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DH, iTunes and "erotica"

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iFurious · 27/05/2014 15:28

Name changing regular because I'm embarrassed, although I'm not the one who should be feeling the shame.

DH left on a business trip at the weekend. This morning I woke up to a lovely email receipt, large as life on the (always open) general email address to which our family iTunes account is registered, on the family computer in the kitchen for a newly purchased audiobook entitled, "Do it! I want it in my ass!: A first anal sex erotica story."

WTF, I think, our iTunes account must have been hacked. Quick check of the iMac, my iPad and the kids' iPads (we all share the same account) reveals that this marvellous piece of literature has downloaded onto all our devices. Quick text to DH and I get this lovely reply, "Sorry, that was me. It was crap anyway!" Absolutely no recognition of the fact that I'm not remotely concerned that his wank fodder wasn't up to scratch but that the fuckwit thought it was ok to download this stuff onto the family account with no thought as to whether it would reach the kids' devices or what would happen if it did.

Our youngest is 8. WTF would he have thought if he'd listened to it? Our older kids have to take a device to school. The terms of the school's internet and electronic media policy would have meant suspension at the very least if the material had been seen by a teacher.
To top it all off, at dinner time, a little notification comes through that "Dirty Secrets and Filthy Fantasies" is now available for me to download in iBooks. Cue another frantic scrabble to make sure the kids don't end up with it on their devices.
AIBU? DH doesn't seem to get why I am so fucked off. It's not so much the material or spending money on something that was by his own admission pretty shite, it's the utter thoughtlessness of using our family account and leaving me to sort it all out.
He thinks I'm overreacting. I'd quite like to suggest that he reads a chapter of "I want it in my ass!" to the kids and see what they would have made of it had they opened the file inadvertently. He's not due home for a couple of days and clearly thinks this will be ok with a couple of "sorry" texts. What should I do?

OP posts:
Brummiegirl15 · 28/05/2014 16:03

I am bemused by the posters utterly horrified that OP's husband has downloaded this kind of stuff, especially someone saying "leave the bastard".

I have erotic novels stashed away, does that mean by DP should leave me????

The issue here is very much how stupid this guy has been to download it in to their devices - it's just not on. When you become a parent, you protect your children from this kind of thing.
So OP is absolutely right to be pissed off and give him a bollocking.

But the venom coming out because the op's husband dared to download a bit of kink is incredible.

LadyOfSomewhereElse · 28/05/2014 17:05

BrummieGirl15 I just read the whole thread and got a completely diffent impression - I read lots of posters being bemused that he downloaded 'erotica' that was accessible by his kids but very few people, if any, being bemused just by the 'erotica' itself. I also couldn't find a single vague suggestion of a LTB Confused (maybe I missed it ??)

I would be outraged if my DH was stupid enough to download crap like that onto a family itunes account. It's a really, really stupid thing to do.

AnyFucker · 28/05/2014 17:33

Yes, I thought girl15 had read a different thread too

Brummiegirl15 · 28/05/2014 18:47

I'm not saying he wasn't wrong in downloading to a family account - I'd be furious too. That is just stupid irresponsible behaviour.

But It just came across by some that he'd actually done it full stop - as in the material to read. That's how it came across to me

Although that said, his choice of reading matter... Well it doesn't float my boat!

TheBogQueen · 28/05/2014 18:52

"Her body said let's go. But her heart said Ulster Says No"

Grin
Alibabaandthe40nappies · 28/05/2014 19:02

I would be cross about the fact that it might come to school's attention, that would be all.

I remember reading my parent's The Joy of Sex and other 70's gems when I was 11/12, the material he's downloaded doesn't seem much different to that.

harriet247 · 28/05/2014 19:06

Really reckless and thoughtless!I would be livid.

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