AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

Don't ever invite her back with her partner - they might have a quickie in the bathroom and blame you for failing to provide complimentary condoms!

My mind is boggling at just where this girl has been visiting that she expects sanpro to be provided? Does she never carry it (like the queen and money - i can't imagine her with a bag of lilets either tbh) because it is always expected to be out in every bathroom? Does she not have a preferred 'brand' like people who smoke their own fags? What if she goes to public loo?

Weirdest text ever? I can only imagine how dull and serious she is as a person because she's an absolute maniac to write something like this. I concur with the others - get rid.

Please OP come back and give us an update - did you reply to the text and if you did, what did you say??

We need to know!!!!!

#sanprowithdrawalsymptoms (or maybe that's actually a condition, who knows)

GotAnotherQuestion Omg, what if you're right?! Ten quid says the OP is back here sometime next year going "AIBU, I failed to provide guest condoms and am now being billed for child support...".

Sorry if this has been said but cba to rtwt, is it possible that the text was mocking what her daughter had said and a hmmm-style emoticon was missing off the end? It just seems such an outrageous thing to send otherwise, especially going into detail about the toilet paper!

Quite frankly I'm surprised you don't have a small hand-turned wooden bowl of sanitary-ware in your guest toilet, along with a basket of artisanal slippers.

Doesn't everybody these days?

'who hasn't gone somewhere with a wad of loo roll as a substitute being caught off guard when you started unexpectedly. Its hardly the end of the world. How old is the dd btw? She might be an older teen if she is using tampons and not towels, so not a newbie to having periods then..'

Murphys -- how do you know that this girl's periods start out light and that a wad of tp would do the job for 2.5 hours?
My heaviest day is always day 1, always has been. No wad of tp or rolled up tube sock would do the trick, and on top of that I have always been a bit irregular with no warning of incipient disaster. Yes I always kept a pad and a tampon or two in my bag, but they always sank to the bottom and frequently got shredded, even in a little carrying case. And some teens do use tampons right from the start especially if they swim/dive/play water polo.

I don't know why we are equating tampons and pads with condoms here. Men and boys have a choice as to whether they will need a condom, whereas women and girls do not always get to choose to have their period start while out and about.

Comedy potential aside, I don't understand why so many assume this parent and her DD thought there should be some fancy basket in the bathroom either. It's possible they used the term 'guest tampons' to indicate 'tampons available for use by people who might need them' and didn't want to imply they were willing if the need arose to steal/use the OP's or rummage through the OP's medicine cabinet or other possible tampon storage locations looking for one.

'For those of you who are an advocate of the guest sanpro -
Should single blokes who don't have dd provide the same?'
Yes.
Do they have female guests over occasionally? Do they provide hand towels and soap and toilet paper?
Do they try to make their guests comfortable?

'For me, making people comfortable in my home means amongst other things knowing that if they go to the loo they will be comfortable and find what they just might need on the off chance' [DesertRose1958]
This is the polite way to deal with the fact that you might have guests and your guests might need sanpro. Single blokes should take note.

God I have everything in the cupboards in mine.

I can understand the girl not necessarily being prepared.

But I've never known a private home having a supply of guest tampons etc out for people to use. Some of us keep our boxes of supplies out openly and I don't mind people helping themselves. But otherwise, why on earth didn't she ask? That's what women do.

(and toilet paper in the pants isn't embarrassing, just a bit uncomfortable. I'm so disorganised I still do this a couple of times a year when I'm taken by surprise).

On a related note -

went to a tea room loo last month.

It had three shelves with three baskets.

Shelf one - labelled 'for the little'uns' there was a basket of nappies, wipes and cream.

Shelf two - labelled 'for the ladies' there was a basket of towels and tampons.

Shelf three - labelled 'for the gentlemen' - there was a basket with a solitary Mens' deodorant body spray. Made me laugh - they obviously didn't want to leave the chaps out but were stumped for ideas. That or they have a smelly male clientele.

I never have tampons in the house. I'm a weirdo, deformed freak who can't use them without a lot of pain. I have sanitary towels which I'd be happy to give someone some if they asked but I need my house to be tidy so they're in a drawer which also helps avoid dd2 unwrapping them and sticking them in random places.

Where do you draw the line at providing for guests though? There has to be give and take on both sides. I'm not prepared to have every type of toiletry just in case.

I can't imagine a single 60 year old bloke (my uncle) having the faintest idea of where to even start buying sanpro, he would be standing in the supermarket staring at the selection for days if told he had to provide a guest basket!

Stock his WC by stealth slithy, that'll confuse him.

Dying to hear an update OP!
You have to send her a goady response.

Good idea Fid

Em, no. I don't buy special guest sanpro and I keep my own in our ensuite. I've never been anywhere they have guest sanpro either, I would either ask or just use a wad of toilet roll if caught short. I wouldn't go rootling round in someone's bathroom cabinet either!!

Badtime i am indeed v old and couldnt remember what generation we are on now !!

Thankfully I am long past the need for tampons etc, but if I was going to provide them for guests - what sort?

Every size tampon? Those with and without applicators? Pads with and without wings? Should I have maternity strength just in case?

I always, always carried my own. I have a little make-up bag that used to have tampons, but still has plasters, paracetamol, piriton and various other small necessities.

Always prepared, that's me.

I have a drawer full of tampons and pads but they are not for guests, they are for me. If a guest wants some then they can have a look or ask.

I have sanpro for myself.
It is kept in the big cupboard in the bathroom.

Most of my friends & family (the females anyway) know where it is if necessary & I'm happy to direct anyone to it if asked.
If they don't ask, then that is their problem and not mine.

If the daughter thought her period was imminent, why not carry tampons in her bag? Why couldn't the mother?

I wonder if maybe something happened, like the loo roll leaked through, and the mother wanted someone to blame? But you really should send her the link to this thread so she knows ho odd she is!

Maybe she didn't think it was imminent?

I used to have unexpected zero to flooding in about half an hour as a teen.

The mother is an undisputed weirdo but I am baffled that the teen daughter is getting so much criticisim.

nannyogg, you need a pretty, basket, quilted with lovely Kath Kitson fabric, a big red bow on the handle and inside, a sort of 'pick 'n mix' selection of sanpro - all makes and types - Lilets, Tampax, Mooncups, Kotex, Always etc. etc. Artistically included should be painkillers in all strengths, from low dose aspirin right up to syringes of morphine. A beautifully lettered little notice by the basket (I favour Bernhard Modern Roman), its border decorated with whimsical roses and forgetmenots, should read: If on the rag you find you're caught/please through this lovely basket sort/'tis better to be safe and sure/don't want you dripping on my floor.

(Sorry - that is really bad taste ... )

I have stayed in some very fancy hotels and none have had sanpro alongside the teeny bottles of body lotion and shampoo.