To ask why you stuck at two DC..

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Just a general wonder really... Though am suddenly for some bizarre fucking reason thinking I should have had one more.

Please make me feel better & reassure me I was right to have just 2-I have one of each btw at 2&4, this odd feeling will pass...right?

Just for the record, I don't want to do pregnancy & the 1st 12 months so I know it will pass lol

Same here, we'd always planned on having 2 because any more seemed difficult, expensive and we have limited space.

After the 2nd pregnancy & labour, an extra reason was that I just wasn't willing to go through it again.

I have 2 with dh and he had 1 already, so although I have 2 we have 3 between us. I wouldn't have liked 4 so we stopped.

I've never been broody so didn't have those feelings to deal with, lol. I'm 1 of 2 and 2 just feels right to me.

I had had what felt like years of babies and toddlers and needed a rest. Then when they get a bit older I couldn't bear the thought of going back to sleeplessness. Also (and this is obviously my opinion), wrangling 3 children with two adults doesn't look much fun. And I think I worry enough about two, and giving two what they need. Think I'd feel I was short-changing someone. Also, wanted to get my career back on track

Oh yes, wouldn't have wanted another birth

OP

Interesting that you mentioned dogs.

We were thinking about getting a dog a while back, but it occurred to me that it's a bit like having another child, and I don't want another child, so why would I want a dog?

Both DH and I are one of two, so I guess that's the default for us

I was lucky enough to get one of each, son first, so absolute perfection which I not improve upon

Loads of good points-can already feel the 'broodiness' wearing off

Am loving that this thread has created 2 others.

DH said no.
Required IVF for children we have.
Money/house/giving birth
My (unrelated) health issues.
But mainly DH saying he didn't want another child.

We can only get 2 in the campervan.

Me: I always wanted more than one child but less than 3.

Dh: Believes that for environmental reasons people should only have 2dc.

Luckily we both got what we wanted even if it was for entirely different reasons!

So sorry teacakes.

Also DH doesn't do sleepless nights and finds small DCs really stressful.

Two Hyperemesis Gravidarium pregs was enough. I'd rather chop my own hand off without anaesthetic than go through a third. Terrified of sex now (first son was born despite 2 forms of contraception).

Money, space and my older maternal age.

I am pregnant with second and this is it for me. I don't want to be practising crowd control - which I feel I would be doing with more than 2...

I'm nervous about having two!

Like Juniper, practicalities change once you have a third. 2 seems easier to deal with, one's even better.

I have DS (6.7) and CD (4.3) and have been desperate for a 3rd ever since DD was born but I'm 44 and it just isn't happening :( I don't feel I've finished my family yet possibly partly due to DD having several birth defects which required multiple surgeries before she was 2 and I felt a bit robbed of her precious first 2 years as we spent so much time in hospital.
The feeling isn't going away but realistically I think I'm going to have to try and move on from it somehow!

DD not CD!!

I have DS (6.7) and CD (4.3) and have been desperate for a 3rd ever since DD was born but I'm 44 and it just isn't happening :( I don't feel I've finished my family yet possibly partly due to DD having several birth defects which required multiple surgeries before she was 2 and I felt a bit robbed of her precious first 2 years as we spent so much time in hospital.
The feeling isn't going away but realistically I think I'm going to have to try and move on from it somehow!

I wanted three but i had bad births with both our boys/ Both were emergency sections and I lost a lot of blood. The consultant came to see me the day after the second and advised us not to have any more. I might have taken it up further, my husband was happy with two but might have been persuaded to talk about it, but by the time I felt up to thinking about it, my sister was struggling with infertility and I didn't want to upset her. By the time she had children of her own ours were 7 and 5 and i felt that the time had passed. It definitely has now. But it is a regret. I think I should have had a red haired girl to go with our 2 boys! We are happy though. The boys are the best of friends and money and holidays and juggling interests is easy. I'd say if you are thinking about it, don't put it off...

tunnocksteacake so sorry.

Sorry tunocks

Really Hogwash? Perhaps the thread about 3 is more for you-though it's failed to convince me I haven't done the right thing sticking with our decision tbh...