To ask why you stuck at two DC..

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Just a general wonder really... Though am suddenly for some bizarre fucking reason thinking I should have had one more.

Please make me feel better & reassure me I was right to have just 2-I have one of each btw at 2&4, this odd feeling will pass...right?

Just for the record, I don't want to do pregnancy & the 1st 12 months so I know it will pass lol

ithaka & a thanks for the reality check-I do appreciate what I have.

Rcurrent miscarriages before DC2, still can't quite believe we have her, terrified of pregnancy!

Health reasons and a break up. Not that it was even on the cards before anyway.

I often feel broody or slightly sad that I might never have another but right now the combination of 2 young children, fibromyalgia and a full time degree is most days too much so I neither have the time, the energy or the physical capability for a third (And plus, I believe you have to have sex to get pregnant? I've almost forgotten what that is )

But if circumstances change then who knows

If we'd stuck at two we would have at more time to give to them individually. We're lucky as we both have good careers - but with four children I feel they probably suffer a little bit. Not that I would be without them for a second - but I can see why two is better for them.

DH didn't want any more. Youngest is now 5, I'm nearly 40 & still broody as hell .

Dd was a wonderful baby but horrific toddler, while Ds was a horrific baby but lovely toddler. I knew the 3rd would be horrific all round.

Plus despite a lack of contraception, I never seemed to fall pregnant.

I am significantly younger than my two brothers, they were always close, and I always felt like an only child.

We have a 3 bed house, and a five seat car, more children would mean that we would have to change those.

My DDs adore each other, and a third child would alter the balance, and I don't want that. I would like a dog though when DD2 starts school in September.

I have 2 hands, 2 knees and 2 arms just right for 2 ds (2 & 5m ). 2 just seems right for us.

My cut off date i gave myself was 35. Im now 38 so no more babies for me

Sometimes i think if only...but my partner (not my boys dad) says hes happy with my two boys and doesnt need to father his 'own'.

Sometimes though i ache for a baby in my arms again....

Severe hyperemisis and nausea throughout both pregnancies means we are stopping once number two arrives in a few weeks. I physically can't manage another pregnancy.

Well I stuck at one because I had two miscarriages, one before ds and one after him, them found out a few months later I was in full menopause so no more children for me.

It took me ten years to accept I wouldn't have any more and be at peace with it.

Terrible nausea and vomiting in pregnancy. I was signed off work for ages this time and couldn't look after my toddler properly - I would be reluctant to put myself, my children and my colleagues through that again.

Also, we just found out our second baby is a carrier of cystic fibrosis and we need to be referred to genetic counselling to find out if the faulty gene is from one or both of us, so the outcome of that will affect any future broodiness.

Then we'd also have to move house, it would be hard financially etc. I feel sad to think the special, miraculous privilege of pregnancy and a newborn will probably never be mine again, but also I feel relieved not to go through the bad bits again and I think it's the right decision. Am just making the most of my baby now!

Five miscarriages

After dc1 was born, I knew I wanted another. For health reasons we waited a while before trying again and in that time I would sometimes get panicky that we had waited to long/ it wouldn't happen for us again. When dc2 arrived, I felt content and the sense that our family is complete :)

Also, all the practical reasons everyone has mentioned, Finances, space, still being able to give them one to one in relation to activities etc

You could adopt a third. That's what we did and he's lovely.

2 awful pregnancies.

Very bad birth with DS2 followed by a potentially life-threatening complication - still dealing with that atm but it made me realise how important I am for my boys and how much I dont want to leave them.

Financially 3 would hugely impact us as we'd have to move and Id need to change jobs and work less.

I also get weekly migraines which is very difficult with children!

We have one of each, 18 months apart.

I found the first two years with each unbelievably tough.

My BF has just had her second with a 5-year gap, and it is is reminding me utterly, totally and beyond all doubt why we won't be having any more.

Only ever intended to have two, got rid of all the baby stuff without a backward glance after DC2 which told me all I needed to know really. They're 10 and 8 now and I've never felt broody again.

After DC2 I got a dog...now I only get broody for puppies!

I didn't stop at 2 dogs!

I'm another poster who is one of three and for that reason I'm happy to stick at two!

I have one of each and the only thing that makes me feel a bit sad is the thought of not having a newborn again as I just adore tiny babies.

When DS2 was born I just had this overwhelming feeling that our little family was now complete. The boys are really close to each other and to introduce another one now when DS2 is 5 would totally upset the dynamic for everyone , including the new baby. I was one of 3 growing up, the only girl, and I found it very lonely. When there's 3 one always gets left out I think.

Plus other reasons, mostly financial, we're fairly comfy now after years of shelling out huge chunks of money on childcare and the thought of going back to that makes me shudder.

Oh and also DH has made it quite clear that if I wanted another child I'd have to find an alternative sperm source!

We have Dd 5 and Ds whose 16 months. There's a few reasons but mainly because I feel Im completely done with the whole ttc, pregnancy, labour stage. Had few mcs before having Ds which has put me off. Money, we're comfortable and want to stay that way. Time, I don't want to give up any time with the two wonderful little beings we already have or Dh for that matter! Dh had a vasectomy two weeks before our wedding last year when Ds was 7 months old. Got a few friends who are just having their first dc and we're so glad to be done with it!

No3 just didn't happen. At 44 I'm starting to accept that it probably never will. Starting to think about fostering or adoption but dh isn't keen.