to not want to go into work tuesday

[zobey]

Went on a works night out last night and from what i remember i spent the night in the pubs with just my director of the company and he kept feeling my bum and inviting me back to his hotel room. Im sure he kept buying me drinks all night too. How can i make things better at work. I didnt go back to his. I see him a good few times a day but all my work coleges i think know what was happening as he kept telling them to go away if they came over.

I know I'd be mortified if someone told me that whilst I had been drunk I'd been rubbing my boss's crotch!!

you seem to be learning a lot about the evening for others that you didn't remember. Who told you they were triple vodkas?

all these people filling you in on the details of the evening, what is their take on it? does your boss have form for this?

I wouldn't say anything other than random comments about how wasted you were and how you don't remember anything.

My supivsor told me that the big boss was telling her after id gone home that he was buying me tripples. He doesnt have form for it and she said that its very out of charcter for him to even buy a drink for someone let alone spend the full night talking to them only.

he doesn't have form for plying someone with drinks they didn't ask for?

I'm starting to wonder if you think he may have a bit of a soft spot for you and that his 'out of character behaviour' only proves that he clearly thinks there's something 'special' about you? seeing as you've passed comments twice now about how you had his undivided attention which is never bestowed upon any other woman

Thats what she said. Im going to have a quite word withhim on tuesday and find out what was going on and that it carnt happen again.

Good plan - and stay away from his crotch if you can help it

These sorts of guys are sort of harmless so long as keep your wits about you! Saves buying your own drinks too. If he likes spending all his time thinking he's cool, well, let him.

Um look are you sure she's on the level? That sounds more false than him!

Minnie im not sure i understand what you said then.

Unless you particularly want this to drag on, become an even bigger drama and end badly... Don't mention it on Tuesday. Unless you particularly want a relationship with a man who will buy you triples when you ask for singles...

Are you sure the woman (woman boss?) is telling you the truth?

Im not sure to be honest ive only been there 3 weeks so dont really know them all.

The extra shots isn't out of possibility. I'm afraid the rest of it that he never does this.... I'm afraid I'm finding that harder to believe?!

If another two people say it it's possible.

But she might have extra agendas if only she thinks it. I'm stil betting he's known for this.

If another two people say it it's possible.

But she might have extra agendas if only she thinks it. I'm stil betting he's known for this.

Duplication sorry

With nothing else to go on, trust gut.

Do not mention it on Tuesday. Go to work and get on with your job. It will just blow up the situation and become office gossip fodder for ages.

If he brings it up (but I'm betting he won't), simply say you were surprised how quickly single vodkas went to your head and that next time you better stay on the soft drinks.

I'd be taking a massive step back from them all if I were you and re assessing the lay of the land here.... something doesn't add up to me

Where what do you mean? Im confused.

Oh dear, what a nightmare for you. If nothing else, you've learned not to drink around work colleagues, especially when you are new.

OP, does he actually know you're married?

you say you don't really know them because its only been 3 weeks.

I don't believe your superviser when they say your boss doesn't usually ply people with drinks. A decent bloke just doesn't do that. It doesn't add up to me at all.

so there are now two people you don't know very well who I personally wouldn't trust.

so I would back off and get on with you job and steer clear of the lot of them until you understand the office politics better.