

Hey and besides what's wrong with toilet paper, it padded out many a bra in my yoof.

Beanynamechange, I would imagine she tried rummaging. Maybe her clothes got stained (because TP has its limitations) and her mother can't believe in this day and age any sensible mother of teen girls wouldn't keep a supply in a bathroom.

It's possible her mother thinks there is nothing to be gained from women not helping each other out, and might be surprised at all the hooting at the idea that there shouldn't be an 'every woman and young teenage girl for herself' attitude. It's possible she would be nonplussed at the idea that this will teach her DD some sort of lesson about the limitations of counting on other women, and that this is a good thing.

Fideline:
'Maybe she didn't think it was imminent?
I used to have unexpected zero to flooding in about half an hour as a teen.
The mother is an undisputed weirdo but I am baffled that the teen daughter is getting so much criticisim.'

Yes indeed.

So much for sisterhood.

She was being entirely unreasonable. What did she expect very few people have such a thing though if I've been caught out I've normally found that my hostess is able to assist.

For some reason my mum always kept them though and so do I but we're the only people I've ever actually known who do! I possess a multi pack of tampons which include regular, lite and heavy plus some medium flow pads and keep them in a drawer in the bathroom. Every now and then I'm asked for them and every now and then one is clearly used but its taking a long long time to get through them. Perhaps I need a sign on the drawer - "Lady guests please help yourselves, all flows provided for"

Corus Corus Corus you've talked yourself into this.

How much hassle is one pack of sanitary towels of an average type and absorbency somewhere handy in households with regular female visitor of menstruating age?

exMIL for all her faults always had a box of reg or super tampons in all seven of the bathrooms in her home.

downstairs bathroom

Here, where the (apparently) poor people live, we have one toilet.

Seven bathrooms...

Oh, and fossicking through other people's cupboards is very rude.

I don't keep any in the bathroom or upstairs loo. kept in bedroom as do my dds. There may be odd tampon in bathroom cabinet.

to me it is private and I have ds around. I know we are supposed to be more open about menstruation but each to their own

Nevertheless anyone who visits is welcome to the sanitary products I happen to have available, but they're unlikely to be exactly what suits

There you go - you're already doing it

It would never occur to me to provide guest tampons! Nor would I expect it. But I've rummaged in friends' bathrooms when caught by surprise on occasion, and would definitely be too embarrassed to ask, so wouldn't be surprised if a teenage girl felt embarrassed. Poor thing would probably be mortified that her mum sent a text like that though letting people know what had happened!

alemci you want to turn out adult DSs who don't blush at the sight of a tampon though?

(Ideally DSs who will go on matter of fact tampon/canestan/nipple cream runs for their future partners in an emergency)